Do you guys think long-distance relationships work?

France
January 13, 2010 11:59am CST
Hi guys! Just want your opinion on long distance relationships. Both me and my boyfriend live in France, but we're 5 hours away from each other. I'm in Paris and my boyfriend is in Pau, in the south of France. We only see each other once in 2 months because we're both students and it's hard when there are many exams,etc.. We call each other everyday for an hour, but at times I wonder if it would really work out. I love him, and just wish that our student life would soon be over so that we can be with each other
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@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Jan 10
I think that because you DO meet every few months, makes it easier to maintain, but usually most of the long distance relationships are not successful. I have read somewhere that the long distance relationships important point is the 6th month. if i lasted more than 6 months, it most likely to succeed. (: Good luck with your relationship!
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• United States
13 Jan 10
I think that long distance relationships can work...they are just a challenge. You have to really put forth some effort to keep from having misunderstandings and be real trusting and patient. I am in one now...he lives 2 hrs from me and I am not able to see him very often due to financial reasons. On the days we talk on the phone and chat online, I feel good about it but sometimes it feels like I am the one doing all the work and that is frustrating. I guess time will tell on that one. Just do all you can to keep the sparks alive...it is much better if you are at least in the same country, which you are, so that is good. Best wishes to you!
• India
14 Jan 10
in my opinion the long distance relationships are just a waste of time.. both partners are not able to meet each other, just chatting on phone net.. it doesnt work for true love it would just be called as a time paas...
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
Being in a LDR doesn't mean you don't see each other. You can see each other from time-to-time. It's not a waste of time. TRUE LOVE can be tested by long distance. Of course, if you're in a serious relationship, you won't be long distance forever. In the end, there will be a time when you two will be with each other permanently.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
My girlfriend and I have been long distance since day 1, and we've been together for 2 years. We're in two different continents, with the Pacific Ocean between us. Lol. Anyway.. It depends upon the persons to make it work. Of course, like any normal relationship, you need trust and faith. AND LOVE. Distance is not a problem if you really have genuine love for each other. Just see to it that you make efforts to keep in touch and see each other. It's hard, but it can work. :) Goodluck!
@soulist (2986)
• United States
1 Feb 10
5 hours isnt that bad, my boyfriend and I are 10 hours away. I honestly think if both parties is willing to work on it the it will work.
@chiyosan (30197)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
i will not think that being 5 hours away should hinder you both from seeing each other every weekends! it seems to me that you both are making excuses! i mean, im sure you are busy with your studies, but we have weekends! you sure can find time to go visit each other on weekends... and that is possible, of course if you find time and make efforts in doing so.
@lbbaby (489)
• China
23 Jan 10
Surely I think so. If the two people are really in love with each other, they don't think it's the matter. Although it's very hard for both of them, they would find time to meet. I understand there are many other temptation in the world. If he or she leaves you easily, then I would think that you should find another one.
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 10
It depends..my sister shows me that long-distance relationship can work (before she got married). She and her husband are actually childhood friends, they started dating when they were in junior high school, but after that, my sister studied in Jakarta, her BF (before being her hubby, of course) went to study in the USA. Then, they studied together in Australia, but again different cities. My sister was in Sydney, her Bf was in Melbourne. they have on and off relationship for some years, and after his dad passed away, they got married, and now they have 11-year old son and my sister has been married for 12 years! They are happy family. My sister is a little bit talkative while her hubby is a bit quiet, even though he likes joking LOL. My BF is is Riau,he works as government employee. Actually, when he left Jakarta in 2005, we decided to separate. but we still keep in touch and we still care for each other. hopefully, we can get married soon as before we separated, we had been together for almost 7 years! Now he is already settled, and he asks me whether i am ready to move to a small town. I answer"No problem. If it has to happen, just let it happen". My parents started to agree to our relationship, but they are still worry if i have to move..
@dhysanne (451)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Yes they do! It is just a matter of love and trust with each other. For the two of you who are still students, just focus first with your studies. Make your love an inspiration so you can work hard on studying and soon as you finish school, you'll be proud that you have worked hard on it. Lucky for you that you can still see each other once in two months, others make it years to see each other again. If you really love each other, and value your education, you will pass these trials you have. Just have a good communication and everything's going to be okay.
