How well do you accept criticism?

@gifana (4833)
Portugal
November 15, 2006 10:40am CST
My first inclination is to consider the source of criticism. If I feel that the person knows me well enough to criticize then I take it into consideration. However, when I am criticized for things which have nothing to do with the person criticizing me then I brush it off. No one can offend me because I do not let them. Life is too short to worry about what others think as long as I know I am not hurting someone else.
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@Aeval39 (773)
• United States
27 Nov 06
Being a part of Deviant Art and being a "writer" has really opened me up to criticism. I know better than to get mad at someone who is trying to help by pointing out what can be done better, or what was done well. I actually prefer this to the usual comments I get on DA of "It's awesome!" Thank you, but that doesn't help at all. I think some people are afraid to give actual crits because they don't want to get anyone mad or upset anyone. I can't stand it when someone just disses something I made with nothing to back it up. Or acts like they know everything and is doing me a favor by pointing out how bad my art is. I've come across too many people like that.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
27 Nov 06
Criticism - Poster on criticism....To escape criticism:  Do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
I think you are on the mark. Some criticism in very helpful. We go through life thinking that what we do and say has no effect on someone else. When people point out my weakness and can show me how to deal with it then I accept it. But criticizing for the sake of being offensive is not necessary. Appreciate you input itis helpful. You get a best response. Have a nice day!
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@Aeval39 (773)
• United States
28 Nov 06
Aw thanks a lot for the best response! ^^
@Aeval39 (773)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I just noticed the picture you included. That's such a great image, I'm saving it to my computer. :P
15 Nov 06
Well it depends. I@m quite good at telling what's bad and what's not coming from me. What can be expected from me. I'm fully aware of my weaknesses and strength. When a criticism is uncalled for I can be quite angry. If it is a constructive criticism then I'm ok with it but deep down I'm disappointed in myself.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
15 Nov 06
Thanks for your response. If we criticize others then we must listen to theirs like it or not.
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
27 Nov 06
Just read this again. There should be no reason for one to be disappointed in oneself. I think the most important thing is to look deeper in an effort to see if the criticism is warranted and then think about whether it makes you more aware of any failings and try to correct them.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 06
its depend on the person personality and experience. but i more consider in experience, the experience that he/she has when interacting with a lots people in many occasion will help to manage any critics that coming
@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
23 Dec 06
Another good response. Not all criticism can be considered bad until examined and considered. We must be patient with those criticizing if they do so without knowing who we are. We must not be harmful with our criticism and try not to hurt but to be helpful. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your input. Merry Christmas.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I agree with you. I know myself well so I won't take baseless criticism. I try my best not to criticize but really detest those who talk abt things they don't know of. that's when I cant resist but point out.there are tons of them out here..whose only job is to point a finger!
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
23 Dec 06
Good attitude and clear thinking. Like those living in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. It's always easy to point the finger but stupid to do so without a firm foundation. Thanks for dropping by and for your input. Merry Christmas.
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• Indonesia
15 Dec 06
I don't like to be criticed. The first thing that I thought is.... "Is that true that I'm wrong?" After that I will think again "What is positif and negative effect for critics that he gave for me." And then I decide "Should I accept it." BUt I always say thx for every one who critics me. It is because they love me so they critics me to be better^^
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
24 Dec 06
Good thinking. I don't think anyone really likes being criticized and on thinking about it realize that it might be true and as you say if our friends criticize us it is usually for the better. Thank you for your response and input. Happy Holidays.
• India
15 Dec 06
Critism. The word sends out chills in some people. It all depends on how a person reacts to it. I would advice that be strong when you are criticised. Dont show out that you are affected by it as it can be taken as a weakness and people and use it against you. But also when someone criticises you dont accept it, later on ponder on what the person had said, you know yourself better than anyone else. Try to see if there is any truth in it anf if there is work on it. But never be disheartened or hurt.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
23 Dec 06
Excellent response. I think you have just about hit the nail on the head. However, I would just add one little thing and that is one must consider the source of the criticism....i.e., does the person handing it out have reason or cause to criticize and thus being justified. Thanks for dropping by and giving us some good advice. Merry Christmas
@rherdey (966)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I would love to say that I do. I do take sometimes criticism to hard and makes me upset when I do. Instead of brushing it off sometimes I use the source as a tool to be upset. I hope in time I can change that and get over the negative and look for the positive in the criticism.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
28 Nov 06
Good answer. I would dare to say that there is usually some good even in the negative criticism. I don't think we should get upset but rather evaulate the source and take it from there. People can't hurt us if we don't let them. Appreciate your input. Tnx
@Aali311 (6112)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I think I handle it quite well. There are times I will take it into consideration and there are times where I just ignore it.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
28 Nov 06
Good thinking. I think that is perhaps the best way to look at it. Thank you for your input.
