are you a loner? are do you like to socialize with people?

@mitchii (154)
United States
February 3, 2010 3:12pm CST
some people dont like to be bothered with other people. they like to be by themselves, they find that when they are in a setting of people they just dont like to interact or socialize, and some people would rather have fun with themselves!! other people are what you call social birds, they love to go out to the latest spots hang out start up conversations and love to have lots of friends... which one are you?
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@ladym33 (10990)
• United States
4 Feb 10
There are times when I don't feel like be bothered but I would not say I am a loner. I am pretty social most of the time. My husband and I have a nice group of friends that we see regularly and I never have a problem striking up a conversation and talking to new people. So I would not say that I am a loner at all.
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
That better you are having a lot of fun and comfortable with the same set of friends as your husband have.
@sushie93 (1359)
• France
4 Feb 10
I'm more a loner than a extrovert, it's difficult for me to mkae new friend, it's like there is not the "feeling" beetween us and i don't want to be friends with them i don't know why. The only people who know as an extrovert person is my family and close friends (which are rare xD).
• United States
4 Feb 10
I do ejoy being around people but I am more of a loner. My best friends are animals. I have almost 20 pets at home. 8 horses, 8 dogs and 2 cats. I also have 2 kids, girls 19 months and 4. Sometime I perfere the quiet animals over the kids...ha..ha..ha. My husband is on the road for work and I am by myself a lot. I would also rather stay home then go out somewhere. I enjoy being alone.
@rubyxia (39)
• China
4 Feb 10
I have many friends,they are very kind to me.we help each oother,but most time i like to stay alone,reading books,playing piano,or just cooking for myself.I enjoy my life.
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
being a loner is a personal choice, mitchii. so is being gregarious or sociable. but those characteristics vary in time, even place. sometimes, however, these choices are simply knee-jerk reactions to situations. individual react and interact to different situations and crowds. there is no uniform reaction, i believe. but there is also what they term as in-born loner. that is already psychological that needs professional help.
@erdhee (57)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
sometimes i think i can live alone by myself and no one around me.. but, in a realize that cant be.. because im an ordinary human.. i need other people around me to do anything.. and i love to have lots of friends..
• India
4 Feb 10
i am an introvert type person......but love to be an social person and to make more friends....... i think that social persons are more happier than which are non social....
• China
4 Feb 10
I don't like to be bothered with other people,I like to be by myself,I feel uncomfortabel when I am with a lot of people who I am not familiar with.I just communicate with other people when need be,for example,when I am in work.But I like to be with my friends,my family,I feel very comfortable and I have a lot topics to talk.especially with my girlfriend.
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
I am in the middle between the two their are times that i prefer too be alone when i feel sad or depress or when i am in bad mood or have a bad day and much worst when i am sick. So no matter how joyous the occasion is no one could force me to go to any party even if they grab my neck or pull my hands those who invite me would just waste their time talking or persuading as i would not really comes or heed to their suggestion. While their are times I feel so bored that i would like to socialize and attend any parties as long as I am in the mood it becomes so easy for me to make new friends and enjoy the company of other people. When you feel alright , it just comes out as you could feel it within yourself being a natural their is no need to pretend having fun when inside your not really feeling happy. So their is no need to pretend if you like then go on and if your not feeling well it is also right to say no than to pretend alright which it could be noticeable if you pretend when it is not suppose to be which could be manifested in your aura.
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
I think that I would prefer to place myself somewhere in between. There were times when I do not want to be bothered at all by other people. I do not like getting surprised or unplanned visits because I do plan things that I do daily. At times, I would like to be with people and that is the time when I am already free of the things that I need to do. I call that as a breather or my de-stressing moment.
• China
4 Feb 10
I don't know which kind of people I belong.Cause I though I was a social bird before I enter the college.I love to hang out with many people and I have no trouble in meeting and talking with strangers.While things went changing when I enter the college far away from my hometown.I'm shock that i've been always have such a heavy accent.For a long time that I was shame to talk to other people because they were always ask"you are not a local,aren't you".What's worse,the way people think is also different from my hometown.Sometimes I just make a little joke while they seems can not find the funny point.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
4 Feb 10
In general I would like to have the balance of both me-time and people-time. I work everyday using me-time and I need it to work effectively and concentrate on repairs I do. I would then take the time I have to communicate to my peers what I need. In point, I only speak when I need something and it's understandable since at work I try not to stir up too much conversation besides a little joke every now and then just to lighten things up. When I get home, I want to know what my husband has been up to, what my brother has been up to as well. So I would mingle with the family and have dinner. At times, hubbie and I would go out to have a nice dinner. We'll be polite in asking what we want as it makes things great. We also like to learn new things so if it's interesting, we'll ask. It's also great as holidays roll around, we'll get to mingle more. Overall, my social life is reasonable. It's good enough that at times, we're spending too much time alone and others, too much with others.
4 Feb 10
I prefer to be a loner. It's not that I am an anti-social. I just like the company of myself. I don't really talk a lot to people and probably this is the reason why I am not in most parties. I only have few friends but I really enjoy them. :)
@wizteen (504)
• India
4 Feb 10
i am not much of a social bird. i prefer spending lonely time. but it is not like i avoid people all the time, i respond or have conversation to me if they approach me. but i am not like the ones who go out to places and makes new friends and atarts conversations, etc. sometimes i am lively when i have company and sometimes i am very silent and lost in my world kind of mood. so thats how i am.
@sirknight (118)
4 Feb 10
i am a loner i think i have always been that way because i prefer my own company it is not about dislike people and thing of that nature it is just a life choise to be a loner or not everbody on this planet is a individual ,we are all different from each other
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
4 Feb 10
i used to be around lots of people but i guess as i got older i only like to be around a few people now. i also used to like to be center of attention but no more
• India
4 Feb 10
I think I am more of a loner though I do like hanging out with my friends ocassionaly but having too many people around me bothers me a lot. May be it has a lot to do with the fact that I need judge others and they judge me plus I cant be myself in front of evreyone. Being alone is lot more pleasurable you can explore yourself and get in touch with the true you.
@tanchyka (213)
• Slovenia
4 Feb 10
I'm definitely a loner. I like to be by myself the most of the time. I do enjoy company though. I have a few close friends that I like to hang out with and I like to be with my family. But when I eat lunch out or something, I prefer to be by myself rather than hanging out with some people I barely know. I don't go out much because I don't know what I would do there. I don't know how to just ''hang out'' with different people that I've never seen before in my life and that are drunk. I need my space, every day.
4 Feb 10
i'm becoming from a loner to a social bird
@asanlee (408)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
hallo....It depends on my mood....sometimes I will feel like to be alone when I am in bad mood, I dont want to be disturbed by others. I will enjoy the time being alone, by sort out my thoughts, after I feel better then I will interact with others. When I am in good mood , i become talkative, so I need friends to share my happiness, i think it'll be more fun to be with lots of friends.