Do you send a Private Message after adding/accepting a new friend?

@Sreekala (32780)
India
January 22, 2010 3:22am CST
Dear friends, Many times I have received private messages from newly added friends and I am very happy to read the PMs and I replied to all of them without fail. To be very honest I don’t have the habit of sending a PM when adding new friends. (I will drop comments to their profile page). I will send PM only when I wish to know something particularly. Otherwise I am happy with their interaction in mylot itself. In the meantime I tried to develop the new habit of sending PM and I have not received reply from people in the beginning itself so I got disappointed and stopped that habit. What about you friends? Are you particular in sending PM to newly added friends?
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@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
22 Jan 10
Hi Sree! Hopefully, you know a bit about me and I making use of PMs........lol! yet, I would answer your question. Specially in the past, when I was new here and did not have many friends, I would send a thanks message to the user, who would accept my request for add. I used to feel happy for his/her gesture of accepting me as his/her friend, therefore, I would convey my gratitute to him/her through PM. Even now, when I need to convey something to a user/friend, which I think I should not convey in a discussion itself, I send a PM. I feel that I should not make all the comments in the post itself, if there is something which should only be conveyed to the host of the discussion, I would send across a PM to him/her. PMs are the best way to get in touch with friends, besides discussions. Earlier, when I would mark a BR to any of my posts, I would send a PM to inform the user/friend about the BR so that s/he could come to know about it. However, now if I mark a BR, I do not send PM, I hope that user/friend will get an alert about it from mylot and would come to know about it. Have a nice day! Deepak
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
22 Jan 10
Hi deepak, I know about you and some of your habits too. Actually I received the first useful PM from you only. I remember on my second term in mylot, I added you and received a PM from you. Actually I am grateful to you for making me comfortable in mylot. Thank you so much for providing many details. Have a great weekend.
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@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
23 Jan 10
Hi Sree! It is nice to know that I sent you a meaningful PM in the beginning and that did make an affect on you. It is my pleasure to make you feel comfortable here on mylot, after all what for friends are.........lol! Have a great weekend to you too.
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@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
23 Jan 10
Hi LIFE It is really heartening to read your comments and it makes me happy to know that I know how to use the facility of PMs for interacting with dear friends. How are you doing? Deepak
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• Boston, Massachusetts
22 Jan 10
Hi Sreekala, i don't send private message after accepting them as my new friend. i only pm so some but we already established a certain friendship over a lengthy discussion. as far as i remember, the first PM that i received was a query about my son's special education school and rest are friendly notes and invitation to participate in an online earning sites. i don't mind sending messages if there's a need. when i can't see my friend who's been so active and then suddenly can't hear anything from them-- i tried sending PM to make sure they are alright.
@Sreekala (32780)
• India
25 Jan 10
Hi msf, I know you are very keen to interact with friends and often adding more comments to discussions and I think in that way you can get close to the member (without sending any pm). I have not interacted with you through pm yet, but I feel much fondness with you. Have a great week ahead dear.
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Jan 10
you are keen too for making that wonderful observation about me and how i interact here in mylot. no need for us to do private messaged because we can already establish positive and healthy friendship through our responses/discussions. thanks for your kind words.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
27 Jan 10
Yes dear, I am doing much observation in mylot but on positive way and it help me to learn many things about mylot and mylot members too. Have a nice day.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
22 Jan 10
I am also like you Sree.Very rarely, I send PMs.I have however, sent private messages to some mylot user and got their email ID in some cases.[after quite some time]I can't even remember if it was I or who sent priivate message to each other and got the mailId.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
22 Jan 10
I was planning to write"you"Sree and it turned out to be 'who'.Did you or I send our message asking for mailID?
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@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
22 Jan 10
Did U check yr mail today?
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
22 Jan 10
Hi dear, I have received your pm first and I had your mail id (I got your mail id without your knowledge, am I smart?) and sent my reply through mail. You are always special (related with name) dear. Thanks for the reply. Have a great weekend.
@aerous (13461)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
As soon as I confirm the friends request to say thanks for being friend. I did that to compliment of the effort that the person would like me to be his/her friend...
@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Feb 10
Hi aerous, So nice of you aerous, I really appreciate your gesture. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.
@aerous (13461)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
Okay, I appreciate also your though, sreekala. Hope you will be my good friend soon and exchange ideas and best wishes to you...
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
That means you are not consider me as a good friend yet, ok no problem. Thanks for your nice wishes.
@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 10
Hi Sree, frankly speaking, I’m the type of lazy and person of procrastination. Very often I indulge in certain activities which interest me and forget about to answer friends pm or email. And the bad habit of procrastination also makes me doing thing in a raher sluggish manner as well I prefer to write post here more than to consume time sending pm, unless I have private thing that is not decent to chat in the public I then will share it with my friends here via pm. I enjoy having more interaction here with friends in interesting topics In the early stage at mylot here, I did make friend request but I never sent any pm to thank them for the adding. I preferred to express my gratitude by sharing my idea and view in at least one of their discussions. Later on I have never made any friend request anymore. Yeah, just because I don’t have much time to spend here and I would feel guilty if I don’t have time to reply any of their discussions after they have accepted my friend request. But I never hesitate to accept any new friend requests. Happy posting and take care
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Feb 10
Hi lkbooi dear, I think I know about your habit but the way you are handling friends here is really amazing and I think that is enough than sending a pm. We can use the pm facility when we don’t want to disclose something in public. You are always doing great things for your friends so no need to feel guilty. Please enjoy the things which interest you. I am always happy to read your posts in board. Take care dear. Have a nice day.
