loneliness

@pree70 (525)
India
February 7, 2010 10:29am CST
i am feeling so very lonely today. i feel life is so very complicated and i am making a mess of it. inspite of going through some very tought times, especially in relationships, i find that i still havent learnt my lessons properly. i wish i had the power to go back in time and undo the many mistakes i comitted in the past. I wish i had the power to look into the future to see what it holds for me. i wish i could hold back these tears as they flow down my cheeks....
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@neha1987 (58)
• India
8 Feb 10
Lonliness is something which just turns u off and it comes when nothing goes the way you want in life.The best way to come out of it is do something productive and stop thinking of wats going on . its just not ur day after every night theres a bright new day
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• India
8 Feb 10
Vav! Neha1987, the words it is just not ur day after every night there is a bright day is simply superb. It is a tonic for depressed hearts. It is a ray of hope for a gloomy soul.
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• United States
7 Feb 10
Life is a joureny in which we sometimes find our selfs alone or lost on the path.Just keep moving ahead teh forest will clear out soon enough and you will find what you have been looking for.Just keep learning and living.Your never really alone in this world.
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@pree70 (525)
• India
7 Feb 10
thank you for your words of wisdom. i am usually a very cheerful soul, but i don't know what is happening to me these days. i wish i could get out of this rut and continue with life as before...
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
loneliness is something we don't want to feel but then it suudenly just come along the way.. start cheering yourself up and think positively..
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
sure will try to move ahead cheerfully. thanks a lot for the encouragement.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
8 Feb 10
Dear friend, I hope loneliness is a part of our life. I do several times been lonely and myself I break my loneliness with other engagements like browsing, reading, watching movies so on.. At times I do also like loneliness. But it really hurts when it comes when I do not like to be in loneliness. Any how hope you will soon get a better chip inserted in your head to break those loneliness that hurts you..
@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
i hope too so, my friend. how uncomplicated it would have been if we could change chips in our head according to our wishes or moods...:)
• China
8 Feb 10
Hi, pree70, Cheer up! I would not say those things like happiness is out there for you to discover...when you are deeply lonely, everything seems so far away. I have been there, and I am still strugging to get out of there. Just wanna say Cheer up, althought there would not be possibilities to go back and change the past, we can still try our best to make our best efforts to do things right, and make it work in the furture!
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
thanks a lot, friend. right now, i am definitly trying to get out of my mood and think positive.
• India
8 Feb 10
hey cool . . wen eva u feel alone o disturbed just do meditate nd relax ba listenin to gud tune . .
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
thanks. i will take your advice.
@eunice22 (27)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
i feel so lonely this day..not exactly LONELY..because i have a lot of problems..but its ok..as i said i have a lot of problems...but i have a millions of friends taht der for mr..wenever i need dem...im so lucky...that i'm a lonely..bcoz..ther are a people..who are there ust to make me happy..
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
i know.. i just realised it through mylot. a lot of people are consoling me and i really don't feel alone anymore
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
8 Feb 10
Well Pree70, we have all been there before. At a place where we feel lonely and almost as if nothing in our world is going right. But you must try to see past it and realize that everybody have their good and bad days, it's how we handle them that matters and the choices that we make in between. Cheer up the world isn't coming to an end yet. You still have your life before you and you just need to think about all the good that you have going on in your life vs. all the things that may not be happening. I believe that the quiet times in our lives are times when God is working the hardest to bring us to a place of humble spirit and humility. Sometimes he's gotta break us before he can remake us.............. God bless you.
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
thank you very much for those heartfelt blessings. you have brought cheer into my life with these hopeful words and i know that god is still with me, showing me the way. i know that i am just going through a bad day, but somehow it gets so depressing sometimes. i should learn to take such days in my stride and carry on with life...
@vandana7 (98700)
• India
7 Feb 10
Hi pree70, one elderly gentleman once told me that do not regret anything that you lose, because god just takes it away so that he can return it to you later when you need it the most! He was, of course talking in terms of money. I extrapolated it to other areas. In my opinion, god saves us from possible hell, or has better plans for us. Whatever we want or ask cannot be as good as what god wants to give us. Therefore, trust him, and move forward.
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
thank you, Vandana for sharing this sound advice with me. I do believe in the power of God and think that whatever happens is for my own good. but some days i feel very low in esteem and tend to forget that i am in his loving care. thanks for reminding me that i am not lonely. i am sure things are going to be alright.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
Hello my friend, don't worry because you are not alone. I myself also have a mistakes and I also want to turn back the time so that I don't have any regrets and mistakes now. I always think every night all the things that I had done that made me suffer right now. I am alone physically because my family is away so as my lover. I am pregnant and when I feel alone I'm getting stressed but I divert my attention by reading novels because i know it will harm my baby. I believe that this situation is not permanent and it will go to an end soon. So my friend, have courage and patience because it will end soon.
