i'm sad for her, what could be worse than this?

@victorywp (3526)
United States
January 19, 2010 2:47am CST
here's the summary:- 1) a single mother lost her husband in an accident four years ago 2) moved to an apartment to start life afresh 3) she went away for a job interview leaving her four-year-old son sleeping alone at home 4) her son fallen to his death off the balcony from their eighth-floor unit 5) she is now being investigated under section 33 of the child act, which carries a fine of RM5,000 or imprisonment not exceeding two years she lost her beloved husband & son, now is even facing the charge which would be resulted in a fine or an imprisonment for her. what a sad true story! source: http://www.thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2010/1/19/nation/5498249&sec=nation
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@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
19 Jan 10
Very sad but being 8 floors up she should have found someone to watch the baby no matter if he was a sleep or not babys do climb and do thing if you dont take care to watch them sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
3 Feb 10
this surely was a costly lesson for her. she would regret for the rest of her life & most probably could never forgive herself for her carelessness.
@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
3 Feb 10
this is true!
@savypat (20244)
• United States
19 Jan 10
I would wonder why a four year old was left at home alone and why the balcony was available to him. At four a child can be taught basic safety. I feel that there is something not right here. Some of this story is missing. On the positive side of this, if I were this woman the guilt I would feel would be almost unbearable, by going through a court case and paying a penalty for this action or rather lack of action, some of that guilt may be relieved. I hope someone is watching her very closely to make sure she doesn't do damage to herself.
@victorywp (3526)
• United States
3 Feb 10
yeah, at times like this especially when she thought that she has lost everything in her life (husband, son, money), she might be thinking of ending her own life now. you got a point there, must get someone to watch her closely to make sure that she does not do any damage to herself.
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
19 Jan 10
I am sad for her because all that happened but it also looks like she could have got a neighbor to sit with him long enough to go check on a job but then again who knows if they would have done it.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
3 Feb 10
maybe because she's still new in that locality, so she has yet to get to know her neighbours. after all, it's hard to trust someone whom we are not close with (just like her new neighbours). but still, she should have tried to ask...
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
19 Jan 10
that is sad. loosing her husband and son, but she should have known better to leave the kids alone at a young age. she should have asked someone to keep an eye on the kids.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
3 Feb 10
you are right, syankee525. no matter whatever the reason, she should have asked someone to take care of her son before leaving.
@kezabelle (2980)
19 Jan 10
I feel for her having lost her husband but there are reasons we should NOT leave small children alone in the home, she neglected her son and because of her careless behaviour her small helpless son lost his life when it had barely began! ok she may be suffering enough having lost him and she has that guilt to carry for the rest of her life but at least she has a life something that has been cruelly snatched from her son through her own stupidity.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
3 Feb 10
she would regret for the rest of her life because of her carelessness that snatched away the life of her son. i think she will never forgive herself for neglected her son on that day.
@bellis716 (4804)
• United States
19 Jan 10
A sad story, indeed. Had it happened in the US, the results would have been the same. A 4 year old cannot legally be left alone without adult, or near adult, supervision. Teen age children are allowed to care for younger ones.
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• United States
19 Jan 10
Yes, bellis716, in the state where I live, DHS told a friend of mine that if they're twelve years old they can stay home by themselves, but not any younger than that. I don't know why this mother would leave a four year old by themselves, I'd try to find somebody to watch him, if I could. Its sad..
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
6 Feb 10
maybe this mother was not very highly educated. but still, i believe that most mothers or parents would not leave their children (especially those around 5 or below) unsupervised.
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
I am sure she was devastated with what happened and that she didn't like her son to die but then, if she was precautious enough, this wouldn't have happened. It would hurt her for the rest of her life. She can't bring back her son's life no matter how she repents. I am so sorry for her.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
10 Feb 10
i am afraid that she would be doing something bad like planning to accompany her husband & son in another world...
• Indonesia
20 Jan 10
what a sad story :( life is so hard huh ? :( lets pray together for poor people in the world. also lets say thanks to god for HIS bless :)
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
10 Feb 10
yeah, that's life. it's hard & it's unfair...
@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
19 Jan 10
How horrible!Why oh why do people think its ok to leave a child alone for a minute. What makes people think this is ok to do. I won't leave my 3 almost 4 year old granddaughter alone just to get the mail 5 houses away from my home. I just won't do it. Anything can happen and it only takes a minute. I feel bad that she lost both her husband and son but the son could have been prevented. A neighbor or a friend could have watched him if not reschedule the appointment.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
10 Feb 10
she must have thought that her son would still be asleep until her relative return back from sending her to the bus station.
@walijo2008 (4646)
• United States
19 Jan 10
Its a sad story, but why did she leave her four year old son alone at home, even if he was sleeping, he'd eventually wake up. I don't understand why she did that, I wouldn't even leave my 13 yr. old nephew at the house by himself, there's too much stuff for him to get in to. What was she going to do if she got the job, surely she wouldn't leave him home all the time?
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
10 Feb 10
actually she has another relative staying together in that apartment. but she asked the relative to send her to the bus station before coming back to take care of her son. so the incident happened during the period of time when the relative sending her to the bus station.
@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
19 Jan 10
I agree with others who say she shouldn't have left her child at home alone. That is stupid and shows that she lacks any common sense or fear for the welfare of her child. I have some compassion for her, I would want to die if that happened to me but it would never happen--I never left my children alone, would not even go outside the house to garden if they had no one to watch them. The trouble is that when people like her make mistakes or errors in judgment, the results are often permanent and affect more people than just themselves. I am sorry she is going through this agony but she had control over this situation and decided (consciously or subconsciously) that her son wasn't important enough to protect.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
6 Feb 10
yes, the result is permanent ater her mistake in judgement. her son will never be alive again...
