is love jealous?

Philippines
March 5, 2010 9:52pm CST
for me it is, in some ways but not to the extend that jealous will lead you than love. balance it, be more in trusting one person than having jealous and killing yourself and love from it. for you? is feeling jealous is having true love or just infatuation? if a person didn't feel any jealous, it means that his/her love wasn't that deep? thanks for your answers.. keep lotting!
11 responses
@Galena (9118)
7 Mar 10
jealousy is not love. when you love someone you don't seek to control them. and jealousy is a sign of a desire to control another, and it's also a sign of insecurity. if someone is jealous then that shows they are lacking as a person. when you LOVE someone, you trust them to make their own judgements, and trust them not to hurt you.
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• Brazil
7 Mar 10
You are absolutley right! love is not control, it's feeling good about someone. jealousey comes from alck of trust and if you can't trust someone, you are really gonna have a hard time in relationships...
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
Hi Lucy! For me, jealousy is part of love. Being jealous just only means that there is a feeling of love to another person. But jealousy should be handle well or else it may lead to trouble. In a relationship, it's common to feel jealous whenever your partner is getting involved with other opposite gender. But jealousy should be felt in right place. There are situations that we need to get jealous and there are also situations that we should not. We should make sure first that what's happening is worth to get jealous of. Well, jealousy has a counterpart, and it is trust. The two should be balanced. If there's too much jealousy, it's bad, as well as too much trust. If we will be able to balance jealousy and trust, then I believe we will become a good lover. This are my thoughts. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
thanks for sharing... your right we need to balance jealousy and trust!
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
7 Mar 10
@ markmoney Yes,you are right.I have seen some of college mates who have broken their love life due to jealousy or misunderstanding we can say.I won't say jealousy is bad but it is not always good.It will make you in big trouble as you said.So it always good to be in right proportions..I mean a good balance..
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
you cannot avoid being jealous when you're in love. if you don't have a feeling for that person, why in the first place would you be jealous. but there's a thin line between jealousy and selfishness.
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi lucy! for me, jealousy is a green eyed monster that will certainly ruin a relationship. when it's love you're feeling then you don't feel any jealous because you are really sure that he relly loves you and be confident and trust him that he really is.in some ways, jealousy is part of a relationship so it should be handled carefully. happy mylotting!
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
in every relationship we cant avoid jealousy, i guess its already part in it. though sometimes we also think that our partner dont trust us. somehow jealousy is one of the factor why the relationship ruined, i guess its only selfish act without having trust to the partner and they're mind become so dirty thinking dirty things against their partner even though they're not doing anything.
@hunter18 (55)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
Jealousy is one thing that proves that love is real in my own opinion .. because if you are not loved/if you are not cared by a certain person.. they wouldnt feel jealous and would just let it all be
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
hi there lucygelato, love is patient love is kind it is not jealous, its in the bible.. But now matter what we all feel jealous because we loved. Its normal to be jealous but we have to control it. as much as possible dont mind it. Jealousy will only lead to issues and gap in the relationship. I get jealous when I am not given a proper attention but I frankly tell my partner about it because I dont want to worsen it. If its jealousy toward other women, rarely I felt that way. Because I have faith my partner and I really show to my partner how faithful I am also. Love is wonderful Enjoy every moment and avoid being jealous. Just be open to each other..
@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 10
I believe true love is out of fear, but jealousy comes from fearful love although that's something we understand. I think it's okay to have jealousy however there is a limit to that.
• Brazil
7 Mar 10
Jealousey isn't and has never been a sign of love. Someone who is jealous is treating another person like an object. I am jealous of my computer, of my clothes and cellphone but I never get jealous with someone I really care about. It is a person and not a thing. I think that jealousey destroys a relationship because it invades too much privacy. People need their space and for two people to be happy, they have to have peace in their lives before being able to satisfy another person. I have had many relationships before and one thing I can tell you for sure, jealousy only destroys the beautiful sensation called love. Throw it out before it breaks you apart.
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
For me yes it is, but not very jealous. I think its just normal when you love someone. You just want them all to yourself and I feel that way towards my fiance. He is everything to me and I always feel so selfish when it comes to him but since I love him so much, I learned how to control it, I learned how to control my jealousy and selfishness. I always trust him and believe everything he says, even those jokes, and he loves it a lot. It's so frustrating at times actually, but it makes him happy and that's what matters to me most. WE just have to learn to balance everything and your relationship will last for long even forever!
• Singapore
6 Mar 10
Love is Jealousy,love is always accompany with jelousy because love can not share,it's just the business between two people!But the lovers should know how to control their jealousy otherwise it will lead to troubles for love!