Delete

Argh! I hate that when your entire discussion disappears like that! All that thought and writing for what?! I kick myself for not copying and pasting, but that's the way it goes. I hate rewriting. Crappy mood . . . I'm sorry. I hope whatever is going on gets resolved. We all have those kinda days - so hugs to you. I guess for me, it depends on what decision I need to make - and how urgent it is. I try to take action as soon as possible so I don't have to think about it anymore . . . more time thinking equals more stress, for me anyway. The times I do procrastinate is because I don't have to deal with the situation right away. Believe me, there are times I'd really like to put a bag over my head and not deal with some decision making - but that's life. Good luck with whatever you are deciding on!!

I absolutely freak out! And once i'm done freaking out... i try to make the changes as fast as possible.... I'm not one of these pro's and con's people... because i believe at the end of the day, no matter how many pro's and con's you weigh up, they're still going to be there... and it doesn't change my decision in anyway...

I think it through very Carefully before I make those major Decisions I always have I hope everything is ok with you Dawn Hugs to you

I need to think about for few days, procrastinate for as long as possible. I don't hide, I hibernate. I don't run. I may discuss with my friends first. I like to make sure what I am doing. Mylotting is very helpful, makes me forget about real life...

I consider all the aspects from all possible angles and how it might affect anyone else involved. I do this all day for many days and nights too. Then I usually discuss with a particular friend unless I am certain that I only have one choice that I can make. Sounds bad Dawn I'm sorry that I can't help, well I doubt I would be of any use but my PMs are there if you need them.

Hi dawn, It has happened many times to me. That irritating sentence "unable to post content". I start asking myself what did I do wrong. Am I going to be deleted forever because someone decided my posts were not apt for normal eyes? After many of those terrorists bombings, I remember sometimes to do a copy-paste to a message that I send to myself. But the picture is lost. And the idea behind the words is lost too. If all that happens when I have other problems to solve, it is worse. But your post is mainly about what we do at the time when I have to make a mayor decision. And my answer would be all the alternatives you wrote down. Except that I´m never sure so that leaves one out. It so depends on what it is and how I am at the moment of the decision. Many times I lie to myself and try to convince me that I´m procrastinating for a good reason. Although I have good friends, I can talk about mayor problems with only one of them. To the rest, I´m the wise one and having that role makes it difficult to discuss my own problems. I hope your problems get solved one way or another. And if you need a shoulder: here I am. HUG!!!

I do not usually massive delete MyLot, but I do Gather. Decisions, I try to avoid them, but they wake me up in the morning, very early. I twitch and fidget internally, and they I often just trust my gut, hold my breath and jump in. I often put the necessary decision off too long, when I could have made the same one early on and avoided the discomfort. I have to be forced into some decisions.

Dawn, I am hoping that this doesn't mean what I think it might mean. I weigh things up very carefully. I usually make a list of pros and cons, with possible solutions beside the cons. I communicate (peacefully but in depth) with everyone concerned in the situation. While it isn't appropriate for all people, I pray about the situation, trusting my loving heavenly Father to work things according to His will and for the good of all concerned. Dawn you are a sensible person - fun loving but very sensible. I have every confidence that you will do what is best for all. My thoughts are with you. If I can help in any way, please email me. I won't be here very much for a few more days, but I check my mail regularly.

I am the type that always make the last minute decision in most matters especially when it come to mylot items etc. as always....... HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~

arg - sorry to hear you are having troubles - wanna come pet a cat? Might be able to find a chair for ya... I will either worry it until I have an ulcer, or, more likely, forget about it until I have to make a snap choice... notifications will just sit in my inbox until I get to them!

All of the above, especially the "or what?" option. I've found, though, that the "Run away" option rarely works out very well. Can you discuss any of it here?

Dawn, If you are overwhelmed by some heavy decisions, talk to someone you can trust not to critisize or judge you. I had to learn the hard way by confiding in my 2 Sisters who at first seemed to understand, but then turned on me. I truly will never understand their betrayal. Your Mylot friends are people who are going through many of the things you are going through. So, they understand and would never judge you. Talk to me. I feel as though I've been through just about everything. The point is, breathe and try and take it slowly. If crying is a need then let the tears flow. They will help wash away some of the confusion. I will PM my email address if you want me to listen and try to help. I will not judge. Big Hug... Leenie

Hi dawnald, Sorry you are feeling crappy today, I hope whatever your dedision you made was the right one, but if I have to make a desision about things, I lisent to my head before my heart and also to listen to my gut feelings, its normally right, so you do what is right for you. Tamara

I had one of those days today too. Work just wasnt cutting it for me I was so ticked and upset with them because I am not getting a good pay or even enough to pay the bills but work like a dog for them. How do they repay me by making it harder to work. Ugh Anyhow think things out and listen to your heart.

Sorry for your bad day there, with the unable to post content. It happens to me a lot of times before too, and sometimes I'm luck raging against the machine. Heh, something familiar like a band or song title there. Anyway, I can relate to your last line pretty much. It's like me scheming with my head against the world. Ha-ha, exaggerating. Plotting inside my head for my next move. Done that. Think about them for days. Done that. Run away? Nah uh, but sometimes feel like doing that. Discuss with friends? Nope, I don't really do that. Do it as fast as possible? Sometimes tend to want to do that, though the too fast too furious thingy doesn't work much sometimes. I think it's a stress reliever to delete notifications at one glance. It's a great mini-therapy. So no worries 'bout that, hon.

All those things and then I make the "right" decision that often turns out to be the wrong one after all. It's a good job that I am perfect or who knows where I'd end up! LOL.

hi dawnald oh how I hate those unable to post content messages but with me its always been a response, I did not get walloped with losing my discussion. I feel for you. I was thinking back when we had a lot of major decisions and the one I dreaded was coming there to a retirement center, I never had liked them, and frankly I still have mixed emotions but push came to shove, and I remember crying and saying I dont want to be stuck here, its too drastic , my son saying mom this is a drastic time so since I am 83 and partly handicapped I did see their reasoning. I was a bit too old to sleep on a park bench or hunt for homeless shelters every day so the decision was made for me with my final consent. usu ally before making a decision I do ponder the pros and cons, but in the days after losing our apt. things moved fast, I never ever imagined my son would not be able to get a job right away.So sometimes fate and loved ones step in and sort of maneuver you into decisions.Some times during that time I did want to run away, retirement centers are for people who want to just let everyone wait on them and not do a damned thing, this is what I hate. I am treated royally but I do not wanted to be treated. I want some autonomy instead. oh well better than the streets. Hope your decisions a rent quite as brutal.

maybe all of the above but it still boils down to u & what is best for u & your family. I hope u make the right decision, dawn. Good luck.

Hey dawn~ First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you are in such turmoil. I am the Queen of Procrastination so I don't think I am going to give you any wonderful advice that you need to listen to! I am only here as a concerned and caring friend. I am about the worst decision maker there is especially the more important and life changing the decision. So, I will now go off and sit in the closet as I would normally do. Sorry I couldn't be of any help~

I make lists and then I try to find someone I can talk to who has no emotion involvement with the situation because I need unbias input. Major decisions are always hard to do. Blessings