when getting a friends request at facebook or myspace
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
United States
February 15, 2010 11:17am CST
do you look and decide based upon their marital status on if you add them or not? if you are already married do you make sure you add people that are looking only for friends and not love too? or do you just add people and hope that they dont think your interested because they put they are looking for love and you ok'd them..
i have ran into some sites where it seems like you have to look and be more careful than others.. when i was on tagged it seemed like if they had they were looking for a relationship and friends if you added them they assumed you wanted to be more than friends and started getting some creepy people on there.. but at the same time i cant think everyone that is looking for both will end up creepy or that they will assume im interested because its not fair to others..
which do you do? do you play it safe and if you are taken only add people that dont want anything but friends or do you just add anyone and hope no one takes it as an invitation?
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22 responses
@itzmee1009 (362)
• Australia
16 Feb 10
hi friend,when i get the friendship request ,i used to check their profile,i dont bother about the martial status,but if the profile really look good and geniunue i will accept,or if the person is really looking of only female realtionship,then i used to ignore those kinds of persons.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
my biz myspace is my cat because i didnt want people to buy things from me and it just be because they want my address instead of buying something.. ive had too many stalkers in the past lol
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Feb 10
On MySpace and other social networking type sites I have made it a rule not to except male friend's requests if they are married. On Mylot I except anyone and I go through every few months and if a friend hasn't been active or I haven't heard from them then I delete them. If I get spams from these supposed friends then I delete them. This makes me very upset.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
i hate spammers!! i go through here too and delete anyone that hasnt been active in like 4 months.. i figure even if you take a break you would at least log in once in the last 4 months!
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Mar 10
I feel the same way. I can't believe how nervy some are too. And how they try to finagle around what they are doing. I check my friend's list every once in awhile too. And if I get spammer emails they are gone, no questions asked.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
in social networking sites like facebook, i don't just accept friends requests. i always make sure that i know the guy, if they are relatives or relatives of relatives. if they are co-worker from other places. speaking of FR coming from a strangers? NO. unless they send me a message telling their intention. i am married so no FR for a relationship will be accepted, sorry. 
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@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
16 Feb 10
I have 2 facebook accounts. One is for games and I will accept everyone as a friend. If it's a guy and they start PM-ing me trashy talk, I block them. It has happened a a few times, but with 3,500 + friends, it's to be expected. Most of the people just want a bigger mafia. I have chatted with a few nice people on that account, both male and female. We had civilized discussions about many things. That's fine.
On my second account the person must be a relative, real life friend, or a friend of a friend or a kitty/animal rights person for me to accept. We must have something in common.
I admit. I'm looking for love, but not on facebook. I am interested in conecting with people, keeping tabs on family and discussing animal issues. If I find love with someone in the process of discussions, great. It would be a side benefit. I wouldn't peruse anyone that way on facebook.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
i should make two accounts but dont feel like the hassle of making sure friends on one and fam on the other so i just use the filters.. thank god for a shrink that told me about it lol
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
3 Mar 10
If you don't mind one knowing what the other says or does, it's ok, but I don't want people in my family to know I'm addicted to Mafia Wars. LOL I'm really hooked on that game.
@moatasem71 (251)
• Amman, Jordan
16 Feb 10
if i want to do some thing i must be honest
the way to earn good friends that must tell them the fact of you
when i want to add some friends i will search about exact people which share me the same interresting
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
sometimes i rather make friends who are into other things so that i can learn something from them and them me based on differences in interests
@moatasem71 (251)
• Amman, Jordan
4 Mar 10
we must be faith about what we do
some people may accept friends but others must be care about that. it is depend.
@minotaur87 (769)
• Singapore
16 Feb 10
Although facebook is a social network website, I actually prefer it to be interactions between people who you want to know more about such as your real life friends and relatives and people you know through forums. There's no way that I would accept a friend request beyond that. If someone randomly want to add me as friend and want to get to know me better, I think it's really not effective use of time since I don't go to facebook that often. To me, facebook is just an additional tool to get to know friends better, not a starting tool.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
facebook is different than other places.. i have met most of my new friends on other sites.. any new friends from fb i got through other people but im being really careful on fb because of past experiences of other sites
@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Mar 10
I don't add people I don't know ..on Facebook. It's usually friends or relatives I know personally or friends of theirs. I think I've only added one 'stranger' who is 'very quiet' and besides playing a game or two of scrabble, we have not interacted much.
