I was in the Magistrates Court today on my own and won!

@jennybianca (12912)
Australia
February 3, 2010 10:54pm CST
I was in the Magistrates Court today. Some of my friends here know I have had a lot of trouble with my ex. Ours was a situation of domestic violence. In an effort to deflect any charges or allegations of domestic violence, my ex tried to take out a restraining order on me. He failed today. Apparently he also tried to take out a restraining order on 21 Jan and failed then too. The amount of lies he told in his affidavit were incredible. I defended myself today. My ex has one more chance on 25 Feb. I have organised a lawyer for then. I will have a lot of affidavits. It was very nerve wracking waiting to go in court. I was taking deep breaths to calm down. I was very hot and perspiring heaps. I think that was nerves. My ex was also, but hiding around the corner. All this means that I have to spend a lot of time over the next few weeks organising my defense and writing out affidavits. So I may not be on My Lot much, for which I'm sorry. I have seen plenty of good discussions from many of my friends, and the new friends too, but I just won't have time to do much here.
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@ElicBxn (61192)
• United States
4 Feb 10
You take care of the stuff in your "real" life, this silly old website will still be here when you get back and those discussions will probably still be here for you to respond to then!
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@GardenGerty (128704)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Not only that, she will have some good discussions to start, letting us know how things have been going for her. Jenny is an inspiration for standing up to trouble.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
I still want to come back here every now and then over the next few weeks. Its great stress relief here and I enjoy My Lot.
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@ElicBxn (61192)
• United States
5 Feb 10
you go get him girl!!
@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
oh wow you are so very brave, I hope all goes well for you, I am not sure I could do anything like that, I wouldn't have the confidence needed, so I wish you well and lets hope you win...
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
It took me a lot of confidence I can tell you.
@dawnald (84206)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Feb 10
It sounds like you are well on your way to being out of that situation and that you are handling the situation well. Good luck. Hang in there and get past this next hearing, and I'm sure thing will gradually get better. Once real life stops being so demanding, you can come on back to the lot.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
I still want to be here from time to time, its good stress relief. I hope Im really out of this situation soon, but it is not likely, as I finally took the plunge and laid charges on a previous assaualt by him.
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@dawnald (84206)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Feb 10
Well maybe not soon, but I hope that there's at least a light at the end of the tunnel...
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
4 Feb 10
Jenny, important matters like this needs a long and careful strategy from you. It is a battle that will determine your total freedom from the clutches of your ex and happiness in the next chapter of your life. You are a strong woman and I am confident that you will win the court case hands down. Your MIA is well understood.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Careful stragedy is a good description of what I need to do. Im have already bergun my response and when I see my lawyer next tuesday he will help me.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 10
Thanks for the BR. Looks like I've won a case here.
@donna22 (1120)
4 Feb 10
Well done on being so brave and standing up for yourself. Im sure it was not easy for yo but you have done it and I am sure that you will be as successful the next time you are in court. I think having a lawyer with you is a good idea, even if it is only to give you that little extra help and support.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Yes, I needed the lawyer and he can set me on the right path with my defense. Thank you.
@artistry (4153)
• United States
4 Feb 10
...Hi jennybianca, How impressive that you took control and stood up for yourself, not only that, but you won. To represent yourself takes a lot of courage and will power to focus on what you want to say and to remember all your points. Good for you to have gone in there and stayed strong, I am very sure that you are proud of yourself. Good luck to you the rest of the way. Hope everything turns out well for you. Take good care.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
I onlky had 1.5 days notice as well. It was stressful, and I hope to be far less stressed next time.
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@cerebellum (3869)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I would think after your ex was refused a restraining order once he would quit trying. Sorry to hear you'll be so busy with negative things. You'll probably be happy when it's all over! Good Luck!! I hope the next time we hear from you, you'll have some positive news.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
I hope to be back here from time to time, as I would stress out if I only worked on my court preparations.
@sirknight (118)
4 Feb 10
what magistrate court in what counrty
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Adelaide Magistrates Court, South Australia, Australia.
