we are fighting againnn....uurghh..

@ifa225 (11092)
Indonesia
February 27, 2010 11:44am CST
Me and my husband are going to buy a new house. We already own it, but it caught by a flood, and the water is not clear. This kind of environment does not fit to health. whether to us or to the kids. So we want to move on and buy a new on. It is hard to find an ideal house, if there is fit to the health but not fit with our money. sometimes he blames me cause i can not adapt to this house. i am the one who wants to leave the house. of course this makes me mad, what i do is because i concern about our health. Living in the flood is not a good choice if you can make another. and he said, many people can stay even their house is catch by the flood. Do you think it is my fault?
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@qamarep (4447)
• Pakistan
28 Feb 10
why cant you buy a hosue that fit your budget right now and then after some time when you have enoughmoney for better house then you buy another.
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@ifa225 (11092)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 10
That is what i am hoping for, I have to save money more so i can afford to buy another, thank you qamarep.
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
In my opinion, better ask you husband the following: 1. Is it your fault prioritizing the welfare of your family by concerning the health of all especially your kids in avoiding medical bills costing much when you can have find ways like buying a new house for your protection? 2. Is it your fault doing your best as a wife? and making such improvements for the betterment of lives? 3. Is it your fault discussing marital problems with him as a husband? If it is your fault, then who he think must be the person whom he want for you to talk about the problem? other people? If the government do implement funds for health and relocation services for the common good of the society, then why he cannot do such thing for the sake of the family? In my view, it is not your fault at all. You being a wife and him as a husband has the roles to perform on tasks in raising up a family. It is not a reason that many people can stay in their house is catch by flood. Though they are there, they will also have the realizations like you. No one would like to be floating in flood or feel homeless or even despair in life. Your warnings are good and your preventions. It is objective for me and a valid reason why you are proposing him that idea. I think you would not sacrifice your family for any sake that will lead all of you in trouble. You are doing your role because you care for your family. The problem can be solved easily by letting himself understand your good point are true because what have you said do happen in real life. Time will come he will realized that you are right because of his unjustifiable reasons. Good luck. I wish you the best.
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@ifa225 (11092)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 10
that is a great question, i hope he would change his mind after i ask him these questions. Thanks a lot Genecribe..and thank you for wishing me best.
@Hatley (164180)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 10
ifa oh my if the house is full of mildew or mold unless you can get someone to come in and somehow uncontaminate it, you are taking 'chances with your health.Surely your husband can see that if not get him to a health clinic and have them explain that mold is unhealthy for people to live with.It is not a matter of you adapting to a situation, its a matter of whether or not the situation is that of a contaminated house that cannot be uncontaminated. If you are forced by money problems to live there you are still going to have to get the mold out which will also cost a lot of money. make sure your husband knows about the health hazards of mold.
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@ifa225 (11092)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
That is what i am concern about too, but it seems that he understand the danger but he still want to get risk with it.
@adhyz82 (36255)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 10
i think it`s normally when you and your husband is different to see something.you saw from side A and your husband from side B. but you must remember, that when your husband and you decide one results, each of you must respect to that decision. maybe you can convince with a good manner and do not ask or debate him.many man is not like to be debated by his wife
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
your decision to leave the house is absolutely right because not advisable to live in the place with smelly and dirty environment like flood. You can acquired skin disease or illness if you continuing to live in that place. However, you need to evaluate the opinion of your husband in making final decision. To buy a new one is not advisable if you don't have the capacity to buy. My recommendation is to rent for a while until the flood is not clear. Once the flood is clear, that is the right time to go back in your house and renovate it if required. I hope my response help you. You need more patient to understand your better half.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
1 Mar 10
Better check with the local health department.Mold can get in a house and can cause major health problems.