One Sincere Apology
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
January 27, 2010 7:18pm CST
After someone does or says something wrong , does he/ she Have to keep apologizing? Or Is One Sincere Apology enough? Vengeance maybe my middle name but if someone apologizes quickly and is sincere I do forgive them.I may never forget but I do forgive. i started this post because of Mel Gibson. he said some stupid , anti Semitic things a while back. He did apologize but the story follows him still. He apologized early enough for me to forgive him but I will never forget, I don't need him to keep apologizing . It won't change my mind about him.what is sad i don't even have to start or follow a boycott because he hasn't been in a film I would want to see. anyway, do you feel a person Has to keep apologizing or will one sincere apology do?
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@alfroi635 (297)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
Keep apologizing and sincere apology is both not effective if the person really hated you of what you've done to him. In my case, I easily forgive people who commit mistakes to me. I don't think the mistake anymore and I never recall that anymore in our conversation. In that way, if a person who committed a sin to me will have a confidence to say apology once only and never say it all over again.
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@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
28 Jan 10
For me, if it's given in a timely fashion, and as you say sincere, once is enough. Too many and it begins to ring as insincere. And lets face it, sometimes all we can do when we screw up is apologize, when someone has already given the only thing they have to give..it needs to be enough.
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@mohit1123 (564)
• India
28 Jan 10
One sincere apology does it for me. However i will still be weary of the that person and the relationship wont be on the same level as it was before.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Jan 10
I agree. It will Never be as close as it was before . And that's how I feel about mel Gibson. Fromnow on I will Always remeber in the back of my head that he doesn't like me because I'm Jewish.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
28 Jan 10
If it is for me, one sincere apology is enough. If he/she keeps repeating it, then I'd just feel uncomfortable. I may not forget, and in the back of my mind, the sin may still linger, but I would need that sincere act for the healing to start. It may not end for a while, but I would need that start.
Mel Gibson boo!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Jan 10
I am exactly the same. Forgiving isn't the same as forgetting. as for Mel. i was in lust with him when he played in Lethal Weapon but now? I have no feelings for him at all.
@wickedlove (326)
• United States
28 Jan 10
I like it when someone apologizes a lot. You know they really mean it, when they keep trying to get others to forgive them. I am not talking about saying sorry for years down the road, just maybe a few times. I can be stubborn so I like when someone makes the effort to be forgiven. It shows they really are sorry and want to work for forgiveness.
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@amit12 (1)
• India
28 Jan 10
this happens often. as nobody is complete in any manner, errors are going to happen. this happened to me one week ago, as I knowingly hurt my friend using an unfair SMS . i think that I am loosing precious friends of mine. Now I am thinking of an apology to them so that I ca rebuild our relationship status.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Jan 10
hi sarahruthbeth,No, I don't think someone needs to keep appologizing or explaining anything. If they said or did something wrong then they need make only one appology. I don't remember what Mel's Gibson's comments were actually but I remember that he said something that offended many. I know at the time It just kind of told me something about his character that surprised me. That is usually how it is with these things. If someone does something or says something to hurt me then apologizes I'll forgive. I may or may not move on from that person depending on the situation but I won't hold on to the anger. Still at the same time you never quite forget what that person is capable of or how they made you feel.
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@edu4625 (188)
• United States
28 Jan 10
I am happy with one apology that is sincere and heartfelt. I don't need the person to repeat it again or often.
If they do I thank them and try to reassure them that the situation has been resolved. I would want someone to do the same to me.
@allknowing (130067)
• India
28 Jan 10
There was someone in my life who would bring the whole roof down till she got what she wanted and there was no account of what she would say and what she wouldn't but after she got what she wanted she would come down on her knees so to say with 'sincere apologies' for being rude or whatever. I didn't buy that and that was her weapon she used because in a way she was indispensable to me - my maid!!!
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@mlno054321 (212)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
for me sincere apology is enough. and for me sometimes say sory is also enough . but anyway it depends on the mistakes or bad thing did to you. if it is not a big deal mistakes say sory or sincere apology is enough. every people had mistakes so we better accept the sincere apology of the person.
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@monojdhole (200)
• India
28 Jan 10
One sincere apology is enough provided it is accepted and the person asking apology is pardoned. If he is not forgiven then he may ask you again expecting that you will pardon him this time.
So in my opinion it depends upon the gravity of the situation and the response of the person being asked apology.
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@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
28 Jan 10
First thing if i do any mistake and if i believe that yes i did wrong i should do like that then i do sincere apology. And if anybody ask me apology then i forgive him/her. And i forget it. But if the same person do again mistake or do anything wrong then i remember what he did with me previous. And sometime feel angry on me why i have forgive him. It's my view. ....
@geckblancaflor (3)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
well i think when you did something wrong to somebody they deserve your apology because you just hurt their feeling!!!!!!
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
28 Jan 10
As long as the apalogy is sincere, and heard by all who are affected, then it should be enough. It's easier when one person wrongs another, for that person to apologize to that person, than it is for one who has wronged an entire group, most of society, because some may not have heard it, and may still be offended. This is why people need to be very careful what they say in public.
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