does fighting really strengthens a relationship.....
February 17, 2010 5:57am CST
I doubt it. Fighting helps strengthen nothing. When people are angry and in a fighting mood... they tend to say things... rude and harsh things and once they are out of our mouth we cant take it back...... After than no matter how much we apolozise.... there can't be same truth and feeling between the two....... what do you think?
18 Feb 10
It's normal for couples to have fights once in a while, but not to the extent of hurting physically and emotionally each other. My mom once said that it's common for partners to have miscommunication, misunderstanding and disagreement on anything, but it should not result to too much verbal abuse and physical harm. Anything can be mended with constant communication and understanding each others wants and needs. If you think that these miscommunication and misunderstanding hurt you badly and you feel that they are more frequent than you feel that you are happy and contented being with him, then, there's no other way but to end the relationship. Maybe you're not meant for each other.
17 Feb 10
I think that there's a difference between fighting and arguing - and that arguing is much healthier than fighting. It's good for a couple to be able to go back and forth when they disagree and get things out in the open, but to really 'fight' isn't something I consider strengthening - especially if a couple fights regularly. We argue and squabble every now and then and when we do that we usually don't have a problem getting our points across but we very rarely fight. And I have found that when we do fight it just puts us farther away from a solution, we say things we don't mean and nothing gets solved.
17 Feb 10
Fighting really strengthens the relationship specially if one knows Kungfu and the other one knows Muay Thai, just kidding . You are right my friend, fighting will only damage more. We do have petty quarrels right, it's part of the relationship and adjustments. But what is important here is that both should know how to end up the conflict. Do not let the sun go down without settling the problem. Listening is better to be developed in a relationship. If one is angry, the other one has no right to be angry, but act the opposite (staying cool). Couples will easily solve their problem if one should give the right to listen first while the other one explains his or her side or vice versa. Proving who is right and who is wrong is not the issue here. Both will suffer because when you are married, you are also hurting the person you love which means you are also hurting yourself. Settle differences and see to it that if the person does not like something, we should avoid doing it. Learn to know our spouse very well than our friends. Learn the things they like and avoid the things they hate. So that we would not be having frictions on that matter.
17 Feb 10
Fighting is common when it comes to relationship, however, it is shouldn't be practice. Fighting can help a relationship in a positive way like - you will know the feelings of each other, you'll be more open., but if you are ALWAYS fighting, well, your relationship may lead into NOTHING.. maybe into broke up, separation. So fight fair, choose the fight which has sense.
17 Feb 10
That's one problem with fighting because we tend to raise our voices and say hurtful words and we usually take what was being said in a negative way. That's why they always said that when you are in the middle of an emotion, hold whatever it is that you wanted to say because there is a great possibility that we hurt each other. For me, fights cant strengthen a relationship. It is what we do for each other that will strengthen the relationship. Of course, our differences are there ans this is usually the start of a fight and a couple should learn how to handle their differences.