Is your heart abused or unused?

@zandi458 (27948)
Malaysia
January 16, 2010 4:39am CST
Heart is not only a vital organ in our body that pumps blood and nutrients to all tissues of the body but it is the storehouse of our emotions. They are people who have big hearts and they abuse their hearts by giving them away freely in love and they magnetize all faint hearted ladies without much efforts. They are highly charged and find no meaning in one true love to treasure. Every jane and mary are the loves of their life. Without realizing that the untold love stories they created will eventually lead them to untold damages in the end. They abuse this god gifted heart to share their love to many ladies without feeling the guilt of driving them crazy. The heart as most know are the most sensitive part of women. It is not wrong to love our family and friends but to have many lovers is only betraying the ladies love and trust, who think that she is the apple of his eyes. Unfortunately women fall easily for the honey coated tongues of the don juans who always make every women special. I wonder why are some people so full of love and easily catches the eyes and hearts of the ladies while some can't even open up their hearts to love?
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@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
16 Jan 10
I pondered for a long time before deciding to write on this discussion. How volatile a discussion while at the same time being very much a tender subject to broach. You speak here, sweet lady of people that possess so much love that it over flows into every heart they see. There are people that have hearts too big to know how to handle them. they reach out to many to try and fill a hole that seems to be bottomless. They proclaim their love to many and so it leaves them appearing as a player or stealer of hearts. Perhaps looking at this through a different way will show you new thoughts. I know a man who many many years ago was introduced to the world of Love and giving. So many years ago that this man would have been but a little boy. He was tossed from lady to lady or as the world sees them, petafile to petafile and taught the ways of love-making. He, just a boy, grew through life believing that to truly give to a woman, he had to give his all in love-making but could not ever give his whole heart to one because these woman would Never allow that. Told by each that he was truly loved, he grew up believing that giving his very best in love-making was giving his Love fully. He treasured every single woman he was with because at that young age, he didn;t know any better. As an adult, his heart still believed that every woman in the world deserves to be loved and to feel that they are Special. Every womn that he meets, he wants to give to them what a woman needs. That... is a love that is understanding, comapassionate, true and always, Always giving and complimentory. He tells each lady he holds that he loves he dearl and that she is beautful and special and He MEANS every single word that he speaks. He has grown up believing truly in his heart that there is not a woman in this world that does Not want to feel beautiful. That they want to feel as if they are the ONLY woman in the world to this mand and when he holds them, They ARE. Some of the women he has touched have stayed, knowing that he can Never give them All of himself. HE does not have that to give to anyone for he gave that to One woman a lifetime ago and she went to heaven taking that forever love with her. They stay because they know that he can not give his forever to them but what he does give to them is the feeling that they Are special, that they Are beautiful and that they deserve to be treated like a lady and to feel love making like they feel no where else in their world. Yes, sweet lady, there are men out there, as well as women, that simply take and then leave the lady standing, alone and lost and feeling used. They are players that care little if anything for the women that cause to fall in love with them. The hurt they leave in their wake is sad and wrong. But the one that truly does feel Love for the women... that when he says he loves them, he means it with all of his heart. The heart IS precious and it is real and the treatment of that heart inside should be always soft and tender. It is a vessel that is the gateway to a soul and should never be abused. Not every man has a story to tel as to why he isthe way he is. Some are just bad men hurting good ladies. But... there are those whose hearts were filled and molded long ago and that over flow with any control from the person that has such a heart. He may indeed be wrong in what he does. When a woman DOES shoose to leave him because of his ways, he cries. He cries from hie eyes and from his heart and from his very soul. An emptiness is created where that beautiul lady once stood and again, his soul feels empty. And he will love her for the rest of his life because it has always been this way. I am sorry for the women that falls for him and yet... I am glad inside my heart that if only for a time, she Knew and felt that she was the most precious diamond in the world to this man.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
I like reading your accounts of how a man came out to live and love many women in his life unscathed. It is indeed an eye opener to learn that love can be a plastic love and be dramatized to feel the intensity of a real love. It is no wonder many women out there are having their hearts broken into pieces when they realized it is all fake. Men love differently compared to women. Men feel as long as a woman is willing to be among his cobwebs of ladies, he will play along with the music. For him there is nothing to lose if one just fly away as hundreds of others will roll in. Maybe shedding some crocodile tears (if it ever happen) for a short moment but will soon be back to normalcy again. The mass production of 'love' is nothing new and have been abused in the cyber-world. It should not be taken to heart but be treated as an entertainment only.
• United States
17 Jan 10
I think thst you may have read this completely wrong. The man i spoke of did npt come out unscathed. he in fact came out of the abuse lost and unsure what love truly was. He was abused by more than 30 ladies over ther years of childhood and the only thing he brought with him was the knowledge of what a woman wants to feel and how to bring her to it. He does Not love with falsehood at all but in fact loves with All of his heart the lady that he is with. there is so much more and i am sorry my writing wasnt as it should have been to show that...
