Teenagers and Drinking

Yeah, I think I would let my kids drink at home, once they're 16 or 17. I think teenagers are going to drink one way or the other, so you just have to deal with it. I don't know how I would handle it though, because I wouldn't want to tell them they could drink at home, and then they start doing it all the time because I said it's okay. But, I'm sure if you told them at the right time, in the right way, it wouldn't be a bad thing.

Hi Dorann, You are right Dorann. It's different now, teenagers are already well exposed to a lot of things even "drinking". now if they drink at home at least we parents are around to see and in a way monitor them. teenagers really need parents supervision in a friendly manner so that they will be able to feel comfortable relating with them and not a threat or something very superior. WE need to be creative enough to explain and remind them of all the consequences when it comes to drinking and other vices considering that their still young. there are lots of things that they can work on and focus their attention to.

Hi doranmwin, Well, I have a teenager still at home and three girls that are all grown. It is illegal to let your kids drink even in the privacy of your own home where I live. Still, I have at times let my girls have a few drinks at home. The rule was that once they had a drink that they were not to leave the house for any reason. I would rather have them drink at home rather than out and about. I alsways made it very clear to them that IF they were out and about and drinking that they wre to call me for a ride rather than to drive or get into a car with someone that had been drinking.

I would allow drinking at home. Allowing them to drink at home even when not of legal age is better than restricting them not to drink and then they do their ways violating your no drinking policy outside your homes away from guidance and very risky for accidents.Drinking at home would install in their minds that drinking should be in a safe place and just for fun not for any outrageous experimental behaviors outside. Doing it at home makes them feel the need of being responsible in everything they do when up drinking.

It depends, teenagers like me has a right and freedom. But it should take to moderate before something happens strange. They should not drink too much.

Im totally against drinking and none of my family members drink. its against my culture so i wouldn allow them at any age they are

that will always be a great idea. at least you know that they're safe and no need for them to keep secrets or lies about how many bottles can they take to keep standing.

hi dorannmwin I think maybe you have the right idea, as long as they know they cannot do this all the time at home. They are at least in a safe environment and will find out just what drinking is like. For onething if its not forbidden and is controlled at home, its less likely to be a temptation out in public where they are likely to be driving drunk on the street. come to think of it we also did this with our son when he was in his mid teens, and he drank very little when he was older and was never drunk. He was a very responsible person,and still is now.

i would let my kids drink at home instead going out somewhere and having something happen to them. but it wouldnt be like all the time

Hi Dorannmwin, I like your idea. I think when my kids grow up, (and I have 2, both boys), I will allow them to drink with their friends at home. This way, they know that they can have fun with their parents' blessing without forgetting the limitations (which I intend to set). And yes, this will minimize the risk of drunk driving among teens, so rather than worry about them drinking and driving at the same time, I'd rather accommodate all their friends at home.

Hi Dora, I wasnt allowed to drink at home at all. My parents didnt drink. My mom's father and her brothers did. She hated drunks. The drinking age here is 18. So when I turned 18, we celebrated in family with another friend of mine and her family at a cottage in the country. We had champagne and my mom wanted to make sure I wouldnt enjoy drinking, so they decided to play a game with us. We would make a toast and down our glasses. Needless to say, we both got drunk really fast and I was nearly out after the 3rd glass. So they took the champagne away and they kept an eye on us so we wouldnt drown as the cottage was by the lake. We made fools of ourselves of course and by midnight, we were both out. I felt sick for the next 2 weeks. Ive never been even tempted to drink after that. I still dont drink to this day. It works for some people but not for others, my friend does drink but only on social occasions. If I had kids, I think Id try this with them.

I don't have children but I do believe that teenagers shouldn't be drinking, it doesn't matter if they do it at home or not, if they have the desire to drink, they may do it at home, or they may do it outside in a party or some other place where it would be worst, I am a person who doesn't drink, just because I don't like it, and I don't understand the point of do it. I had a lot of temptations when I was in college, but the thing that makes me don't drink, was most of the time, the fact that i was a female, and I don't want to be tipsy, in a party environment where any guy can take advantage of that. Drink is only for adults, when they are teenagers they really don't know yet the consequences of the things they do.

To tell the truth, it's so hard to answer your question, when I am a teenager, I always want more space, until now, I still want my parents to give me more space so that I can experience many things, even if I may make some mistakes, what's more, I may do some things that make me regret, but on my behalf, all the things, especially the mistakes are treasure for me, because it can teach me lots of things. However, I can know about parents' feelings, they always want their children to be happy and safe, but the definitions of happiness and safe are different to child and parents. It's not easy to make a balance.But I want all the parents in the world to know that children never rebel or hurt their parents deliberately because they love their parents.