She wants no kid

so what are you trying to say? my life is already complete. I don't want children, but if I ever have one I will just have to find a way to balance them in my life. why are there people who are not complete without children? what is wrong with them that they are not whole without having a baby? what does that say about their relationships? I love my husband, and if it is just the two of us for the rest of our lives that will be perfect. we are SO happy together. there is NOTHING missing. and I'm just really not into children.

being a man i guess you just cant understand. also, things have changed. no longer do men protect their wives and give them everything their hearts desire by doing all the outside work while she sits at home only doing housework and having lunch with friends, etc. these days girls grow up watching their mother have to work and sometimes oft as not the father leaves, goes on about his life and the mom has to raise the kids alone. no girl wants to go through that so some opt just not to have kids. its a personal choice. i knew an elderly lady that had never been able to have kids, but had a very good career when she was younger and married a rich husband. they never regreted it. she was 86 yrs and had lots of expensive jewelry. she used to tell me, see, if id had kids i couldnt afford you or pay so well for help now. and this ring with a large saphire in the middle surounded by diamonds? that would have been a college education for a kid plus at times, kids can make your life pretty miserable even when they are grown. i know having had 5 grown now myself. im always upset and/or worried about one or two of them.

Well, I think it's a personal choice. I mean if a woman decides that she doesn't want a child, I don't see why she should be forced to have one. Not everyone has maternal instincts and not everyone feels complete after having a child. I'm not saying I'm like that...but I can understand a woman who is or thinks like that. In a way, I feel it is better for such women not to have kids at all because it won't be fair to the child. Whatever the reason...if the woman or couple has made up their mind and are sure, then I feel it is better to go ahead with their choice.

Being raised around animals every now and then i have seen animals not care for their babies. Most they time they do but there are those rare times they wont.

it is but natural for any woman to want a kid. so maybe there is a grave and hidden reason why she doesn't want one. like me, i wouldn't have anymore than one kid. life is hard. a woman just doesn't give birth. a mother should make sure that the child is not just fed, clothed and put a roof over his head but a mother should make sure that the child is properly raised. if you come to think of it the first thing people think about when a person goes the wrong path is what kind of mother that person has. i've always loved reading anything and everything and because of this i have high standards in almost everything. i also have gotten to realize that a woman shouldn't just be tied down to motherhood as the last place to be for she cannot grow anymore professionally. besides, the world is beaming with a lot of people already. i also wouldn't want to say to my child that we couldn't send him to school or help him go to college because he has other siblings. no child deserves that statement. people should be responsible: before, during and after copulating.

Some women simply know they don't want to be a parent and that is completly their right to choose. Whatever their reasons are. Not every woman feels the ticking of a biological clock. I have seen some women with their children and wondered why they ever bothered to become parents at all since it was quite clear they weren't liking the job.

There is nothing wrong in saying NO to kid, I think. I mean it is the question of personal choice, right? When a woman is making a good career, she definitely can't think of a child. A child needs continuous attention for the first few years and a career woman can't give that much time to her kid. So such women think of having kids at later stages of life... I know one such lady who is making a good career and doesn't want marriage or kids right now. There is nothing wrong in that. What is the point of giving birth to a kid and then not paying attention to it? It is going to spoil the child... It is better to think about it when one is well settled... Happy lotting...

I guess that not all people are made the same. There are some men (and women) who do not want children. As a therapist I have talked to both men and women on this issue of having children. Some women have told me that they have a biological instinct to have a child, but it only lasts a short while because in their mind, they want to keep their career. There are some who have told me that they would not bring a child into this dangerous world, so they don't want children for a different reason. It is true that the attitude towards having children is changing, but there has always been some men and women who don't want children, but it is more widespread these days I guess. Men do have a paternal instinct. My own father for instance, wanted a large family. I would have had 6 brothers and sisters, but 3 didn't make it, so I have 3 sisters now.My father would do anything for us and was very loving and supporting. I have read several times and actually know women who have left their husbands and children, so again, it is not only men who leave, but women too - although this may be on a smaller scale, as you right say, the maternal instinct is very strong. In the animal kingdom, the mother will nearly always support her young, but there are also some instances when the mother has rejected them. So it is not always the same. Nature does not alway conform to reason.. _Derek

HI, I learned something about this before when I was in High school. I have two children my own and I love them more than anything. Even sometimes, my husband makes a joke that If I want to leave him then I have to keep children with him... NO Way I can do that. I think most of women who doesn't kid cuz 1. they dont like anything about kid and 2. they might afraid to loose their good body thing. 3. they dont want anyone to stuck with her forever. 4. She afraid of give birth. these are what I found and I think if you never have a chance to get through those then it is a big Missing in woman's life.