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
it is indeed great that you are going to bring forth a new life. please accept my congrats. i also appreciate the fact that you are already so much concerned about the baby. i am sure you will make a wonderful mother. thank you for your encouraging comments, friend.
@artistry (4152)
• United States
7 Feb 10
...Hi pree70, In life as others here have indicated, things happen which make us feel oh so bad. But if we think about it, time brings about a change. I would suggest that you try meditating to help yourself cope with trying times. You need a reserve of internal strength. Next I might suggest,that since you feel lonely, if you are physically healthyenough, you get involved with a group such as the boy's or girl's club, to help others and give yourself a diversion. Finally, start to exercise, when we exercise we release endorphins in the brain, which are like happy hormones, they help your body get to a better place. Begin to exercise at least twice a day, you should begin to feel a difference. If the sadness continues look for Omega3 oil, take it daily, it helps with mood swings. Good luck to you,try to think in a positive mode.
@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
i like the meditating part and want to do it, but somehow i lack the concentration required. i am seriously trying to get into yoga. i must take your advice on exercise. maybe you have a point there. infact, i am having sleep problems too which could be due to the stress i am undergoing. perhaps exercise could be an answer to it...
@sushie93 (1355)
• France
7 Feb 10
Don't be so sad Pree70, the past belongs to the past, you have to learn lessons from your mistakes to build your future. "Nothing happen by accidents" (KungFu Panda's quote), there always are a reason about all yours mistakes, you must accept them like i did, watch in front of you and not behind you and prepare yourself to fight in order to success in the future! Don't think anymore to the past, always profit of your present: "Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery but Today is a gift. That is why it is called the present" (Kung fu Panda's quote, oh yeah i love this movie lol
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
thanks a lot for sharing the Kung fu Panda theory. what you say is absolutely true. there in no point in brooding about the past. i will definitly try and live in the present and make it as wonderful as possible. have a good day, friend.
• United States
8 Feb 10
I have these problems and wishes as well. I made a lot of mistakes in my life and i wish i could go back in time to change what i did wrong. Because i cant i tell myself to focus on the present. The thing is im scared of the future mistakes i'll make, I feel as if i cant change the past or predict the future. I don't know how i can change what i did or what im going to do but what i can do is say im sorry. A simple im sorry cant change the past or future but i can change the present. How i helped im some way and hope your outlook about life changes.
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
that's really a very noble thought. when we repent for our mistakes from the bottom of our hearts, i am sure god forgives us. i pray that you find happiness in your life.
@davidshin (143)
• United States
8 Feb 10
Well, what you can do is start thinking about the future and let go of the past. When you think about how happy you were in the past, you wish you can go back into the past. When you make mistakes, you keep looking back to it and you end up making mistakes which you regret. "Do not worry about tomorrow's problem, because today has enough problem of its own."
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
i think i should start living in the present because i really have no control over my future. i just pray that i don't commit the same mistakes i did in the past so that i don't have to learn those lessons again..
• United Arab Emirates
8 Feb 10
Hey Pree, i understand how you feel but i want you to always remind yourself that every mistake made can be undone in the future by learning, learning and making sure you learn from those mistakes, its difficult though especially when you are lonely and don't have someone to encourage and be there for you.....your future will certainly hold some fantastic things for you as i feel its going to be a wonderful time when its comes....would really like to be a friend, add me as i hope we both can be there to share our little time here together and stop being lonely...
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
thank you very much. i too hope and pray that things are sorted out soon in my life. even if they are not, i pray that God gives me the strength to face my problems with a smile on my face...
@illfavors (590)
• United States
8 Feb 10
I feel lonely all the time, since I am at home alone when I work. I hate it. I would rather have a job out in the public where I at least have some interaction with people.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 10
It is only normal their are times person becomes so depress and you have many things which you deeply regrets. It is good to spend sometime with yourself alone and then reflect and after ward continue your journey to life never surrender for out of darkness their still ray of light and changes to happen even in sadder moments their a chance to make a change for the better. just do all things right and eventually some good things would also happen as long as you never lose hope and believe!
@pipayst (140)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
We all wish we could change the past. Make it so we wouldn't have to be such imperfect beings. But you shouldn't ignore the present that is given to you each passing day. I like to think that sometimes we are caught in a spell. Something that binds us but we don't know when it will be broken.
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
Hi pree70! We all feel these complications in our lives, and it gets me to thinking why when I know I didn't do anything wrong that could bring about such situation. But we shouldn't let it take the best of us. Relationships are always bittersweet. So there's still something good in store for you.
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@pree70 (525)
• India
8 Feb 10
i really hope so. it is not that i am afraid of facing problems, but some days i just feel so very let down and exhausted and long for some peaceful times...
• India
8 Feb 10
yes yes yes i have felt the same many times in my life . the worst part about being lonely is u get so frustarted that u end up doing something wrong and feel negative vibes. it has happened to me on more than one occasion . The best part to come out of it is to be occupied with some work or other of ur choice so that u dont get that emotion cheers
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