Does this make any sense to you? Raising a virtual child and killing your own?

@ronaldinu (12422)
Malta
March 6, 2010 1:17pm CST
[i]A computer-addicted couple let their real life baby starve to death while they raised a virtual daughter online, police said today. The couple spent 12 hours a night at internet cafes while their three-month-old daughter was left home alone at their apartment in Suwon, South Korea. They were arrested today. Police said they had become hooked on living online and were raising an avatar daughter through their profiles on a Second Life-style game called PRIUS.[/i] Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1255455/Couple-nurture-virtual-child--let-real-daughter-starve-death.html#ixzz0hQRcgIfE I have heard it on the news bulletin. I thought the newscaster was joking. Unfortunately it was not a joke. A real baby has died due to neglect.... Don't you think that we have upturned our values. All of us here. I am blaming everyone one of us! How a three month old baby can die such a horrible death? Does this make any sense to you? Nurturing a virtual child and killing your own?
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
6 Mar 10
I hadn't heard, but it's very sad. I was that was the last time and I wish it hadn't happened the first time, but it probably will continue. If my cat's didn't but me, I would probably forget to feed them. But a baby would cry, wouldn't a person answer the cry of a baby? My cats bug me until I feed them. I would think the baby would cry. I can't imagine ignoring the cries of a baby.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
6 Mar 10
I can't understand how one can forget to feed his or her own baby. Even my dog barks to gain my attention for food.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
6 Mar 10
If you really think about this, most babies will cry until fed, diaper changed, turned because uncomfortable, etc. The inhumanity and suffering, makes me cry.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
6 Mar 10
That should be I wish that and my cats didn't bug me.
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@freeboy90 (456)
• Italy
6 Mar 10
No normal people would let that happen, clearly both of the parents have some psychological problem and how smart do you have to be to understand that your baby girl will not survive if you don't feed her. I hope at least they could realize what horrid thing they've done to their own child.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
6 Mar 10
It seems that both parents are internet addict.... They are irresponsible thats all I know. Poor baby!
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
I can understand that a person can be an internet or a gamer addict but to ignore the cries of your child is something unheard of. This baby had the misfortune of having two parents which were internet addict.
• Italy
7 Mar 10
I think that what is also sad is that nobody could help the little child on time (how sad) nobody knew? No friends, no grandparents, no other family members?? It doesn't take a day for a little child to die. If someone would have known they could have called the social services and help the poor child :( I can't imagine the little kid left alone crying and being so hungry it makes me feel sick :(
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
6 Mar 10
Hi ronald, It seems that we hear about new atrocities happening every day, but this is something that I hadn't heard before. It certainly doesn't make any sense to me and there is definitely something seriously wrong with the parents. It is of course, a case of child neglect and if it hadn't been an on line addiction, it would likely have been something else. Blessings.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
6 Mar 10
Hi Pose123. True we hear about horrific cases of child neglect. But nurturing your virtual child and not taking care of your own is unheard of, Thanks for sharing.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Mar 10
hi ronaldinu I read that also and was truly shocked and specially at there askewed thinking. raising an avatar daughter is the most foolish think I can think of while leaving a tiny baby alone in their apartment while they are on line at internet cafes. what in the world do they 'have for brains? Saw dust.We have sure enough gone to far if the internet is the only thing we can relate to, and we forget we have flesh and blood children that need care and love. this would be so criminal that its hard to really imagine any one doing this. When my hubby and my little daughter was alive, we did not have a computer, and the tv was a never a substitute for family togetherness. When I became widowed my son gave me a computer and monitor and I loved it as i was all alone and need something to do when I retired.But I would never have left my children alone for a computer, no way.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
For me the mother and father involved does not deserve to be called parents. Usually I am not judgemental of other people. However I cannot understand how you one can forget his own flesh and blood for a virtual game. It is inconceivable in my mind. Thanks Hatley and Zed for sharing. I hope that this story is an eye opener for all internet addicts.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
6 Mar 10
Hi, ronaldinu. This couple need to leave this computer alone and stop creating a fake child. What is wrong with them?? This does not make sense at all. And how can they feed their baby rotten powdered milk??? This is just absurd completely! These parents don't deserve anymore kids. They murdered the gift that God has blesses them with! This is very sad. Being online at the cafe was a bad mistake that they have both made. They should be thrown into prison, never again to see a flash of the bright sun!
