what were the events while growing up that changed your life?

@tigeraunt (6331)
Philippines
January 30, 2010 12:20pm CST
dear my lotters, i was the smallest in the classroom when i started going to school. i was 6 years old when i was in the first grade. everyone was big around me and many were bullies. so the challenge of doing better was there. am not good with math though but i was favorite of my teacher and i guess i was smarter than those big classmates. now, two former classmates came to apply for a job and when they saw me, said "you have grown far bigger than us". am sure they don't mean my size and weight. made me feel proud inside because i am going to be their interviewer. now i can be the bully, but i wont. can you recall some that you had while growing up? ann
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• India
17 Mar 10
Hi ann i was the tallest in my class, size of a mman or woman is immaterial, it is the inner talent that matters, i was always the topper, well i too interviewed some of my classmates for some jobs, they were not highly qualified though. Life keeps changing my friend Bhuwan
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
dear professor, it is what you contribute to make your life better, not the looks. i agree that a person with talents and knowledge to live up to the challenges of life has always the advantage. thank you for this discussion. have a nice day. ann
@pepayz (43)
31 Jan 10
When I was in Grade 4, I was new in Cebu City Central School.Because I grew up in a barrio with my grandmother, I was very small.My body building has not matched with my age. My growing up in Layte was a little bit slow coz I have no vitamins to supplement my unbalanced diet.When I transferred here in Cebu, my classmates and schoolmates are all very big. I was afraid of them. But, one day, my classmate teased me and provoked me that it resulted to a fistfight. We went outside of the school premises and there I challenged her to a duel. We were like David and Goliath,in that, I won the fight.Hep,hep,Hurray.That incident proved the saying that "small is terrible".
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
hi pepayz, i realize now that size is never a hindrance as long as you are determined, you will be able to get what you like and want if you put your mind to it. that was great! you didnt allow to be bullied. hurray! have a great day. ann
• Australia
30 Jan 10
One continuing event affected my life, not just growing up but for years later as well. Every day of my life, as far back as I can remember, until I was 22 years old, I was told I was totally evil; an ugly freak; no one would ever want me, so I might as well do the world a favour and kill myself. Naturally, I had no friends. My life changed completely when I was 22 years old and that brainwashing, along with the long years of all kinds of abuse, lessened its impact on my life. I have been VERY happily married for almost 50 years (in March) and have a wonderful family. I can look back on my first 22 years and be thankful for all that happened, because it made me what I am today. I am pleased to hear YOU overcame your problems in your early life.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
dear cloudwatcher, i am very happy for the positive change that happened to you. it makes the world much nicer to live in, right? problems just dont disappear, but having them makes us strive for the better. thank you so much for your response. have a very happy weekend. ann
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
Hi tiger. Wow. That was an inspiring story. Congratulations to you! I'm happy that you didn't bullied those former classmates of yours when you're doing the interview with them. Know why? It's add but I think those bullies contributed something in your success. You worked hard to be better not entirely because of them but partly because of them right? I hope I am. Well, again congrats and be bigger! :p
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
hello pinkberryzz, i say when you get bullied and you are determined not to stay that way the whole time, tendency is you excel in something. maybe not in academics.. but you get wiser as the day goes. thank you for the kind words. well, i was hoping to hear about your experiences though. have a great day dear. ann
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
30 Jan 10
Hi ann, our lives had similarities when we were young. As we know times were different, at least when I went to school. The school had a policy, where students had to be 5'2" before they were allowed to wear long pants. Well going into year 9, I was the only boy who didn't qualify in a class of about forty. How embarrassing! Well I did get dispensation, and an exception was made, but that didn't stop a lot of students from making fun of my height. Well in that year I grew at an alarming rate and was almost at the class average by the end of the year. Actually, this was the second time I had an embarrassing situation at school. In only my third year of school, I contacted ringworm, and had to go to school wearing a little white cap over my shaved head. I think the bullying here effected me for the rest of my life, as from a confident little boy, I withdrew, and became extremely shy. Still to this day, small things embarrass me. Mike.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
dear mike, i can feel that you are the sensitive type. but i am sure that there are more positive things that has happened that have made you overcome these little "embarrassing moments". happy mylotting. may you have a very wonderful weekend. ann
