How do you show your sorry and how do you say you are sorry?

@hotsummer (10523)
Philippines
January 23, 2010 7:52am CST
Saying sorry for our mistakes and for the hurt that we caused other people is not that easy. it hurts our pride to say sorry. but saying sorry is necessary whether we like it or not. but many people don't say sorry to people they have hurt cause just because they thing that they were right in doing the things they have done. but sometimes people have different beliefs as to why we have to say sorry. and so sorry seems to be a word that is hard heard or said by other people. and so we need to make that again a practice if we want to live an ideal life once again. cause only people who know how to say sorry are the people who are able to live a peaceful life. some people can say sorry easily but don't mean actually and can do the same thing again . some people mean to say sorry but can't but still have been sorry in their hearts and never did the same thing and change his ways already, but i still believe sorry is needed to be said and heard. and some just show it in action like giving some gifts to the people they have offended. and that is nice. i don't know if we really need to say it. or showing some good actions like giving gifts is more than enough to say we are sorry. so how do you say sorry?
23 responses
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
23 Jan 10
ive always said there or two kind of people in this world, the one who do wrong and can admit to doing wrong and feel bad about it, and can say hey i was wrong and i am sorry then you got those who do wrong, know they do wrong, cant admit doing wrong, and refuse to say sorry for doing, but push the blame off on others. if you came to me, and said that i had said or did something eitehr offended you, or hurt your feelings i am the kind of person that would say i am sorry. being a good person is admiting your mistakes and saying sorry for them
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• United States
24 Jan 10
So true,so true. There has been times that I have done wrong to some of my friends and I have apolized to them immensly. No matter how I tried I still felt the guilt.Sometimes when you apolize to someone and they don't accept it it's cause they are doing the same thing themselves and it just help them to feel what they are doing is ok.
@aabuda (1725)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
In todays technologically competitive world, it is already easier to say sorry compared to the time when mobile phones or the internet have not yet been invented. Today, you can already text or call or even email the person whom you had hurted and to make apologies to him on what you have done.
• Romania
23 Jan 10
I will write a letter formally informing my deepest apology to the person. And will explain in detail how sorry i am in order to convince the person that i am very sorry.
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• India
23 Jan 10
I say sorry when I am really feeling like saying it. If you say sorry with a smile, does it make sense or the person you are saying sorry will really believe that you are genuinely sorry. A sorry with genuine felling is enough, I fell there is no other way we can say sorry. The felling inside you should be seen on your face that you are sorry for whatever reason. We should say Sorry whenever there is a need, we should not afraid of using this word. It makes the other person feel good and you are relaxed that the person has forgave you. keep saying this word but whenever required, it should not be just doing mistakes and saying sorry again and again. That will definitely not work for the either person.
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• India
23 Jan 10
each nd every persons have their own style of saying sorry.. if m talking abt mine.. i ll show sorry to the person by realizing him /her dat m alolozize nd m nt able to move on.. they ll able to see sorry in my eyes
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@satya4186 (280)
• India
23 Jan 10
i have no hesitate to say sorry because if i have done mistake and always to say my friend that if you say sorry so will never do wrong.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Jan 10
Sorry doesn't mean much if the person just does the same thing over again and again and again. It's one thing if it was an accident, but if the person did something mean or rude or insulting, they need to change the behavior.
@primeaque86 (8107)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
Yes, your definitely right, approaching the person to say sorry is somewhat walking in a muddy ground... hard. But we have too, it is really good to live a peaceful life. Me, I'll approach the person and heartily ask sorry, no matter what he would say--I'd take it all if I know its really my mistake. Oh my, I can remember my professor in high school who had scolded me for not listening his discussion, he told me to get out from the room.. the next day I did approach him in the library and then he scolded me again in the present of my classmates who were doing research. he said the damage had been done, but I never quit asking him again the same word. Oh I was so afraid to fail in his class (I was on the final year that time)! Finally he'd find out that I was really sincere so the following two days he allowed me to join the class....again.
