Do you have any regrets of your past acts?

India
February 4, 2010 8:53am CST
Like I should not have done that or I must have done that... We all make wrong decisions in life, so it happens... I should not have entered into business with out adequate funds. I must have started my efforts to make money on internet a couple of years ago. There are a few more too.. Now it is your turn to share..
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@illfavors (592)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I think we have all done things in the past that we regret, however these are the things that we are able to learn from and can make us a stronger person by knowing the repercussions of our actions and how it effects our lives and others.
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@jaiho2009 (38989)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
hello dear brother, I had so many regrets from the past...but,i never felt any regret. There were few things and decision i made that went wrong...but i never tell myself i regretted about it. Regretting things will only give us some pain and negative thoughts,and often lead us into blaming ourselves or someone. When things went wrong...honestly i do felt sad/upset/regrets...and after that,i forgot about it. I always look at the better and brighter side of mistakes that i already had done. It is true that,we learn more from failures ,and it is the best teacher. That,mistakes will give us better direction not to commit the same thing again. That mistakes will give us best idea how to overcome and solve if by chance we'll encounter same situation ahead. Past is past..and we are not condemned to live with the past, but,to walk through the path of tomorrow making our past as our inspiration and challenge for a better future. I never regretted loving my Indian prince,thu,he broke my heart,i know he still love me the same
• India
4 Feb 10
Oh you are still thinking of the Indian Prince? I wish you forget the prince and settle down with a real man. BTW is there any queen in Phil? hehehee
@jaiho2009 (38989)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
ohhh...dear bhai,you think my Indian prince is not a real man? good...now i know my Indian prince is not man enough (hahaha) uhmnn...yah...i will try to find the Philippine Queen soon (nyahahaa)
• India
4 Feb 10
I agree he is a real man but he is not really a man, otherwise he would not have done that to my dear sis. I wish you to be more careful in future especially with online people.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
4 Feb 10
We all have a little regret but in time we'll forgive ourselves hopefully for feeling the guilt, shame, remorse whatever it is that makes us keep remembering certain situations. I have learned to give up the 'what if' questioning and live it out as it has let me live a more vivid life without worries plaguing the soul out of me. I do regret at times, perhaps wish is more descriptive that I was financially sound, but that's almost everyone here so that makes me feel better. Another regret is finishing my education so my dad can save face. I guess, I can but I have made choices of which I now understand makes other people unhappy. The point is, I am happy where I am.
• India
4 Feb 10
That is the way one should live thuhuong, it is a great attitude.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
7 Feb 10
Thank you vij, I hope you are not regretful inside as well, as it tends to eat us. Live and live well my friend, have a great day!
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Feb 10
hi vijayanths oh yes a year and a half ago when my son got the first inkling things were wrong in the company where he worked I should have insisted he look for another job then, as the boss had cut his salary as a computer programmer way back, my son now agrees with me too. things kept getting worse til he was laid off in Sept of that year. would have should have, these keep haunting me now hes still out of work, and we are separated. but who knows whether it would have worked or not.also I should have tried to make more money myself. but that was then , this is now.
@vandana7 (72433)
• India
4 Feb 10
Things will turn around Hatley. Hang in there. It is only a question of few more months now.
• India
4 Feb 10
Hi, Hatley, don't worry. I am sure your son will soon get a good job. You will make good money too.I like your never giving up attitude. I am also like you. Success may not be with us now. But it has to come to us one day, there is no other go for it...
@Mady2791 (547)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Only one...but it's a long story; can't tell :( Naiviety and going through trial and tribulation played a mayor role which makes you vulnerable and you lose common sense too. :(
• India
4 Feb 10
It is ok mady. We sometimes make blunders in life and that is all in the game of life.
@vandana7 (72433)
• India
4 Feb 10
Hi vijayanths, several things actually. I wish I had studied hard to become some professional. I wish I'd trusted my papa and told him all my problems when I was young so that we had a better rapport at the right age. I wish I had not bottled up so much to become a spitfire erupting like a volcano. I wish I'd not trusted some wrong people. I wish I had not changed some jobs. I wish I had waited some more for some financial decisions. he he. But I am not unhappy where I am. :) In fact, this is the most peaceful phase of my life, after a few years that I enjoyed during my childhood!
• India
4 Feb 10
Oh too many regrets vandana? I also have too many. But you are going strong even now and that is a great attitude I like in you.This is another surprise that you are living in the best part of your life with complete happiness. Great. I wish you lend me this attitude a little for some time?
@Buchi_bulla (8304)
• India
4 Feb 10
I should have asserted my rights is the main regret for me. This could have saved much of my problems. I should have been more courageous in life. My timid nature has taken away much of my happiness.
• India
4 Feb 10
Hi, Buchi fear seems to be the cause for all kinds of failures in life. Sometimes it is better to be a little tougher than what we are, what do you say?
• Australia
4 Feb 10
i regret alot of things i've done in the past... but without them i wouldn't be where i am today... and i try to think of it like ...dont regret cause it was exactly what you wanted at the time. =)
• India
4 Feb 10
In a way what you say is correct Narneybum.