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
Maybe my mind is not responding well to what I read. I might have got you wrong here but the gist of your write is within my grasp. No women in their right thinking mind would want to be in competitive edge with other women in his keeping so once she found out that she is just a puppet on the string she will fly away fast. Loving many women without sincerity is only playing with emotions. He is not doing justice to the sanctity of love. For once, this man should be true to himself.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
16 Jan 10
Hi Zandi! You see having a sweet tongue and the ability to charm a woman is an art, which everybody cannot have. I also do not support betrayal and believe that one should be true to his soul mate. I think since ages men are considered polygamist and they just find it interesting to love more than one woman (I am not saying that it is morally correct). You see if a woman falls for above mentioned man, then both become party to it and the man cannot be solely held responsible........lol! We live in a society and we are supposed to abide by its rules, norms and traditions.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
The mystery of men has never been answered. They are born with the natural skill of hunting and women become their most hunted preys.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
18 Jan 10
I agree with you. For men, women are also mysterious.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 10
I suppose we need to find the hidden treasures in each other?
@shibham (17019)
• India
16 Jan 10
Right zandi, there are tons of playboy who use their heart along with speeches to hunt ladies. I dont know why those ladies jump to that trap of a player. Why they cant judge the reality? I am neither a playboy nor a lover even i was not able to prolongate my only one love. I have not flattering verses or honey dew speech. Thanks.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
Time to learn the hunting skill.
@shibham (17019)
• India
16 Jan 10
No, i have not such a desire. Sorry
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
So serious? Am just kidding.
@riyasam (16571)
• India
17 Jan 10
i am quitw wary of such persons who seem to be friendly out of the way but they usually have some ulterior motives,there are some exceptions,of course, where people are over friendly by nature.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
We should always be wary of people who portray overly friendly attitude towards us. Commonsense should always be applied when ever there are doubts.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 10
Hi Alice, your friendliness makes you a good friend to all. That is an asset not everyone has.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
16 Jan 10
Mine has been abused many times by family & don juans. If u figure out a man please let me know what u found out. I have been trying for 67 years to do that. lol.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
You must have come out a seasoned person after all the heartaches in your life. I am analyzing the behavioral pattern of these don juans. Will keep you informed of any findings.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I think u will find out they are all "horses patooties" but good luck. Have a good sunday, Zandi.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
16 Jan 10
Very good question. And there are many Don Juans out there ya just have to keep a sharp eye out so your heart wont be broken.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
It is not easy for me to be fooled in the cyberworld.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I was talking about the real world I never talk on cyber world!
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
21 Jan 10
I don’t know if these Don Juans have great big hearts or just the gift of the gab! They know what to do and how to say the right things to lure naïve women into their deceitful web. These types of guys are always going to be around I just wish women would stop giving them their phone numbers! The ones who betray do not open their hearts up at all and those who cannot is usually due to the fact that their heart has been used and abused too many times!
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 10
Can I say these don juans are gifted like any other gifts of nature. They have the gift of the tongue which can easily melt the ladies hearts with their mesmerizing words, they are really lady killers and ladies should not be trapped with these sweet talking casanova.
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@ebuscat (5947)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
For me is unused to love I don't know but it's my instinct part of me.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
why don't you use your heart to love someone?
@leeesa (885)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I don't associate the love with the heart, but with the brain. Someone once said that love IS an emotion because it can make you cry like crazy with either happiness or sadness. The fact of the matter is that it's the happiness or sadness that makes you cry, not love itself, so therefore, love is not an emotion. A man (or woman for that matter) who chooses to have many lovers is doing so in a calculated way. They know exactly what they are doing and know how to do it in a charming way. They may use the word love when they really mean desire, which are not always the same thing. As for someone who can't open up their heart to love, well every can love. In this case it's because they have chosen not to.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
Desire and love are two words that are world apart. When there is love for someone, it can stir the heart and send the blood rushing madly in all directions. This will in turn develop into some kind of want or desire. It is odd that you don't associate love with the heart. The mind and the heart are not always on 'friendly' terms as they don't agree to each other.
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
well, so far i have not yet succumb to men flattery, because i am the one who flatter them..eventually I am not to be taken seriously and have not meet one yet whom i could be feeling crazy. All are fling and their is not to much for me to worry as when i get so serious maybe it is then the time i could really feel what it mean to be crazy in love. My heart is healthy as of today and I do not feel being abuse at all and all of my vital organs are perfectly functioning so I would not let anyone enter into my life without sincerity.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
Interesting how you play with your words to flatter them. I won't worry that much as it is only words that I read on screen.
• United States
16 Jan 10
Some women are at fault here. They easily get taken by flattery. Some men don't have a heart and that is why they don't understand the meaning of love. That is how I see it. But many other things are responsible for such things. One is the zodiac sign. I know it looks like an odd factor since astrology is not a part of the mainstream society. But if we take a close look at it we will know why some people turn out to be players.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
Unfortunately men know the weak points of some women so they succumb to the flattery.
• India
1 Feb 10
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, If you ask me, my heart has never been abused, I hae used my haert whole-heartedly to my hubby only and never shared with anyone. Same thing goes with my hubby. He may like toroam around with some Ladies but, he will com eback to me only. I have blind faith in him. Whatever, you have described goes with un-satisfied hearts and souls. Such charcters should be taught good lesson from womenfolks. Why at all we have soft corner and les wisdom to judge them. We should stand on firm ground and never try and slip. There should be strict opinion about such characters. At irst hand, everyone shoud be doubted with. May God bless You and have a great time.