“be on the same wave length”!!!How important is intellectual compatibility ?

i believe that me and my wife are both intellectual but in different fields. i am more intellectual with math and chemistry and intellectual also in politics or current events. on the other hand she is intellectual regarding home, taking care, intellectual with food and health. we dont over power each other. if she does not know something about a certain matter she ask me and if i dont know anything about the field that she ahs knowledge then i ask her. though we are both musician we sometimes over power each other luckily i am playing guitar/bass guitar and she is a singer so we still dont over power that much. it is true that when couples are both intelligent it might cause breaking, but sometimes when one is dumb too the marriage will break as well. it all depends on how you work together as a couple. you need to accept even the tiniest inperfection

Hey icesmle! I do so love your avatar! It is so lovely, yet mysterious and intelligent, as are you my dear friend~ I think that two people don't need to be of the same intelligence to be compatibile! And a perfect example is me and my boyfriend! We are so not on the same wave length almost ever! I am much more intelligent than he is by far, BUT, I don't throw that in his face, or at least I hardly ever do!lol He is not anywhere in my league when it comes to intelligence and I think he knows that. He won't go near a computer no matter how hard I try to get him there! I have begged, pleaded, but he is afraid that he won't be able to "learn"~ I would never make fun of him because I really want him to learn! It sometime is too much of a challenge to make someone more intelligent. Sometimes you just have to let them be what they are and just love them that way, I know that I do~

For my husband and I it is extremely importnt. We wanted to make sure that we were on the same page intellectually, and we made sure of that before we got married. He had been married before to nice ladies but he didn't get along with them, and they dind't get along with im. So by the time he married me (his 4th) he wanted to make sure we were on the same wavelength. I wanted to make sure because this was my first marriage, and I was not interested in it getting screwed up.

I think that being on the same wave length definitely makes a relationship much easier. I love that I can have deep conversations with my girlfriend and that we can both teach each other things. I love hearing all the information that she has to share with me because she reads about a lot of really cool stuff and so do I so I just hope that she's as entertained by what I know as I am to her.

I'm living breathing proof that opposites attract and that intelligence really doesn't matter. I've been with my girlfriend for five beautiful years and we get along just fine. She's a worrisome girl who puts a lot of work on herself. I'm a carefree guy who likes to take pictures and can't do any kind of schoolwork worth a damn unless I'm on medication. I let things roll off, things can hit her bad sometimes. I don't believe you have to be just as intelligent as your partner as long as you can talk to them, share, and all that stuff. Opposites do attract. Everyone will have their similarities, I assure you. Whether they're already there or they rub off from being with each other, they'll be there. But being different is also great for a relationship. You can share your different views and discuss things in depth with passion. Or one can go play video games while the other one works. Either way, as long as you're talking with each other, doesn't really matter who's smarter.