I prefer to play it safe...I've got burnt long back with chatting to strangers.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
16 Feb 10
I don't pay attention to marital status, because I am not looking for a relationship. I am already married, so whether the person's single, married, widowed, divorced, in an oppen marriage, gay, or whatever, it doesn't matter, because I am not looking for a relationship. If the person hits on me, I just un-friend them. So far that's never happened.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
i only look so i can get a heads up so if they say they are ONLY interested in a relationship i can save myself the hassle of friending them and telling them off then unfriending them lol
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
17 Feb 10
Regarding facebook I only add work colleagues or old friends that I knew of. Sometimes I have the odd request from strangers to add them up. Most of the times I decline their request. I have put some personal information and photos on facebook and I dont mind sharing it with friends but I hate that strangers can see it as well. Therefore I opt to leave them out.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
usually im an open book but an ex friend of mine apparently lost her mind and dumped me as a friend then got a profile to spy on me with and had me thinking this person was some one else.. needless to say i felt violated because even though im an open book there are some people that do not deserve to look in even if its not private.. if that makes any sense..
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
24 Feb 10
I don't usually look to see whether their married or not but I do look to see if they play any of the games I play. That's really the only part of Facebook I like is the games. I don't chit chat, talk or hang out with the other ppl there...I just play the games and move on. I don't mind adding strangers b/c there's really no contact there.
[b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~
**STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I said I'd never do facebook and then now I'm on it every day - LOL. I started with contacts I know friends, family, mylot and contacts from yahoo. I don't get any creepy requests and have added new people just for the games that they have there.
I was on a music site that was the worst site I'd ever seen. All sorts of gross requests and way too personal information so deleted that account and went to limewire - at least if you want to jabber there it's optional - not manditory as this other site. Now can't even remember it's name - eww. Must be blocking it for a reason - LOL.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
5 Mar 10
yeah you prob are.. i got a really nasty email from an old senior citizen guy asking all kinds of things and if i would do them to him and this is like beyond kink stuff.. like scary stuff lol.. another reason that account is long gone!
@roseangelina (11)
• Spain
15 Feb 10
That also makes sense I also add people that I know even if they are not hot....lol...I put my vanity aside if will and give them a break for knowing me in the past
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
yeah it does.. since i have been stricter on who i add its been so nice and calm
@andryan7legends (1297)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 10
I never add who I don't know on FaceBook or any social networking site. I just add who I know. I do this to protect my self from FAKE PERSON/PROFILE. Now day, many fake person out there. It just scare me.
@pandaeyes (2065)
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16 Feb 10
I look to see who they are.
If they have a connection to me in the real world, I may add them.
I don't add anyone I don't know and if I am not sure whether I know them, i will message them back and ask,how do we know each other?
I had a friend do this to me a while ago, he was an old school friend and now my name is changed because I am married so he didn't recognize it.
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
16 Feb 10
I will accept any friend request whether the person is married or not. But I am quite new to facebook and have very lees number of friends.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
•
15 Feb 10
I joined alot of groups that are on facebook and all i can say is even if they say they are single or married on their profile it do not mean that they are.There are alot of people on facebook that do not even put their real name or the real location,as well as alot of hackers trying to be friends with people on there.I have over 1000 friends on there and i am never on facebook much neither are they anymore.I would also say that there are alot of peados on there aswell,so a parent told me,as my children are on there.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
yeah there are.. and unfortunately you never know who your talking to online sometimes
@AudraF (25)
• United States
15 Feb 10
I personally add people and see what they do. If they hit on me and they know I'm in a relationship, then I remove them from my friends list because if people don't understand that it's disrespectful to me and my partner if you hit on me when i have it clearly posted that I'm in a relationship then I don't want them to be my friend anyway.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
yeah if i add a stranger they know a friend of mine and then see how they are to me
@kaylachan (57687)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Feb 10
I'm a strange person. I never did say weather or not I wanted a relationship. I usually say I'm taken, (or I did even when i wasn't) and a majority of the "friends" I've encountered don't bother to contact me after that they generally leave me alone. I'll get a few perverts here and there from time to time, but I make up stuff that make me sound unappealing and they tend to leave me alone.
Though I remember I was online talking to someone and apparently their girlfriend got on the computer. and she got the wrong idea and thought I was talking about her man when I was talking about mine. I think she blocked me.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
so you get creative in making yourself not desirable? thats interesting!
@tdiamond33 (330)
• Canada
15 Feb 10
With Facebook, if someone sends me a friend request I usually check if they are someone that actually knows me or if they are just wanting to network with me. I have a girlfriend so I don't go looking for how much girls I can rack up in facebook. I have received invites from women who've seen my pics, then ask to be friends, but I guess in this world now a days if your profile looks good you might get a little more than just friend requests.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
lol yeah i get a ton of strangers on my myspace wanting me to add them but the one i have for my biz with a user pic of a cat instead of me has yet to have 1 friends request
@roseangelina (11)
• Spain
15 Feb 10
only if they are hot do I allow them to be my friend ...my goal in life is to be as vein as possible I feel this will make me successful...lol
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
3 Mar 10
lol so thats why there are some people with profiles of model types then?
