After Wedding, Which Do You Prefer, To Keep Staying With Parents or?

hello lendmhe, i think it would be best for the couple to live separately from their parents after getting married..that's the best way to start their own family in their own way... coz if they are going to stay with their parents, for sure there will be some issues in many things like how they are doing in the house & how they are raising their children...coz sometimes in laws still want to use their way when the couple also have their ways in bringing up the family... on my experience, my husband & i stayed with my parents on the first month of mariage then we moved out to another house but my parents as well as my grandma ask me/us to be back in their house! hehe i think they are not yet used to me being away, and not yet ready for that...but anyway that just last for a year, and that's fine with my husband and no problems arise during those time & am thankful for that... but when my husband was assigned in a far place for his work, my parents have nothing to do but let me go with him! hehe and till date i am living far from my parents, and my husband & i are living together in a place where we don't have any relative... good day!

my husband and I live with his parents and we're happy. There's a few bumps sometimes, but it's only when we don't see eye to eye on things. It's always forgotten or resolved. My husband and I are trying to save up for a car and for a house before we move out.

From my own experience, i prefer to have own house. My husband bought a house for us, a year before we decide to get married. Although it seems quite hard at first, all the household matters was run by our self. No more mother or father to the rescue. Yes, very tiring thinking about it. But, from there, you get the chance to learn how to be a mature couple and going on to build your very own place called home. Believe me, it will be a wonderful experience, which you will want to keep it in your memory forever.

hi lendmhe I am staying with my in-laws even with out my husband, he is working abroad to earn and to save for our future. I'm lucky cos I have a good in-laws, so I don't have any problem staying here with them.. But, if am the one to ask, of course i want to live with my mom, but my husband wants us to stay with his parents. Yes, to live with our own is always my dream, but its not that easy.. so we'll be here for the mean time

I think that is really the problem when you stay with your inlaws, they meddle with your life in one way or another. But it's not just that. I would really like to have our own place wherein we can just do what we want. We can also make our own decisions when it comes to like putting furnitures or how to arrange them or what color we would want.

Many are telling that it really depends on the culture, religion and social status of the Newly weds. For me I would prefer not staying with my parents or parents-in-law if I have a good income to provide with, because in many cases parents would definitely interfere most of the time if your living in the same roof and that could create problems between you and your spouse.

It actually differs from culture to culture…each society has its own customs regarding such traditions. While Christianity says that a man must leave his parents to be with his wife, my religion says that it is the duty of the sons to look after their parents in old age just as parents forfeit their own youth and happiness to bring up their children. So in India, you will find most men go on living with their parents in the joint family system. While its true that this system offers little privacy to the newly weds…it has lot of advantages too. Of course the family house goes to the son as inheritance so they don’t have to build their own houses, most of the marriage expenses are borne by the parents, since all stay together there are a lot of misunderstandings but then thru such trying times people learn to accept outsiders as their own and reinforces the values of sharing, respect and compromise…AND the most important part is that the children grow up with the grandparents… a wonderful trend that is slowly waning away these days. They get to know of wonderful stories, good old days, they are pampered and cared for and even if both the parents are working, the children do not feel neglected! Each system has its own pros and cons and I’m sure the western system too is beneficial to its followers but staying with parents after marriage is the traditional way in India.

I am a parent and I personally think they should move out on their own, and I have told my daughters if they cant take care of you and put you in a home of your own then they are clearly not ready to marry you. However when my daughter got married her husband was military, when he got deployed I had her come home for a little while to help her with the children, but she really wanted to be on her own with her family, so her husband paid for her to do that, that is where a man needs to be, before he gets married.

hi there friend... hmmm...now were neighbors with my parents... just beside there house... maybe its ok for me cause we have a separate house.. for our privacy ..and i dont want to leave with my parents cause you already have a family of your own...and i think some say it doesn't sounds good .. thats what they've said.. and based in my experience i think they have their point.. and i agree to them.. its much better to have a own house for our family.. to avoid being dependent to our parents or etc.. because some other parents take control to their married children.. if thought its not right... they should not do such decisions for them...guiding them is the best way but not.. entering ones married couples problem or issues.. and to avoid...attitudes like being dependent ,greedy,jealousy and a lot more... having a own house is one peaceful way of living.. thanks! take care!

For me yap I think that many time it is better to follow what the bible say if you are married you need to separate you parents because you can't express so much you love.

i am having a huge plan about my marriage plan and the first thing is to buy a house for me before my marriage and i always like to be with my wife in that house . its not that i dont like to live with my parents but thats one of the wish i am having . i think it will be a lot of fun alone . so i always prefer to stay in a separate house with my partner alone .

Well, i generally prefer to stay with parents and so as my wife. Since my wife and mother always have good terms and understandings. But most cases, it s not. So its better to have stay a little apart to have smooth relationship!

Base on experience, the best thing is for couples to live by their own. There will be a lot of issues and complication when you live with either party. Let's face it, we cannot please everyone.

Well it still depends because there are some people who give importance to their family while some do not have any choice or option to choose from. But it would be great if we can live and support your own family. Because someday it somewhat like an achievement within yourself.

I would hate to live in my parents' house after I get married. It's not that I don't want them. They could live in my house if they want to. I just don't want to be dependent on them, and I also don't want them interfering with the way I want to run my family. I want my own life. If they would live with me, it has to be clear to them that me and my husband call the shots when it comes to our family.

I think it is wrong to live with your parents because there is the possibility of parents interfering in the marriage. Generally, I think it is best for a newly wedded couple to live alone after thier wedding in order for then to understand each other without any form of interference.

Separating with the family is ideal after the wedding because it can just cause conflicts between the in-laws. But now, some newly weds prefer to stay with there parents because there parents are old enough and no one to take care with. That is the common cause while the couples cant separate with there parents. Sometimes the reason is, the couple get married though they are not yet financially stable and doesnt have there own house. I think it always varies in the situation, but for me the most ideal is separating from your parents.

I think that living with my parents after marrying would be really awkward, so I preffer 1000 times living only with my future couple. When you're in a mature relationship you will look for the ways to sustain yourself, so you can free your parents form the burden too

I can understand why some may have to move in with parents or relitives especially in this economic hardship. Times have changed and its now a long-standing issue whose going to be the bread winner seeing as how women are more then capable of bring home the bacon. But, with unemployment rates high and people stupidly wasting their savings on the wedding, some have no choice. I personally think I'm doing alright for myself to be quite honest. I live on my own even though the rent is less then favorable. But that's the best I can do for right now. I wouldn't want to be with my "family" because they don't approve of me in general and its not a place I want to be. I like being able to take care of myself.

Of course, I'd not stay at my parents or my husband's parent. Each family have to live in own place, separated from the other families. I don't like the communal way of life.