@mistlady (114)
• India
19 Jan 10
I am certainly very shocked and saddened to hear the heart-breaking news about this lady. Sometimes illfortune seems to follow us like a hurricane. However one must never lose hope and courage. We can find our strength sometimes in the most dfficult of situations. I hope and pray that the young lady finds her strength to move on in life and finds hope in her life.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
3 Feb 10
yeah, i really hope that she would be strengthened in situation like this. she must not give up now, but to move on so that she can find a new hope again later in her life.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
19 Jan 10
I think the mother is doing something very wrong here. She shouldn't leave her son alone in the apartment, no matter where she go. If she don't want to bring her son along when go for interview, she should at least find someone to take care of her son before she left him at home. I prefer not to leave my son alone at home, although sometimes i do feels very difficult to bring a little boy alone when go shopping. We should understand that little child is very naughty and naive, so we should never leave them even for a seconds without any supervision. Now, i think she do feels very miserable for her mistake.
• India
20 Jan 10
There are times when you are really hard up for money, what with no job and two mouths to feed on top of all the depression. Maybe she did not have money to hire a babysitter and nobody with whom she could leave the child, besides one is usually unable to take children for job interviews. She did what she had to do under the circumstances and life has been cruel to her. She has lost her two very beloved people and is being fined/imprissoned. Its a sad sad world for those who have no money.
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@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 10
Then actually, the mother should ask her male relative to take care her son, while she go to the bus terminal. It's really unwise decision to left a little boy all alone by himself. Because little boy tends to be curious and playful, so we can't depend on him to take care himself.
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@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Life is unfair
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
19 Jan 10
hi ybong007 aka james bond. yeah, life is unfair.
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@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
I'm sure god is cooking something really special for her. I really hope so.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
22 Jan 10
what do you think the meals would be like?
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Jan 10
As much as I sympathize with the poor woman she did not make a good choice when she decided to leave her son home unattended. Anyone who has been around children of that age would know the situations they can get themselves into when left on their own. I suppose all that she can do now is throw herself on the mercy of the court. She will have to live with this burden the rest of her life.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
1 Mar 10
sorry for my very late reply! i think you must have forgotten that you have responded here in this discussion. i agree with your points. she really has no knowledge about the danger of leaving children of that age on their own.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I don't understand what you mean that I had forgotten.
@victorywp (3526)
• United States
10 Mar 10
i mean maybe you might have forgotten that you have responded in this discussion 2 months ago (until i replied you).
@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
That really a sad story for this lady. I think justice should not be serve for her because she is acted without knowledge on the occasion where her son fell into the ground...They should be investigated the fact for what is the reason leaving her son not knowing for the consequences she has made...
@victorywp (3526)
• United States
4 Mar 10
you are right, aerous. that should be the direction of the investigation to search for the fact for what is the reason leaving her son not knowing for the consequences she has made.
@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Since we have a law on the particular case. Let's the police authorities to decide whether there is foul play on the incident...
@celticeagle (124400)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jan 10
Well, it is her own fault! Why would a woman who has already lost someone leave a 4 year old child alone in an apartment building? That is just down right dumb!! Ofcourse I feel bad for her losing her loved ones but come on. A four year old??!! Surely she could ask a friend or make a deal with a day care or something so she would have a safe place for her son to stay while she was gone. Unbelieveable! You never know what might have happened while she was gone. Obviously one of the more horrible ones did.
@victorywp (3526)
• United States
10 Feb 10
she just moved to a new location to stay, so she has no friends or relatives to be depended on. however for the safety of her son, at least she should have asked her neighbours for help (even if she has not known her neighbours well).
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@celticeagle (124400)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Feb 10
She may meet people at daycare or the schools or even her job. There are alot of outlets for people. And people greeve differently. She may want some time to herself also.
@bjcyrix (6907)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Hmm, the railing on that balcony seems a bit too high for a 4 year old boy to climb on. Though we really have no idea to what extent a 4 year old boy can do. They're just so resourceful and creative. Sad to see that creativity and determination of a small child result in a tragic end. Im worried about the mother. She might just snap from everything. She has lost her husband and now, her little boy who hasnt even fully experienced life. She is still also young. I think she would need all the support from family and friends so that over time she would be able to heal from this ordeal. Life can be soo unfair and can be really just too short for some.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
22 Jan 10
after losing her dearest husband & son, she is now risking to lose more, which is either losing her money (to pay the fine) or losing her daily life (imprisonment).
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@bjcyrix (6907)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
That is true. Hope they'll reconsider putting the charges on her. She already lost enough.
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@jakill (835)
19 Jan 10
This mother must feel like ending her own life now. It just shows that you cannot leave a young child alone for even minutes. And leaving him with access to that high balcony makes it even worse. I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand I do feel for her. On the other hand it seems criminal to take that risk with a four year old.
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
22 Jan 10
she might have thought that her son would still asleep until her relative is back. or maybe she thought that her son would be just crying all his way searching for her in the house. she has never thought that her son would have climbed up & off from the balcony.
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@bunnybon7 (46684)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Jan 10
well this may very well be a sad story but i lost my hubby and my kids were even grown but i still worried about them and done everything possible for their safety. looks like she wouldnt want to loose another close loved one. especially a child. im sorry if it seems cold but she deserves whatever she gets. i get so tired of people not watching or taking care of their kids properly the last thing she should have done was chance loosing her child also. yes my kids had accidents but not due to any negligence of mine. what would ever posess her to leave her child alone?!!!
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@victorywp (3526)
• United States
4 Mar 10
nobody knows what makes her to leave her child at home alone. it seems like her priority was to get the job instead of her son.
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