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@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
11 Feb 10
Hi Sree, really glad to read the comment left here. Sounds that you finally have time as well as good mood to deal with some comments here. your sweet words make me to feel as happy as a lark. I hope what I have been doing here is really as well as what you have mentioned. But this also reminds me that I still haven’t replied.... I’m sure you know what I mean here....I have encounter unsteady internet connection recently. This always happens whenever I have spare time to log in here. It is really depressing again tonight as I totally can’t access any network since two hours before. And I have to type the post and save it in the word pad. It’s already 12 am and it’s time for me to log out mylot. I hope I can continue typing tomorrow. Good night! Hi Sree, it’s a brand new morning now. I'm here to continue typing the post. I do enjoy reading your posts if I come across any while replying others discussions or browsing along. Yeah, we can learn more about our dear friends by reading their thought, feeling and opinions expressing in the posts here It's nice that mylot provides such pm feature for us. Yeah, it's wonderful that we can enjoy the facility of sharing private and personal matter with our friends here. Take care and have a nice day
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
11 Feb 10
Ha ha yes dear finally I find out time for commenting back too. Sometimes, if there is interesting topics, then I may concentrate on that then my discussions may leave behind, as you know that I am doing mylot in leisure time. But surely I will reply to all of my responders sooner or later (lol). Please don’t worry about the reply as I am happy to know about you from board (there is no worry). I am sorry to know about your connection problem as you are typing the matter and waiting to get connected for doing mylot all other works and I think it is more time consuming too. I do hope the problem may solve soon so that you can do you work without any interruption.
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@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
22 Jan 10
Hi Sree! I don't normally send PM, unless I want to say something in private or thank them for accepting my FR or for adding me as they friend. I do believed or think that I always replied to PMs I received, unless I have nothing more to say. I hope I didn't disappointed you dear.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
22 Jan 10
Hi CJay, How are you dear? Long time there was no conversation with us. Hope you are doing fine. No dear, you never disappointed me; you are particular on replying to my profile comments. It was a surprise to see your comment in my profile (that time I hadn't any close friends in mylot). So thank you so much and there was some interesting things to share related to your profile comments(I will tell you through PM). Have a great weekend.
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@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
22 Jan 10
I'm doing fine, Sree, just been very busy for the last few weeks and, thank you so much for asking . Please do share that interesting thing about profile, I will be glad to know about it. You too have a great weekend dear.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
23 Jan 10
Ok dear done (pm). Thanks again.
@vathsala30 (3728)
• India
25 Jan 10
Hi sree I do not send any private messages unless I feel it necessary to inform them about something or asking them to do something as some friends do not participate in Mylot for a long time. So I will send a private message to them enquiring about their health or reason for their absence as I am worried of their absence because they are my friends
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hi Vathsala, First of all [b]Hearty Congratulations for touching 1000 marks. [/b] I know you are a nice person and always kinds hearted to your friends. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.
• India
17 Feb 10
Dear sree Thank you very much for your compliments for reaching 1000 posts. I am sure if best friends like you are around helping me always in times of need, even I will reach 1,00,000 very soon, I bet
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@shibham (17019)
• India
6 Mar 10
hi, when i was a newbie here, i tend to post pm with vote of thanks to my friends but later on i got busy with other tasks. again now i tend to send pm again and i wish that i shall always post pm to my newly added friends. thanks
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
6 Mar 10
Hi Shibham, It is great to know that you are starting the good habit. But please don't feel bad if somebody not respond to your pm. Thanks for your reply and have a great weekend.
@kiran8 (15320)
• Mangalore, India
4 Mar 10
Hi Sreekala, I too am guilty of not sending pms most of the time. I generally reply to those who send me a pm....I too had the same experience as you in the beginning where my pms went unanswered and I now feel that it is more than enough to interact on the forum and most of the time we greet our friends and keep in touch...
@Sreekala (32780)
• India
5 Mar 10
Hi Kiran, There is no need of any guilty, it is true that once we comfortable with each other through discussions then we don’t feel any hesitation to send a pm when in need. In other words we are more comfortable to send a pm after knowing each other. When we don’t want to share something in public then we can depend on pm. Thanks for the reply. Have a nice day.
@daliaj (5681)
• India
10 Feb 10
After reading your discussion, I think that there is something wrong with me and my friends in Mylot. I don't remember getting a private message after adding a friend. I get private messages from friends sometimes regarding money making opportunities. Sometimes a few close friends in Mylot wish me on Christmas or any other festival.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Feb 10
Hi dalia, ha ha why are you thinking so dear? There is nothing wrong with you but may be with your friends. See I am in your list and I think I added you but never sent any pm to you, it is my mistake, isn't it? What to do dear, my character is like that but if I get a pm then I will reply. So don't worry dear and be happy. Thank you so much. Have a nice day.
