Do You Believe Honesty Is the Best Policy?

United States
February 1, 2010 10:36am CST
I've been having some conflicted thoughts lately. I recently cheated on my girlfriend of 2 years and well, I'm afraid to tell her. She's in London until the summer's end and I'm here in the states, I figured I could have a little fun while she was away and not feel guilt about it but I was so wrong. So in this case is honesty the best policy or should I keep my lips sealed to keep the relationship from going sour?
3 people like this
8 responses
• United States
1 Feb 10
I am saying that it would be best to come clean. If you do and she leaves you than you got what you deserve. The one night of pleasure comes with a price. I would hate for her to do this to you and keep it from you. Don't take her choices away from her. If you feel you can't tell her just put yourself in her shoes. Would you want her to keep this from you. I don't think so.
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Feb 10
nicely said. a woman's point of view is different from a man's. A man would say don't say anything, a woman would say tell her. Trust of woman. We, of course, are the ones getting cheated on (in your case), and we would want the truth.
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Feb 10
Because chances are she's going to find out from someone else. Trust me, she'd much rather hear it from him rather than from some random somebody.
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Feb 10
So I was reading your profile. and it said that you don't like a liar. Keeping your mouth shut is being exactly that. so isn't that what you are promoting for this guy? To lie?
1 person likes this
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Hi DannyRawr, You feel guilty about what you did and so I suspect you learned your lesson and probably won't be committing this crime again. right? It sounds as if you really care about this girl. I'm big on honesty but I think that sometimes it might be better to just keep quiet. If it was only a one time thing then all I see happening by telling her is hurting her and trashing the relationship. If you are sure that she won't hear from someone else then just keep it on the DL and don't do it again. ok?
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Never mind. Erase all this. I just read your other discussion. She deserves to know what she's dealing with. You should tell her the truth.
1 person likes this
@megamatt (14323)
• United States
1 Feb 10
In many instances, honesty is good but in many more, it is the furthest from the good thing. Some times, there will have to be information that will need to be omitted for the best. In these cases, just use your best judgment. Whatever happens, happens, as honesty can hurt but guilt eating you up inside might hurt just as much if not more.
1 person likes this
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Are you serious? I thought he felt bad!
1 person likes this
@natjohn20 (201)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
I don't believe honesty is always the best policy, sometimes in life there are things that you really cant be honest with, it will only lead you to more suffering and pain when you tell the truth so better yet don't be honest always. The only time you can be honest is when the situation is not that threatening to you or just minor to you but when it is threatening like example you've cheated on your girlfriend better yet to keep your mouth shut and never mention to is to anyone else. hehe
1 person likes this
@manoj1502 (854)
• India
2 Feb 10
In my point of view honest is the best policy. Its better to say the truth instead of cheating your girl friend. You know that you made mistake so better don't do mistake again by hiding. She would like you when you say the truth and she starts to trust later on. But if you hide this and one day if she knows her self about this than your in danger. This is in my point of view buddy. Take decisions as your heart say.
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Feb 10
you're a jerk. i hope you get caught =)
1 person likes this
@laglen (19779)
• United States
1 Feb 10
Absolutely do not tell her. this will kill your relationship and will not help your feelings of guilt. Hopefully you learned from it. If you do ever do it again, then break up with her.
1 person likes this
@RachelleNH (1407)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Ouch...I can't totally compare but I'll say this: my husband cheated on me (once) and she wound up pregnant. We had two kids-one only a baby. And when I found out (which I eventually did) I felt totally betrayed! It was over because I had lost my complete trust in him-even though it was only one time-that was enough for me. I'm not sure what you should do here-if you tell her-she might leave you-if you don't tell her she still might leave you. My sympathies-This is a hard position to be in!