When is the right time time to get married?

France
January 16, 2010 1:15pm CST
I've been discussing about marriage for a very long time. But everytime he tries to avoid it, puffff typical male reaction. I know that deep in my heart that he's the one for me, but sadly it's not in his case. I'm saddened by this.. :(
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20 responses
• China
1 Apr 10
i don't know what your boyfriend thought, maybe you can try to sound out your boyfriend on the advise of breaking up, and observed his reaction, if he simply doesn't care, just let him go, looking for a brand-new start
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 10
why do you think he avoids this?maybe you should wait for the right time to ask him
@brymel25 (286)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
i think the right time to get married is when you and your partner are already financially stable. That way, you can assure one another that both of you will be able to give your kids a bright future. =)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
it seems your boyfriend have no plans of you and him get married. He don't want to move on with your relationship. Maybe you should try to ask him againn next time, and if the answer is the same, ask the reason. When you are of legal age, it depends on the couple when they want to get married, it depends if they are ready for marriage. When you decide to get married, there is no turning back, so you have to decide very seriously.
@lbbaby (489)
• China
18 Jan 10
Well, hi, I don't think there is so-called right time to get married. If two people feel good at each other, have common topics, get along well with each other and each others' parents and friends, they can get married. But I don't think it's the business of only two people but two families. A male friend told me that you have to get along with a boy at least three years then you can consider to get married with him. It's his own business and he just wants to give me a warning. I don't know but if I meet my Mr. Right, time is not a problem.
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
Hi Lilmuchang. There is no right time to get married - for me, it would depend on two factors - maturity level of your potential partner and financial capability (i.e. capability to support you and your future children). Take time to get to know your boyfriend first before deciding and do not lose hope. Goodluck.
@sender621 (14933)
• United States
17 Jan 10
There is only one right time to get married. You should only marry if you are truly in love with your intended. Marriage for any other reason will suffer in the end.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
17 Jan 10
hi,best is before thirty or less than that.if u r settled in your life then you can take a decision to make your family.Ofcourse the mind set of male or female we cant tell.it depends upon the situations each is.we cant judge anyone unless we are fully aware of that person.dont make the marriage to be too late.get married and be happy.
• India
17 Jan 10
For a guy, the time to get married is only when he is financially as well as spiritually strong. For a girl,when she is 18 but less than 30 years. This is because if the girl is less then 18 years then there will arise problems related to pregnancy. Such as abortion,prematurity of fetus are common. When above 35 then problems like chromosomal abnormalities,cleft lip,cleft palate,etc are common.
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
I think it is not about the age. You can get married at the right time which is when you can handle all the responsibilities and if you can sustain all the things you needed in life.
@andy77e (5161)
• United States
17 Jan 10
Are you living together now? If so, it's not likely he will marry you since he has no reason to. If you are not, then it seems clear he's not interested in you, and you should move on. The longer you dwell on someone who isn't interested, the more it will hurt when he undoubtedly will find someone he is interested in. Move on, enjoy life, do things you wouldn't be able to do married. Take hikes in other countries, visit far away places. Do do a missions trip, or help out in Haiti or something else amazing. When you do find that special someone, you'll have all these great memories of things you did, and then still have a family of your own, with children you can share all those neat things with.
@sublime03 (2169)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
I believe we can say it is the right time when both are ready to move on with their life in all aspects. I understand there are some things that can be looked upon later on but if you are emotionally, financially ready then why not. So, I can definitely say there is no exact right time for it but can only be depended on other things that are important.
• India
17 Jan 10
I think the day you find someone who is good fit or perfect fit for life partner go for it. It takes time to get the perfect match however sometimes we are confused whether its a real match and I should go with this relation. take your time do decide your life partner.You also need to consider some points such as your financial position and yes age as per your national law.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
Women must get married before their biological clock ticks away. Even though you think he is the right person for you but if he doesn't want a commitment then you should not force him. There are better choices out there who are marriage material.
17 Jan 10
Law put a set age on marriage where you have to be at least 18 to marry but there isn't a age when people are allow to fall in love so therefore you can really tell when to get marry. I saw go for it.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10422)
• United States
16 Jan 10
The right time is when both people are truly sure they are ready and meant to be together. Since he is not, and may never be, I would take a second look at whether or not this man truly IS the right one for you. If you are willing to wait or remain unmarried, content with things as they are, then stay. If not, as I said, reconsider. :)) Best wishes to you both, Karen
• Spain
16 Jan 10
There is no "perfect" time to get married, give it time, things happen for a reason, maybe he is not ready to a committed life, remember that getting married is not just living together take into consideration all the paper work involved. Talk to him and let him know how you feel, speak with your heart and ask him how he feels about the subject, then maybe discuss the pros and cons of getting married.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
16 Jan 10
How old are you two first of all? I think generally men are afraid of marriage while women embrace it. Most of the time, I noticed, the guys are a little older by the time they're ready. How long have you two been together would be the next question. I dated a guy for 2 1/2 years and although we talked about marriage and were both really on the same page with what our dreams and goals were as far as living arrangements and children, parenting styles and everything... but I'm glad that we didn't follow thru with anything b/c we weren't meant for each other... we found that out after 2 1/2 years. And then on the other hand, my husband and I only dated for 8 months before we got engaged, then 11 months later we got married. So you just never know!!! Have you had a serious conversation with him about possibly why he doesn't want to get married? Do you both have stable careers so there's no financial stress getting into it? Do you both dream of living in the same area? Agreeing on whether or not to have kids? Or when to have kids, how many? Are you two able to get past arguments or disagreements without any yelling or screaming or name calling? Being married is a wonderful fun thing - but it takes a lot of love, cooperation, trust, negotiating, sacrifices and just plain work if you're going to make it work. I think there's a lot to learn about each other and yourself before you shoudl take that step of marriage. Good luck tho girl! And also remember that if he's not ready to get married right now, you're not going to be able to pressure him into it. It'll just make things worse and you'll probably end up splitting. So you need to decide if that's something you really need right now, or if you're just happy to be together and stay content until he's ready to make that step? If not, then he just may not be the man for you.
@nautilus33 (1831)
16 Jan 10
HI, there! I think the right time to get married is when you grown enough and you are sure that this is the partner you wan to married for! You can wait 1 month or one year, or even 6 years, but you must be completely sure that this is the right person, because otherwise it can be a big mistake! Sometimes many people are pressured to get married because the woman is going to have a baby from her partner, and they parents forced them to get married.
• India
16 Jan 10
I don't think there is age to get married. Although law fixes a age for marriage. I think one should get married whenever he/she feels to. Because when you are uncomfortable with marriage you can not live happily. So when you get your loved one and feel now should start a married relationship with him/her, then go ahead with marriage.