@dorannmwin (36656)
• United States
3 Feb 10
I'm not one of those people that takes the time to PM when I am a newly added friend to someone. In fact, the only time that I have gotten PMs from people that I have just added as friends is when they want to know something about one of the other sites that I use that I have mentioned in a discussion that they've also taken part in. Now, when it comes to the PMs that I receive, I always respond to the person that sends it to me.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Feb 10
Ho doran, So you are not sending pm but replying to those people who need you reply. After reading many responses I understand that major percentage of people not sending pm for new friends. People prefer to send pm when they became comfortable with each other after the interaction in board. Thank you so much for the participation. Have a nice day.
@mzz663 (2782)
• United States
2 Feb 10
On certain sites I use I send a PM if I don't know who someone is. One thing I've found on here are some people that ask to be added and when you add them they send a PM and it's usually for referrals for another site and this makes me crazy but usually I delete those ones. I don't mind getting messages form someone if I answer a discussion and ask for the information or how to join, but the ones that add people just to spam them gets on my nerves.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Feb 10
Hi mzz, I can understand the feelings; since you are not interested in such sites it may be annoying. A pm with a friendly note may welcome by all of us. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.
• India
26 Jan 10
Hi sree, I usually don't send any private message after adding or accepting a new friend, But in case if i have to know about something or inform them anything in that case i do send private messages. Have a great day.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
10 Feb 10
Hi deepa, You don't want to disturb your friends by sending a pm (lol) isn't it? I understand once we get in close with each other through discussion then we may feel free to send a pm. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
24 Jan 10
No I don’t send a P.M. after receiving a friends request unless there is a specific reason to do so. I figure that my new friend and I will meet in due course. I haven’t requested a friend now for quite a life, I am so behind! I am still attempting to catch up from the holidays! I may make it a point to leave a comment of my friend’s profile though; it is nice to receive some kind of acknowledgement I guess.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hi Paula, It is quite natural to stop adding friends once we have enough friends in our list. I too following the same path but I will add those who send a request. Once I sent a pm to you and got a prompt reply from you so I am glad with your attitude. Thanks dear, have a nice day.
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@tinoyu (1)
• China
24 Jan 10
i am a newly to mylot and i haven't receive nor sent PMS to others in mylot.
@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hi tinoy, Welcome to mylot. I checked your profile; you have not even a single friend in your list. You can send pm to friends only. Hope you will add more friends here and exchange ideas with them and enjoy mylotting. Thanks for joining with me. Have a nice day.
@balzomo (12)
• United States
24 Jan 10
On my end to be honest with you I do not send any messages at all unless I know the person. Unless they send me a message then I would most definitely send one back. Do you really feel like it is necessary to send a message to a stranger but yet again that's how you meet new people everyday in a way. It can also help on your discussions for mylot it would create more response. Shame on me I have not been on here in months and hoping I can stick to it and it will grasp my attention.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hi balzomo, I agree, sending a pm to strange people may quite disgusting. But in mylot we need the support of friends and adding more friends will really help us in a positive way. We can interact through discussions with friends first and by that way we can get to know each other well. Once we are familiar with each other it is quite easy to exchange pms. Thanks for joining. Have a nice day.
@brekeley (18)
• China
24 Jan 10
I always encounter these similar questions! I think to be the best firends and partners need two people all devote with each other; but perhaps at the first of becoming the firends need someone more initiative,or two people are wating for the other because of his/her shy,maybe they will lose a very good firend in his/her life. So,even if i didn't receive any reply from people who i have sended PM,i will always insist on. What do you think of my point?
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hi brekeley, Your point is also a valid one. Somebody should be take initiative to start a friendship. I agree some people are introvert and never take any initiative to begin a friendship. I am that kind of person and when I become comfortable with friends through discussions then I don’t mind to send a pm. Now I have good friends here. Thanks for sharing your views. Have a nice day.
@kaylachan (4775)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Jan 10
Quite often I'll avoid the messaging system alltogeather. Sometimes I'll go for days without touching it even if I know I have them. I just often allow them to accumlate. Though I do eventually p read/respond to messages. With other forums like this its always caused computer problems. So I've avoided them. Plain and simple.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
6 May 10
Hi Kalyachan, Thank you very much for the feed back. It is up to your personal interest to get in touch with friends through PM. Thanks again. Have a nice day.
• Indonesia
23 Jan 10
i dont send private message almost every new friends after adding or accepting them.I always send a private message if only there is something that i want to know from him or her.I think everyone in mylot more interested to join discussions rather than reply private message.
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hi fontana, You are right but people get a friendly note then they won't mind to reply and most of them are hate a pm which contains links for other sites. Thanks for joining. Have a nice day.
@sushie93 (1359)
• France
23 Jan 10
To be honest: no. If someone add me to their friends list, it must be them who pm, then i will always reply to their pm ^^. But if they add me and don't send a pm, i'll do nothing too.^^'
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@Sreekala (32780)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hi sushie, It means if anybody send a pm to you then you may respond otherwise not. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.