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
6 Mar 10
I hope that they get what they deserve. My heart is out for all those couple who would like to embrace a child of their own but they cannot have due to some health reason or another.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
My heart is with you and all those who have suffered this terrible experience. I pray God to let me live to be able to see my son as a grown up. A couple friends of mine lost their 8 yr old daughter at such a young age and despite adopting another girl, they can never forget their own daughter.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
8 Mar 10
I am sorry but they surely would not want me to have any thing to do with making laws in this country.... I believe if someone does something to a child like in this instance they should be treated the same way..... But we know what will happen... They will go to prison have 3 hot, square meals....be able to buy snacks at the prison store and read books in a library.... Oh by the way someone else even does washes their stylist jumpsuits.... I think we have made jailtime and prison to easy for the offenders of our children and society
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
8 Mar 10
I am sure that this couple has mental and psychological problems. No one in his senses would do such thing. I do agree that jailtime seems too soft for certain criminals. however I am puzzled whether I consider this irresponsible couple as criminals or just plain dumb.
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@hagirl (1295)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Neglect and abuse of a child is a crime in my book... My step-daughter gave sole custody of her beautiful daughter to the father because she was already pregnant again (like she needed another one)for a car....Boy that is a real mom and piece of work..
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
6 Mar 10
I a flabbergasted that anyone can do that to a child. I guess it only survived as long as it did because the gradparents had the baby for awhile before giving it back..which wasn't a good call..I love being online and doing stuff but the kids and hubby always come first I get off attend to their needs and if I have time get back on...I might let the dishes slip a few hours..but never a child..
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
I love being online I share your views. Maybe I am internet addict too but I make sure that I do my duties well. I always try to take good care of my son...
• Italy
8 Mar 10
Disasters of technology. I have earlier saw on TV that a Korean guy married to his virtual girlfriend. Technology should be used with responsibility. We need to educate more peoples about this virtual world.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
8 Mar 10
I do agree with you. We need to be more educated when it comes to technology and virtual world. Each decision has an impact on our real life
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
6 Mar 10
That is insane! We have had many cases here of mothers neglecting their children as they shopped, chatted and played games online. People have lost their sense of perspective and have become afraid of real life. I do not see how anyone can ignore their baby, it's beyond my comprehension.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
6 Mar 10
Thoroughly insane. I fail to comprehend how you can neglect your own baby in such a way!
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@littleone3 (2063)
6 Mar 10
I can't believe that, how could anyone think a computer game is more important than a real life child. As a mother myself my children come first every time. That poor baby.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
6 Mar 10
Same here. My son is more important than anything else in the whole world. Unbelievable.
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6 Mar 10
Hi ronaldinu, I just don't know what is wrong with people these days, they don't deserve to have any children, they should be put behind bars for the rest of the lives without anything, I am on the computer most of the day but I wouldn't neglect my precious cats, I have no children and my cats are my children, but I do stop and do other things, computer is not important, I just don't understand these monsters. Tamara
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
I always stop for an hour to go for a walk with my dog and try to encourage my child to be more active. I always consider family members more important to virtual life. Thanks for sharing.
@MrKennedy (1978)
6 Mar 10
I was both disgusted and shocked when I heard about this No child deserves to be so cruelly mistreated, and I hope this incident haunts both these hideous "parents" for the rest of their lives Neglected for a virtual baby? That's just sick as far as I am concerned.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
I really hope that out of this horrible story something good comes out of it and that parents take extra care of their own children.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
6 Mar 10
You know I have heard a lot of disturbing stories involving children and the parents who should have never been allowed to have them. I have no idea how this ranks, because I have some disturbing situations in the world, but this has to be the top five of the list of parents that utterly disgust me. Just when you think that the human race has not hit its lowest point. It find an even bigger shovel. I mean seriously. How messed up can some people be? This defies all logic and reason for sure. Calling these people incompetent would be an insult to incompetent people. In fact, calling them neglectful may even be an insult to neglectful people. There is just no words to describe this I mean, that's messed up. Leaving a child at any age alone for that long is idiotic but that young, that may put them in the running for the most stupid and most ignorant people alive. And you know what the scariest thing is. I am really not surprised that something this happened. Society has numbed me to the point where I do feel disgust but not shock. Have we really sunk this far? There needs to be some kind of screening process before people are allowed to reproduced. I have no idea what the criteria would be nor do I feel comfortable in guessing. However there needs to be something. People have to pass a test to have children when they have a certain age and have a license. Unfortunately, that will never happen but its getting worse.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
A teacher has told me this one day You can make kids in just five minutes but to be a father, a good father it takes you a lifetime. Society have numbed us to the extreme that most of us are no longer shocked at hearing such horrific story of neglect. There needs to be some kind of screening process before people are allowed to reproduced. Your idea is rather debatable. How this can be put into practise?
