Hwo to know if you friends are using you?

well, most friends are users,lol. but that's what friends are, you scratch their back but they must scratch yours too. Its a give and take relationship, but if they are just taking and not giving, then your friend is just using you. they dont deserve to called friend.

Currently I am in a situation where I offered help to someone and now that person is dictating how, when and what I need to do for them. On top of that, when the outcome is not what they wanted, I am told that I am not helping or not doing enough. What am I doing in this respect? I am slowly and as gently as possible stopping the help. Doing less for the person and in a sense forcing them to do more for themself. It is a difficult road to travel and I know eventually we will part ways. Sometimes the best help is no help.

yes i have...well i have to think in a positive way, maybe my friend really need my help, not just to take some advantage, nut if it is too often, i just leave him/her..

Well it is true that some people use you, as a friend. Some mock you and some never think of you as a human. But how to handle them , depends on what kind of a person you are. If you really need their friendship, deal them with love. If you dont need them anymore, deal them as an animal, because that is what they think you are.

Hi, Actually I do not know how my friends takes advantage of me. I will help them a lot. I never thinked like this. But my husband says like they are using you. To be frank, I m not able to differentiate. Wat ever its, they are still our friends. So, I dont mind helping them.

Yah, I had a friend like that before. At first we were good together but at last it feels like she's taking me for granted. I told her about it and she got angry with me. Well I've realize that she's not worth it. I don't need her anyway, that's why I let her go!

I have had many that have done that to me. Its no fun and I refused to stand up for myself. When I finally had had enough I confronted them about it and told them I wouldn't do it anymore. They didn't change so I went in search of better friends and I found two girls that I feel will be a part of my life even when I graduate and possibly move away. We are very close - one from college and one from work. They even get along which is great. Im no longer the one being used and I wont let it happen again.

Learn to say 'NO' sometimes...this usually weeds out your real friends that may just be a bit more outgoing, from the people that are really just using you. Your real friends will understand that no is not a rejection, just a setting of limits and boundries...while the users will go in search of easier targets. Best wishes and have a great weekend!