@maddog108 (3435)
• Australia
28 Nov 06
i think in most cases its not nessesary and if they pesist i upset them
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
10 Dec 06
I take it that you think you're perfect and no criticism can be considered constructive. I don't think it is necessary to upset people when they criticize your. Sometimes people see us in a light that sometimes escapes us. It is easier when we are looking outward....and not paying attention to others that look inward. Thank you for dropping by and for your input.
@infohome (1219)
• India
28 Nov 06
in positive way.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
10 Dec 06
Good for you....but you could have expanded on your response. Thank you for dropping by.
@Lushlie (572)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I have always been a very sensitive person. I tend to take any kind of criticism to heart whether the person meant it to be constructive or not.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
28 Nov 06
It's okay to take criticism to heart as long as it doesn't undermind your self esteem. There are times in life that we have to be like a duck in the rain....let it just roll down your back. As long as you don't dwell on negative criticism it can't hurt you. Appreciate your input. Tnx
• United States
10 Dec 06
I'd like to let roll of my back what others, whose criticism I find unworthy, but, still, I get defensive and doubt myself.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
10 Dec 06
There you go.....you doubt yourself. Constructive criticism should not make you doubt yourself but rather take a better look at yourself and see if the criticism can help you see yourself in a different light...for the better of course. Thank you for dropping by and for your input.
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
28 Nov 06
Not well at all. I guess it depends who does it and how they tell you. If you are feeling bad about yourself and someone critize's you, that would make you feel even worse.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
10 Dec 06
Granted. But we have to look at the criticizm from the other's point of view. Are they right? Is the criticizm constructive? Does jealousy enter the picture? There are many reasons for criticizm...I don't think it should make us feel bad but rather it gives us the chance to take a good look at ourselves and then decide. Thanks for dropping by and for your input.
• United States
10 Dec 06
I'm very sensitive to criticism. It's bad because when I ask for it, I' naive and expect sugar coated answers. So when I run into an answer that isn't to my expectation, it hurts. I don't know how to fix it. I'll try to have your look on it, but it'll take some time for me to retrain myself.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
10 Dec 06
We are all sensitive to criticism at first glance but sometimes when we analyse constructive criticism it can be a great help and then it is easier to find ways to correct it. Thank you for dropping by and for your input.
@rainbow (6761)
27 Nov 06
i agree comletely, if it's constructive criticism then I'll listen but not neccessarily alter my way to do things. I don't really care what other people think of me, it's not worth the heartbreak.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
27 Nov 06
I don't think it is a case of altering the way to do things. I think criticism that is constructive makes us take a look at ourselves to see if their isn't something we can do to have more self esteem. Apprieciate your input. Tnx
@RumDusk (299)
• United States
15 Nov 06
Personnly i dont care if anyone criticize me, simply because you are entitled to your opinion. now if you are wrong about me than i'll let you know.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
15 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. To a degree your are absolutely right. But don't forget that sometimes the criticism of others could well make us take another look at ourselves. No matter how old you are (Im 71) we can always accept criticism and learn.
@fasha72 (284)
• Singapore
28 Nov 06
Not so good for me. I will cry first then ponder what he or she just said to me. Sometimes i felt they just dont know me but sometimes because they know me too well they end crticized me all the time.
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
28 Nov 06
Come on.....get ahold of yourself....have some self esteem. You say that your friends critize you because they know you too well. In my mind it raises the question how well do you know yourself? Appreciate the input. Tnx
• United States
15 Nov 06
Depends on who it is coming from and what the situation or behavior I'm being criticized on .
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
15 Nov 06
Thanks for response. My sentiments exactly.
@abagslife (1212)
• Italy
27 Nov 06
I accept construptive criticism
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@gifana (4833)
• Portugal
27 Nov 06
That's great. We can all do with a little bit of that before it's too late and we keep mucking things up. Thanks for response.