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
There are actually a lot of changes that are still happening in my life now that I continue to grow up. Changes are in the form of physical, emotional, and psychological aspects. When I was a little girl, I was bullied by many people. I was very clumsy before and all I could do was to cry. I became stronger as time went by. But then when I met my boyfriend, everything has changed again. I was not possessive and insecure before. But with him, I always feel like there are a lot of things missing within me. I feel so imperfect. The views which I had with my life before changed all of a sudden. I took up nursing because I wanted to open and welcome a lot of opportunities abroad. But then it changed. I still want to go there but not yet now. I want to go there together with my boyfriend. Many things have been changed. And I know, many things will still change as time goes by.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
dear pentagan12, experiences would make or break a person. i am really hoping that as you grow, you find and grab the wonderful opportunities that life would bring you. be positive always. happy weekend to you. ann
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
for me the events was when a i had a crush on a girl the would changed my life while im growing up as a better man. to have a right girl in mylife. and that girl changed my life.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
dear mlno054321, being inspired is what makes the world go round. wonderful! thank you for your response. have a very nice day. ann
• United States
30 Jan 10
Well I couldn't say that I had many bullies growing up, but definitely struggle, which serves as a bully in its own way. I think one of the events that influenced me and changed my life when I was growing up was hearing my aunt tell me that I could be anything I wanted to be. I know it is cliche, but her saying those words to me really inspired me, I took them to heart and always pushed myself 110%. The other event which deeply influence my life was joining the Marine Corps. They taught me discipline, to be independent, to look clean and tidy, and to be respectful of adults and authority. They also motivated me to be the best person I could be and always strive to be the best at what I do. Once completing my term in the Marine Corps, I decided to go to college, I currently hold one Masters degree and am pursuing a second. I am also starting a business of my own. These are some of the experiences in my life that have truly effected me for the better!
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
dear jksmith, welcome to mylot. it is really difficult to have bullies around because i had to be alert all the time. but it was a good experience, in a way. and the people who love me, just like you has a very big impact on making us think positively. have a very nice day. enjoy my lotting. ann
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
I grew up in a very traditional family where children should always be obedient and polite to anyone. That's how I grew up until highschool. I am meek, does not argue with anyone, always nice to everyone even if they are not nice to me and never voice out what I think though I have a lot of ideas and things going on in my mind . I was a very smart kid though and always at the top of our class. Almost everyone in our school knew me because I have brains. My mother was a very religious woman so as early as grade school I'm already a member of our Church's choir and also a commentator. However, when I went to college everything has changed. I was able to pass the entrance exam for the premiere state university in our country. It was a very liberal school. I joined one of the Sororites and even became a Head of our Sorority. The once meek, nice, religious and overpolite girl was transformed into a woman with liberal mind, outspoken, aggresive, an activist, critic and a debater. I also became an officer of a political party in our school. My classmates in grades school and high school were surprised and shocked when we had our reunion. They could not believe my total transformation.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
dear ladyslipper, what a great transformation. good luck and more power to you. have a very wonderful weekend. thank you for this response. cheers ann
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
30 Jan 10
Hello Ann I grew up in the 50s and 60s, so many personal things AND public things went into changing my life. I can remember when we got our very first TV. I was 7 years old. I can also remember the first American man to go into outer space when I was in the 5th grade. I also remember so much about civil rights, women's rights, and other life-altering things on a large scale. And of course, there was the advent of technology. On a personal level, I remember the first time someone made fun of me at school and all the kids started laughing. I have been shy ever since. But I also remember the good times with many siblings, and the great examples set by my parents. Karen
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
dear karen, technology made so many changes in the simple ways we previously had. i am wondering how it will be 15 or 20 years from now. cars maybe flying already in the streets. our experiences while we were young has made us better persons. always there were downs in life, but there are also happy moments and wonderful memories that contributed to what we are now. have a nice day. ann