Should I feel bothered?

@maria1081 (1252)
Philippines
January 7, 2010 1:51pm CST
I'm really bothered with the attitude of my used to be friend. Why can't he let go of the feelings he have for me? and now I'm guilty. I should have not entertain him before only if I knew that I ended up hurting him. Hurting him is the last thing I wish for, but I'm only being true because I can't love him back. Since my last break-up I could no longer love someone again. That had been a year ago, though I moved on still I can't afford to be hurt again.
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@shuyin101 (206)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
If you can't love him because you don't love him then don't feel bothered at all. You are just trying to be yourself and if you force yourself to love him even if you feel otherwise, you would be hurting yourself. But if the reason that you can't love is because you are just afraid to get hurt then you should be bothered. I mean BIG TIME. It's not like he will hurt you and that is his intentions of loving you. You mistake loving for hurting. You should try to forget your ex since he is a bad guy and you are basing all your decisions in love to what he did to you.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
Thanks. What you said was true, I only think of getting hurt thats why I dont see the point of being inlove again.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
10 Jan 10
You must be flattered its not every day that somebody has a crush on you. So? That's his problem not yours. People like that only mean one thing. Immaturity. Do you want to have a boyfriend who is immature? Its your choice.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
10 Jan 10
No, I dont want to be a baby sitter for someone who's immature.
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
I guess it is normal to have that feeling. It is present in any human to become bothered and has conscience in her part. For me, what you did is proper by telling him what you really feel. I think he will admire you more for that attitude. Hurting him badly is not your intention. You are just human and can be driven by emotions. You know yourself that this is not the time to love someone new. Maybe, giving time and space to think over is better. After you have accepted things for you and ended with a realization. Then, If you are really meant for each other, let time prove it for both of you.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Thank you, I hope he will understand.
@enieweiz (98)
10 Jan 10
You know i understand you truly. i have been in the same situation before and i know exactly how you feel. i felt bad too when i hurt that guy. he became my boyfriend and i broke up with him after a few months or days. i can't love him back too. He was so hurt. I can't stand seeing him in pain because of what i did. I felt guilty. What i did was say sorry constantly to him, but even if he say he forgives me i can still see he can't. It took some time before things got better. we became friends. I didn't see for quite some time because it's the only way i know i could help him. time did heal his heart.
• United States
9 Jan 10
You shouldn't feel bothered. There have beem tmes that a guy had loved me and there was no love from me to give back to him. It's weird how you think that you will love them, but they are not really what you think of them.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
8 Jan 10
I know how you feel. I have been hurt several times by men in my past. I have a hard time trusting men also but i am now married. It is hard to traust and fall in love again when you get nothing but hurt before.
• United States
7 Jan 10
You've to tell him the truth and be honest, Truth must be told even if it'll hurt (My Opinion)
@dawnald (84152)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Jan 10
The only way to let go, so I'm told, is to stop all contact. If he is still in touch with you, you has an addiction or an obsession, and any contact at all is feeding the addiction.