What will you do if your friend started to ignoring you?

@avimra (456)
India
February 6, 2010 9:36pm CST
I crossed this situation. Really, it pained a lot. However, I learned to forget it and to move happily. I learned a lot during that time. Its because of my one small mistake. my friend started ignoring me. Thanks to God, we become friends asusual again.
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8 responses
• United States
7 Feb 10
Well, if it had been my fault, obviously I would apologize and try to explain what happened. If it wasn't my fault, then I would probably try to figure out what was going on, and if I had anything to do with it. If they continue ignoring me afterwards, they weren't really my friend to begin with, and it's not worth being with them. Glad you were able to figure out the problem though! :)
@avimra (456)
• India
7 Feb 10
Yes! its not worthy to have a friend if they are not ready to understand. There is no use in it. Luckily, I have many friends who can understand me, mostly all friends. Sometimes if they can't, I try to understand their situation.
• United States
7 Feb 10
Yea, that's excellent! Good for you, you sound like you are a great friend! :)
• India
7 Feb 10
At a time people misunderstand others because of some or the other situatioon but that does not mean separation from relation whether its friendship or any other relation. We are human being and can make mistakes unknowingly. I would prefer to talk to my friend and find out the reason of ignorance, if its was my fault and that's why he/she started ignoring me, definitely I will say sorrow and make him realize that it was a mistake and did not mean to hurt him/her. So be open in all relations and definitely there will be less problems :)
@avimra (456)
• India
7 Feb 10
Nice response. Thanks for sharing your thought. I too think the same. Humans may do some mistakes at certain times, it is good to analyze what happened and don't let it happen for next time.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 10
Well, apologize to him/her is the best way to make the situation better. But if she/ he won't forgive me, maybe i should try to find another friend and not repeat the same mistakes that i have been done.
@avimra (456)
• India
7 Feb 10
Yes, apologizing is important. Thanks for your opinion. Have a great day!
@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I had that problem just recently. It did hurt. A lot. I was so sad and wondering what I had done to deserve it and I wanted to fix it. In the end it was just that we had spend so much time together the week before and she just needed a break. Everything got good again and so now I make it a point to give her some time to herself and we have not had a problem since. Sometimes the smallest things hurt the most, but usually they can also be easily fixed.
@davidshin (143)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I had this problem too! What I did was, in a way, I backed out of their lives a little, and then after a while I began talking with them again, and I became close with them. I think if you give them the space and time needed for them to recovery, whether it was your mistake or theirs, they will eventually confront you or just forget about it when you confront them. Either way, it's good. :D
@avimra (456)
• India
7 Feb 10
Yes! Giving time is necessary for recovery. As a proverb,'Haste makes Waste'. So, being calm for a while is good and we can be friends again.
@madoarty (55)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
It also happened to me before. It was just because I wasn't able to greet her on her birthday not because I forgotten but because Im too busy with my work and not wondering that the day has passed. She start ignoring my calls. But I went to her house and ask for my apology. After my apology I promised not to do it again then she accepted it and again we get back together in each arms.
@avimra (456)
• India
7 Feb 10
Good. Lucky you! Sometimes I too fight with friends, if they forgot to wish me on my birthday. I too got scolded from my friends for that.
@pengbubu (1011)
• China
7 Feb 10
Firstly, I will find out if I did something wrong, I will apologize if so. If not, then I will let him/her ingnor me for a while. And eventually she/he will talk to me. Have a good day, Avimra.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
Hi avimra,Well,it was happened to me few months ago.I said hI to her,but she does only looks at me and turn back.It was so painful for me.I dont know why?I did'nt done something wrong with her.It makes me cry.My other friend told me to leave her at that moment.But after a week she explained to me the reasons why and said sorry.I understand her situation but at first i was dissapointed.Now we back to normal as a friend.Have a nice day!