@sushie93 (1355)
• France
6 Mar 10
Really chocking. o_O Shame on the parents, how can they are so stupid! o
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
6 Mar 10
I am still shocked.. I could not believe my ears that I searched online to check whether it is true or not
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@derek_a (10874)
7 Mar 10
There seems to be some horrible malfunction here with this couple who have got reality confused with fantasy. I have read the article myself and it seems incredible that this could happen and it is very sad. I don't think we have upturned our values so much as this couple may have a deep-seated psychological problem that has not been recognized and shouldn't have been in care of a child. Many years ago, we had to go and work in Spain away from the UK on a three months cotract. We had a young dog at the time but couldn't take her with us because of the Rabies scare that was about at the time. There was this lovely couple living down the road from us who offered to look after her for the 3 months we were away. I thought it to be ideal, much better than a boarding kennel. I explained that she would need to be watched for a while until she acclimatised herself to her new surroundings and being a border collie needed daily exercise - that they assured me, would be no problem. I thought they would have had the sense to take her out on a lead each day, but they just opened the door on the first morning and let her out. The dog got run over and killed, as we dicovered when we returned. They said the dog had run off not to be seen again. But when we gave her description to the local police station, we were told of the accident with a dog matching her description. Apparently her collar had been taken off - why, I don't know, so she couldn't be identified. I was angry at our neighbours, but couldn't really say anything when I realized in retrospect how ignorant they actually were. And anyway, what was so was so and couldn't be reversed. I know this is a dog and not a child, but my point is that most of us would not endanger a dog in this way unless we were ignorant of the needs of that dog. I think the same thing could be applied to this South Korean couple too. It is very sad and senseless, and all we can do is to be vigilant when couples become new parents, but there are going to be incidents and we are going to become more and more aware now because of the powerful information technology we have around the world. _Derek
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Mar 10
I share your sadness as most of us do here. I really hope that they have psychological problems as I fail to understand how two sane parents can let their baby die this horrible way. I understand your analogy of your sad ending of your border collie. It makes a lot of sense of what you wrote. I hope that it was not done wilfully but due to ignorance. Even if unfortunately the result is still the same. Thanks for your reply.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Mar 10
Well, that has to go onto my list of wacked out and weird stuff around the world. A virtual child? What will they think of next? And how could they leave such a young child alone at night? I can see how a second life type game for some would be exciting and fun but to let it get that far out of wack is demoralizing.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
8 Mar 10
I don't know what their heart is made up of to leave a young baby on its own. I find myself guilty to leave a dog alone at home let alone a human baby.
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Mar 10
I so agree. I think a psychic should be employed when people become pregnant to see if they are looney or not. Some people just shouldn't have children or animals or anything else living to be responsible for.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
7 Mar 10
Sad! But this the result of addictions. Anything we become addicted to, can cause to neglect important things, like even our own children. This is just one example. Too bad that no one noticed what was going and took corrective action.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
14 Mar 10
You ask some good questions!
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
7 Mar 10
Wow! Talk about living a double life. This is very sad but I have to say that I'm nothing like these people so in all honesty you can't compare me to them. I put my responsibilies first-and my children top them all. I don't get why they either didn't take that baby with them or hire someone to sit with it?
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
8 Mar 10
It's certainly a double life which costed the life of an innocent baby. I do admire you for putting your priorities firs. Children should be loved as you are doing! I really wonder why the grandparents did not take in charge if they saw that their own children were incapable of taking care of their own baby.
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• United States
8 Mar 10
Totally true-where was their friends and family in this? Someone had to know they had a baby. Sometimes you wonder why people like this even have children...it was totally selfish. My sister is always with her friends...she parties a lot-and she's chosen not to have children for that reason. They should've done the same, or given the baby up for adoption to someone that could give it time and attention. What a sad thing.
@hvedra (1619)
10 Mar 10
I was shocked by the story but not surprised. I'm amazed it hasn't happened before or more often. I've seen people who are addicted to games and use them to hide away from the real world. It is sad but you try talking to them about it and they go, literally, mental. They often reckon they are only on there "a couple of hours" when it is almost constant and they would rather stare at a screen than be with real people. It's quite scarey to see people like that and also very sad.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
10 Mar 10
I understand that you can be hooked on a computer game. It happened to me years ago. But to forget to feed and nurture your own baby is gross. I am sure the baby cried several times to remind them that he has needs to be met
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
14 Mar 10
Well said hvedra when we lose priority in life we do stupid mistakes that have serious consequences in life.
@hvedra (1619)
10 Mar 10
Apparently they did a lot of their gaming at a cafe rather than in the house so they were just going out and leaving the poor kid. They knew exactly what they were doing and that it was wrong but, like most addicts, the addiction is the most imporatant thing to them, more than the child.
• United States
14 Mar 10
That is quite scary... It goes to show how addictive computers really can be to some people. They were completely addicted to raising their virtual child and somehow their priorities got skewed and they completely forgot about their flesh and blood child. They deserve what they get because their is not reason to let your child suffer due solely to an addiction to a computer game.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
14 Mar 10
Computers and gaming can be really addictive. Yes it is quite scary which had irreversible repercussions. Our life priorities should never be put upside downl