@donna22 (1120)
4 Feb 10
I dodnt think anybody can go through life without making bad decisions. It is how ee grow and learn but I do not beleive in regrets. Well I do but I think it is important to remember that as long as we learn from them that is the important thing. I think NOT learning from a mistake is the biggest regret anyone can have.
• India
4 Feb 10
well said donna, if we don't learn from our mistakes and repeat the mistakes again we will regret a lot after.
• United States
4 Aug 10
No I have no regrets why? Ever mistake , every anxious moment has brought me here to this moment in time. I am Finally happy.All the things in my past has made me the person I am now. All the elements made my happiness possible.
@geniustiger (1696)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
I have a regrets in my small business venture entered. This was the real thing, it is a kind of ntworking one. I will try to sales talk and invite everyone to be a member of it. And I let them purchased under me. For the purpose of targetting the said amount for rebates and promotion. And as I did I got it. To the extent that I forgot to limit my credit purchases. It come up with bad debts of mine and my members and I really suffer until now. My regrets if I limit and look upon it clearly its not good as I think.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
5 Feb 10
This thing i agree with you..whenever you start any business, you should have enough money to invest..in every business there are some requirements and till you dont go that way, you can't earn enough....this i have learned from forex...people are attracted to it, as they hear from some that they have earned too much from it, but they try to earn it by investing 5 or 10$, which is never possible in this business, when you invest enough you can expect big profits...or you will keep losing and blame others for that...so to do any business..do it in the way it is done...
• India
5 Feb 10
I think few things on similar lines sometimes but there is no meaning about thinking on something which is already gone away and not in our reach to correct our mistakes. I think everyone will have some regrets in life as no one is perfect in all aspects so this is part of life. We should give our best and hope for the best. Happy Thoughts :)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
hi there. vijayanths, i believe we all have our share of regrets in life. I want to share mine with you too. Actually, it was so shameful to be sharing with. I had a relationship with an already committed man. From anybody's point of view, it would always sound so bad. but the whole story was, he courted me years ago, keeps going to my office, keeps letting me know how he feels for me. I really don't know y i dont like him then, i even hate his guts so he went away. Until 3years after we saw each other, he was then committed to somebody, We said our hi's and hellos, we talked and then i dont know what went wrong, i just then realize how much i love him. It agonize me to think that it could have been me he's committed now IF ONLY I HAVE CHECKED MY REAL FEELINGS FOR HIM WAY BACK THEN. then he said he loves me still,even now. Yes, I may have been so selfish but I loved the man at that point in my life that i was willing to do just anything for our relationship to be legal. We we're so madly in love with each other, we keep seeing each other, planning things for just "US". Until it sinked to me that i cant go on, thinking Im on the verge of ruining a FAMILY. I have recovered from that but i cant find myself loving somebody else not him. Now what do think is my greatest regret...
@nykel88 (1003)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
My nursing requirements for graduation isn't done yet! I regretted that day when my teacher told us to make your requirements earlier so that you don't have to cram in making them in the next 6 months. Now since that time I didn't do my requirements and I have only 1 and half month left to complete it. I should have listened. I could have enjoyed going clubbing already. ^^
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Feb 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I have something that I regret most in my past acts. For example, I sometimes make my mom so angry with me.When I think about it, there is really no need for me to let my mom upset. It was always my fault. I think I should apologize to her here. I wish her a very good and happy life in the future.
@ErrSmth (39)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 10
well i did make lots of mistakes in my past life. from silly decision to serious wrong decision that i made. but i'll go with the silly one for now. i happened when i was sitting on 1st grade. i still don't know which money have more values. when my mom counts the money she earned from her job, i steal a piece of the stack. it was the biggest value note in my country. then i got caught. so she ground me for 3 days. thats from me... XP
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
5 Feb 10
There is one regret - I should have been tough, assertd my rights in a very tough manner.I must have been less emotional and more confident with relatives. THese are things that I WILL always regret.But I always think that whatever happens is GOd's will and these can only be lessons for the future.
@diyonzi (117)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Hmm.. that's a good question.. but I think in life, whether you were right or wrong in your decisions, at the end of the day you still benefit from it. You gain from it because it's when you learn your lessons. You would never be who you are or where you are now if you haven't gone through things, may it be right or wrong. Think of it as blessings in disguise because it made you wiser and even more careful the next time you get to make another decision. We shouldn't lead lives full or regrets. Instead consider them as learning experiences which you take with you in your life's journey. ;D
• Australia
5 Feb 10
Hi Vijayanths,I definitely have regrets that could have had different outcomes if only I'd used some common sense. I had to agree with you that fear is a contributor in why we make wrong choices. Loneliness is also another controlling factor. It would be interesting to see what was the major reason for peoples regrets. Would I allow that factor to make me have more regrets or to be a stronger person?As I look at my own life I can only take things on a day to day basis; hoping that each day I will be wiser because of the mistakes I've made. Making for a better tomorrow.