Im 28 and the way I feel I do not want to have children. I like them but Im just not maternal. I dodnt go all funny and broody when I see them etc. Maybe I will chnage my mind Im not sure. I defiently disagree about womanhood being inconmplete without childen. As an earlier poster said, what about women who "cant" have children. Me not wanting childfen is nothing to do with me living my life how I want to but simply because I do not have that feeling of wanting to be a mother. It is irresponsible in my opinion to have children just because it is what is "expected" of you.

well i don't want children. i find the idea repulsive. i couldn't go through that.

I think not all women want to have a child. Some don't, and many things affect their decision of not having a child, like environment, economic situation, and even culture.

Woman have the right to chose weather or not they bare children. It doesn't really matter really where their from. Even though cluture may have some influance it doesn't change the fact she has made her choice. In countries like Japan, its not they are more "developed" as they are over populated. In which case, she probably wouldn't want to to the already-growing country as it is.

It is a just stupid thing even the animals have the idea to become a mother Tha value of women is just becoming a"MOTHER" is just amazing feeling it cannot express we want to realize that feeling.I suggest that you get a child otherwise the human life is not complete

Dear Bhanusb, The mothering instinct is not inborn and not present in all women. Even in the animal world you see sometimes a mother rejects her new born baby, eat it, kills it or abandons it. Women can feel complete and fullfilled without giving birth. Myself I had children, but some of my friends did not and as far as I can tell they are still complete and wonderful human beings. As Western Society moved away from being an agricultural society with the need for many children to work on the land, the need for many children diminished. Since the best way for children is to grow up in an environment where there is enough money for health and dental care and education fewer children make sense. In Western Society alao we strive for equality of the genders. Women still must bear the children so if a woman has a great calling and great ambitions in life such as for example to become an astronaut, a pilot, a brain surgeon or other demanding profession she might opt not to have children because her passion lies elsewhere. That does not mean she is an incomplete human being. In many Western countries and in Japan the population is already dense on small land masses, therefore housing and apartments are expensive. It is important that children have some space to themselves such as their own room. It is important that children, both girls and boys receive a proper education since education is the ticket out of poverty. Therefore, smaller apartments means less rooms, means fewer children. Add to this that both men and women usually work outside the home, so, caring for more than one child would be too much of a burden. In addition most of the Western countries have pensions or some sort of system whereby you can accumulate funds for your old age. So the need to have children to care for you in your old age is no longer there. Therefore, some people do not see the need for children at all. That is also their right. No one is obligated to have a child to become a perfect human being.

just depends on the person, i'm not big on kids and if i didn't have my son probably wouldn't have any yet. it's just not in me, to go musshy over babies. i can't explain it, and i'm still not in a hurry to go back and have another child. i know there will be a big age gap between my son and the next child, but am not to fussed on that issue. some people may feel their past having kids if they are older, so won't want any. then you get those who want to get to the top in their career before thinking of a family. i think it waiting to have kids and live life more to the full while younger would be better. but then there is also plenty of time after the kids have grown up to go live life.

Some women have other things in their lives which are more important than children. I had children and am very maternal but I don't like children and have never been attracted to them. I like baby animals much better. It would not have taken much to make me forget having children at all. I loved my career and as soon as my children got in school worked outside the home. This was best for the family, I was happier and that made everyone else happier. As a culture we do no one any favor makeing women have children.

I have some friends that don't want children and the reason that they don't want children is because of the the fact that they want to advance their careers as far as possible. As for me, I knew from the time that I was a very young girl that I wanted to have children of my own. I always wanted to fulfill my need to be a mother and to raise children. Though it might not be something that is for everyone, I think that for me I made the best choice that I could make.

maybe they just afraid of big responsibility or perhaps shes still enjoying her life as being single. one thing is. whenever theirs a problem with the couple and once they have child the child will left to the mother and it will be her burden nor specially if the guy just leave the girl without offering for financial help. its not really easy to be pregnant yet work hard for the baby sake while some of those guys out there just easy for them to get out if they cant handle responsibility and have fun with there own while the girl left so troubled.

Both options might be right for them. Either they want to maintain their high standard of living or would like to keep free life. For some instances I would agree to have only one child if you think you want to keep your high standard of living or be free. I don't think so having a child would make you feel in prison or would lessen your way of living. Actually, I believed that it would make you feel more responsible in life. Maybe for some they just don't want to be locked up to responsibilities of having a child and we can't blame them if that is how they want it. Let's just be grateful that for those who wish to have their own child and family are willing to continue life, share love and happiness with their offsprings. Yes, this will certainly complete a womanhood.