@shuyin101 (206)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
When I'm sorry I don't say it, I show it. Actions speak louder than words. nuff said
• India
24 Jan 10
We learn from our mistake only and if we are doing any mistake we should admit it that we are wrong. There is nothing bad in admitting your mistake and rectify it for future.
• China
24 Jan 10
first , I don't think it hurts our pride to say sorry , if there is something wrong with what we have done , just try to be brave enough to admit it , anyway , we are responsible for what we did , and we must be aware of whether we are right or wrong . well , to say sorry is someway to solve the problem or to try to get the forgiveness of others , after all , we should not be too shy about to say sorry ...
• India
24 Jan 10
Hello hotsummer, Your topic for discussion indeed deserves to be on the top. Well, too many times we do or say things which hurt our near and dear ones and when we realize our mistake, it already is late to take back our words or actions. Now what to do? Should I say sorry? Though these questions keep on troubling us, we find it extremely difficult to bring ourselves to say sorry. In my case, I simply make a changeover and try to do everything possible, which I think will please my near one and will also make him/her understand that this is my way of saying sorry!!!
@smacksman (6074)
24 Jan 10
Say sorry early. The longer you take to say sorry the more difficult it is and the less well received. I'm married 40 years to a wife who never says sorry so I'm well versed in saying it for her. It costs nothing and gets easier to do with practice! haha
@sherwinm (149)
• India
24 Jan 10
Hi!! Hurting a person is real bad I know but I tend to do it often mostly to the person I love. I don't know why I show anger and hurt. I used to think several times that I should control my temper but I am unable to. Its very less I have told sorry to the ones I hurt. I am sorry here to all I hurt!! haooy mylotting!!
• China
24 Jan 10
I agree with showing sorry in actions. Cuz the object of saying sorry is to let other people understand that you are feeling wrong with some of your words or behaviors. Meanwhile, the one may also know that only saying sorry is useless and moreover, may hurts your pride. So instead,if you do sth that really can help, people can feel your regretness is sincere.
• India
24 Jan 10
i say sorry when i want to say sorry. if i have really done a mistake i shud be sorry for that and say that. now if i am not accepting my mistake that means i dont think i have done a mistake, if someone helps me understanding my mistake i really wont mind saying so. also say sorry only if you mean it by ur heart. I would really like to give a big sweet hug to the people incase i have hurted them in some way or the other.muuuaahhhh...sorry if i have said something wrong. :) ( c i dont mind saying sorry)
@alfroi635 (299)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
Saying sorry is a great thing. It makes a person calm and cool. When a person say sorry to her/ his friend for doing not good to him / her, he/ she will feel important to that person who ask for sorry. Saying sorry deepens friendship, it enhances people's ability to understand other people's situation. But some people use this word abusively. Some people always say sorry for a single redundant mistake. In this case, the word "sorry" is really abused.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
24 Jan 10
Hi,i say sorry by either a good greeting card which can express the feelings of mine just i would pick up a card from the 123greetings.It would never be that i am going some what down or like that.if i did wrong then i would definetly apology.something which we can make the hurt people to understand y we did so.
• United States
24 Jan 10
Many people will not agree with me on this but this is how I feel about apologies. People do not do or say things that they do not mean. Apologies are usually given to appease the person that was offended or hurt. Why say something that you feel passion for and just because someone was offended or hurt you apologize, You do not apologize because you changed your mind so why apologize? No people who hurt people in criminal ways the only apologize with the hopes of getting off the hook. Criminals are never really sorry toward their victims they are only sorry they got caught. But this is only my opinion not meant to offend or hurt anyone.
@madteaparty (2759)
• Japan
24 Jan 10
In my case is easy to say sorry when I realize that I have been wrong, so I usually just say it straight. I don't want to hurt someone else's feelings, so I try to show that I repent as soon as possible.