@Sandra1952 (6051)
• Spain
4 Feb 10
Hello, Jenny. Well done for not becoming a victim. He may have abused your body, but he hasn't touched your spirit, as you have proved to yourself and everyone who cares about you. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and you are one helluva strong woman. Good luck.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Thanks very much. I can not and will not let this destroy me.But it takes me I have to take action.
@babyEj (1523)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
WOW! your the real "WOMAN" who knows how to take care the stuffs of the real life. Your ex is really fool not to notice that..It's hard to find WOMAN like us who knows what's and how's.... GREAT JOB! Don't worry his going to loose...
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Oh, he notices that I take care of things, but he really resents it.
• United States
4 Feb 10
Good luck to you! I think that winning so far can only help in your future battles.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
It's going to take a lot of preparation to get alll my evidence and affidavirts together. But my ex has gone so far with his lies, that I think it will come back to him in one great fall.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
4 Feb 10
It is earnestly hoped that you will be judged right by the judicial echelon.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
I was confident yesterday when I met the Magistrate that she will be fair.
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Give the matter in hand your full attention. What happens there will have far-reaching effects. I'm sure all your friends will be thinking of you and hoping everything turns out well. MyLot and your friends will still be here when things are settled.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
It will almost have my full attention, but not quite. I will get back here whenever I can over the next few weeks. Its good for my stress and I love it here.
@GardenGerty (128704)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Jenny, you will do well. I am adding you to my prayer list, and I know you will be very prepared. What did you supposedly do to need to have a restraining order against you? We will still be here when this is over, and we will be looking for more discussions from you.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Thank you very much. I didn't do anything to be the subject of a domestic violence restraining order. Except tell the truth. This is one of my ex's tactics to make it look like I am the one who commits domestic violence. He is very fearful of what he has done and what I may say, so he is trying to shift the blame. Not a good idea, as it will snowball and make him look much worse. Yesterday, I laid charges of assault. Not many people know about this yet.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
All I can say jenny is best of luck.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Thank you.
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@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Feb 10
jennybianca hi don't worry about mylot and just take care of yourself.hope you can get all that you want to accomplish and get your offense well stated so you win hands down.I hope other mylotters will add their prayers to mine for you to win hands down which I am sure you will anyway but we could just add some prayer power to the mix. good luck and God Bless.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Thank you very much for your prayers Hatley. It will take a lot of work on my part, but I think I will win.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Good luck Jenny. Just take things one step at a time and you'll get organized. Don't be anxious about anything. In the end, the truth always wins out. Hang in there and I'll remember to say a prayer for you.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
5 Feb 10
Taking things one at a time is a good move. Theres still a lot to do, and I apologise that I have not fullfilled by committment to help you with the copok book. Hopefully I will have time to do so later.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Oh, no apology necessary Jenny. You have way more important things to take care of.
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@mzz663 (2778)
• United States
6 Feb 10
I hope you do well and can understand the job you have ahead of you. You have to do what you have to do in order to make yourself a better person throughout this ordeal. Wishing you luck and I'll still be here with you on my friends list when you get done with that mess. Best of luck!!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
7 Feb 10
I have spent a lot of time the past two days doing my affidavits. I see the lawyer on tuesday.
@lelin1123 (15634)
• Puerto Rico
5 Feb 10
I'm so glad you won and I will hope and Pray that all goes well for you on February 25th. Stay strong and pray and things will work out in your favor.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
6 Feb 10
Thank you very much. I will prepare well for Feb 25.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
5 Feb 10
Some things have to take priority over everything else because they are too big to be pushed aside or put off. It is perfectly understandable that you may not have as much time here, what you have in front of you is serious and all consuming and I think you are very courageous for facing it head on. You will be so glad that you stood up to your ex when it’s all over. You focus in what you have to do and we will all be here waiting to hear how it went. Best of luck, you’re in my prayers and my thoughts! You go, Jenny!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
6 Feb 10
I know I have to stand up to my ex, its very stressful, but it has to be done.
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