@thewayis (648)
• Bulgaria
14 Jan 10
I am sorry, but I don't believe in long distance realtionships. To me it is just a torture seeing your beloved once in a couple of months. If there is a chnace for you to be together after a year or two, than you can continue like this; just hold on for a certain time. But if you have different goals in life - for example, if you want to stay in Paris and he is not coming after he graduates it is better to break up. It will happen eventually but you are both not willing to admit it. I wish you best of luck trying to keep this relationship. You will need it
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
14 Jan 10
A long-distance relationship can serve to make a relationship stronger as long as you truly love each other. Yesterday on a game show I saw a couple. He had been away at college for the past 4 years, and she was in the audience cheering him on, their relationship obviously just as strong as ever. If they can do it, you can do it. It just isn't very comfortable while you're apart, but it will make you appreciate being together again when the time comes.
@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
i've known a lot of people who have long-distance relationships that really worked. longer than the distance you and your boyfriend have. one of my friends had a bf in another country, they are living happily together now. they had the internet and they chat all the time. It will work, if you two are meant to be together and you are willing to work it out, then it will be.
@nitu1952 (286)
• India
14 Jan 10
ya that's really woks. it does not matter that two lives in the same city in same sectors. one must have a faith on our partner for maintaing the relationship over a long period of time. relationships can be maintained within the long distance. i think long distance relationships really works.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
It works for some, If both of you will put equal effort, it will surely work. But long distance did not work on me, my three years relationship with my ex-bf has fade,just a few months after i left the country. He didn't trust me, full of doubts..so we both agree to end the relationship. Just trust each other, and move away from temptations.Good luck.
@Canteen (593)
• China
14 Jan 10
yes, it works. i met my boyfriend when i was sophomore. from the ever begining, our relationship is long-distance. i'm a student, and he's a worker lived in another city far far away from mine. though it's 2 hours distance by plane, we only met each other twice or three times every year. coz the ticket is sooo expensive. at first, we talk on the phone everyday, gradually we only chat online. we both think it's a miracle this long-distance love lasted for 2 years. maybe that's because when i was on vacation, like summer vacation, i'd go to his city and spend the vacation with him. now i'm about to graduate, finally we're together. sure your love can conquer the long distance too.
@tangurama (206)
• Canada
14 Jan 10
Depending on how committed you are, I think one can make it work. It just requires time and effort. If you truly love that person and if you have faith, then it should be no problem. It's all about trust and strength. If you have both these elements than nothing can get in your way.
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
14 Jan 10
Even I had started this discussion a long time back and even responded to many such similar discussions and my point of view on long distance relationships still remain the same. I have had one long distance relationship during my college days, but unfortunately it didnt work out. Infact, we could never get to meet anytime. Anyway, lets not discuss what happened with my affair, but my opinion about long distance relationship is that, there is no harm in having such a relationship, but it should not remain a long distance for a long period of time. In your case, it is good that you meet atleast once in every 2 months. And My advice would be to reduce that time. Its only a 5 hours journey. You can easily make it to once in a week or atleast once in 2 weeks. Talking in phone is okay. But seeing the other person also becomes important at times. Anyway, not everyone is lucky in love and neither everyone has the same experience. so all the best for ur relationship.
• United States
14 Jan 10
They can work but eventually, one of you has to close the gap or you are little more than glorified pen pals. It takes a lot of hard work, trust, and emotional strength. My ex and I made ours work for 8 months....and even in the end it wasn't the distance that brought it to a close. It was his lack of emotional strength. *shrug*
• India
14 Jan 10
Yes, that works but distance should not be that long where your lover forget you because of the long distance realtion. It is being said that - its necessary sometimes to be away with love to boost your love. At the same time importance of relationship being away should be felt and maintained, in either case it might go against you.
• China
14 Jan 10
hello.i think long-distance relationshios can work.for you two love each other deeply. my boyfriend and i used to long-distance relationships in our college life.we will saw each other once every month.and two years later,we congurated. now we have fallen in love for almost 5 years.we married. so hope you two will insist and together forever.