How will you face those friends who always disappoint you?

Hong Kong
February 15, 2010 10:33am CST
We all have friends in this world and we all know that friendship is a two way communication.It is also a give and take relationship.Sometimes you will help your friends and sometimes they will help you in return.Although it is not a trading relationship and sometimes it cannot be measure by how much you give and how much you will get.A real friendship shouldn't be that way.But what happen when your friends always disappoint you and hurt you without even knowing it.What will you do to responds to problems like that? Will you just tell them or will you keep you mouth shout and stay away from them silently?Share with us?
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@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
I have a friend back in college who somehow disappoint me. We shared a small business and there was a time she never gave the money she was supposed to give me. So at present I'am avoiding her, in facebook and even in yahoo messenger. The money was not the issue but the trust I gave her will never be reconcile.
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@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 10
As in my experience, if i countering a friend who always disappoint me, i just try to talk to them what they do to me or stay away from them for a while to make them think what they have just done for me... That just me...
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@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Feb 10
I am VERY picky about my friends. I believe in quality, not quantity. I agree with what you say about the ins and outs of friendship. First off I think there is a definition problem too. I have had co-workers that I liked and I have been friends with for a long time. I have met fellow school students and become friends. I think for me a good friend is one that sticks through the years. If they continue to disappoint me I would have to rethink my friendship with this person. Again though I am pretty picky as to who I remain friends with and to what degree I am friends with people.
@jugsjugs (12967)
15 Feb 10
I think that there are alot of friendships aswell as alot of relationships in our lives that work on a one way or one sided thing.I also think that when people have gone and hurt me or let me down i also think of ways to let them know how i feel aswell as make them feel the way i did at the time.I have been in the past very disapointed in a friend and so now i do not really worry if they come to see me or not.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
hello wild, If he/she is a very closed friend,i would surely tell her honestly what i feel. She maybe is not aware of what she's doing or saying. She maybe doesn't mean what she's saying. So,i would clear things with her right away,not to create misunderstanding. But,if she really meant everything,that she always want/like to disappoint me. Maybe,i will start avoiding her. It's not good to stay with a friend who's always thinking negative. A true friend is someone who will always lift up our spirit,and not to make us down,or feel sorry. A friend is someone who always thinks good for us and not to make things worse.
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@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
15 Feb 10
A true friendship cannot be put on the balancing scale, but if one side of the scale is always on the bottom, then it does means a lot for that friendship. I have a friend whom has disappointed me. Time and again, I always forgive her thinking she could be simply too caught up in her own stuff and couldn't make help but commit that mistake. Thus, I forgive her. I thought she would felt the apologetic. But over time, my forgiveness for her gradually runs out because she kept repeating the same thing, taking me for granted but I didn't tell her because it was too upsetting for me. I treated her as a good friend, a close one, but what I got in return, is a slot named "taken for granted". Thus, I choose to stay away from her. And trust me, I believe she doesn't even have a clue that I am so upset with her even till now.
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
15 Feb 10
We all have relationships like this. I am sure I have disappointed someone a time or two. If it really bothers me, I bring it up, let the person know how I feel. It may be they don't realize the effect they are having.
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• Philippines
16 Feb 10
I often face them as normal as i could as long as I could control myself then life goes on as usual. But if they interfere then it is time for me to ignore them just like you being silent is also mean you do not like to be involve or no care for whoever they are as long as you know you are right then have to stand on one ground defending self than always end up in defeat.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Feb 10
I don't think that a person that always disappoints you and always lets you down is a friend at all. In a situation like this one I will try to end the relationship with that person in the nicest way possible. I would still be able to consider them to be an acquaintance, but I don't think that I would ever be able to have the same kind of relationship with them going forward as I had had with them in the past.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
16 Feb 10
I meet those persons very carefully.. because i don't want again disappointed by them.. but i think.. i doing that whose i like.. if that person.. tell anything.. but if i realized that it is beneficial for me..so i don't care about it.. and i choose my own way.. keep mylotting always..