are you happy with your partner (spouse-girl friend -boyfriend)?

Singapore
March 7, 2010 8:12pm CST
i can not use any word to express the relationship between me and my spouse .we often quarrel but we also finish it very fast ,we are happy with it and think it helps to last a long term relationship ,and how about you ? how do you think to keep a relationship for long term ? and are you happy with it ?
16 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Mar 10
I have a spectacular relationship with my husband. We've been married for almost six years now. We seldom fight with one another, but when we do have a fight, it is a major blowout fight. One of the things that we've always made it a habit to do is to not go to bed angry. I learned this trick from my parents and I carried it with me into my own relationship. This has been a godsend for us because of the fact that we do seldom fight.
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@evasmom09 (132)
• United States
8 Mar 10
I think it is a very stupid thought to think you love someone if you have to fight to stay together. Me and my boyfriend lived with a couple that was the same way as you. They got into fist fights constantly and when I made a remark saying they didn't have a normal relationship I was yelled at. We got kicked out of that house beccause they think they have to fight with everyone. Me and my boyfriend never fight and we have the best relationship possible.
8 Mar 10
Not a real couple unless you argue occasionally,sorry just my view!
@Downwindz (2537)
• Netherlands
8 Mar 10
I live with my boyfriend and it is very rarely that we argue, so yes im most pleased with him. Im also the type of girl if im not happy in my releationship i will leave my partner...
@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
i'm not sure yet. but hopefully things will work out. we are 1 year and 1 month now. we act like friends and lovers. but still not sure whether things will end up great. we process each moment being together so taking one step at a time. :)
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
8 Mar 10
Keeping a long term relationship has a lot to do with the couple being compatible, and being able to adjust to each other. I have been for long with my boyfriend, and we rarely quarrel, as we have a really good relationship and we understand each other well
@kaylachan (57630)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Mar 10
Just like with my health my relatiionship with my partner is one of those good days, bad days kind of things. I have days where I can tell he loves me, and other days I question his and I relationship, and days wwhere I wish he would just work more and more. But, they all balance out in the end as any relationship should be.
@mrdos910 (455)
• United States
8 Mar 10
Currently, my wife and I are having some real troubles and I am not happy like I used to, she is a very domineering type and I have been seeing this the last year in particular. It seems like what she says is final concerning kids, house, etc. Even her sister has been trying to bypass my authority as well concerning parenting, etc. I am not without faults as well, I try to speak with others in a kind voice, she is a yeller and bites my head off over everything it seems, help!
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Yes, I am very much happy with my partner. We have been together for five years and our relationship's getting stronger each day..yeah, i must admit that we quarrel sometimes but it doesn't mean we don't love each or we are already getting tired of being together.. it's just a spice to make our relationship more fun and exciting.. i love my partner, i really do.. i can't afford to lose him in my life.. we have been through a lot and yet we are still standing and fighting for our love.. when i have been hospitalized for almost a week, he didn't go to work to make sure i am alright.. he paid half of my hopsital bills and even got me a glucose meter to monitor my blood sugar level... :)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
im back with my ex and i would say that i am more happy now than before. he makes my day complete inspite of my problem. he accepted me by heart. i just wish he will not change but instead be more for the better. i cant wait to be with him. i guess we already been into many hardship and good times and i will also say that our love really tested by time.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
I would say I'm contented. I'm grateful cos I have a responsible,caring and intelligent husband arguments is just normal, I believe that all couples, partners had experienced this.. we're just human. It's like a test for the couple, if how strong they're to save the relationship, to face trials and to overcome all of the challenges in life... A perfect couple won't just give up easily! . and that is the secret to last a long term relationship.
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
I've been in my relationship for almost 4 years now and yes I've never been so happy in my entire life. Loving someone and being loved my the person you love is like winning jackpot in the lottery. I feel so special everyday and whenever he tells me he loves me and that he's lucky to have me. We've been in serious fights before but we managed to solve it all, we always tell each other that every problem we face is a big rock we need to step on to go to another level. So we work hard to make our relationship work. We also made agreements to avoid fights, jealousy and the like. We agreed not to assume, to trust each other and listen to each other's side before judging. And we always tell ourselves as well that if we do something, we should think first if I want my partner to do it as well, so by following those agreements, we are having a really great relationship and nothing has ever changed since we met, we are still as sweet as before, we tell each other "i love you" everyday.
• India
8 Mar 10
yeah,its true,it goes like this only,fight,arguments then patch up,not the hitting one,this makes us more comfortable,at least for us, with each other,no formalities are there,it can carry you for long relationship,I am happy with it?what do you say?my friends!
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Yes, I am happy and grateful. I don't deny the fact that there was a time in our relationship that I almost gave up. Thank goodness that I stayed. Not a professional advise, for couples out there who are having rough times right now- try your best to work out on your differences. It won't be overnight. Separation is not the only option, there are lot better options for couples.
@clipsal (160)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 10
yes i am. quarrel is normal. but too much quarrel is as bad as no quarrel at all.
• Indonesia
8 Mar 10
Oh, I am contented. I have a wonderful and responsible husband. We rarely fight, and we kid each other everyday. Now we have a baby daughter and it really add more happiness to our marriage. My husband is very dependable, I can count on him on everything. I am so grateful that he's mine :)
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
I'm happy with my girl friend... She's happy with me too.. I love her very much just like the way she loves me. We don't see each other so often so I can say that the most important thing in a relationship is communication. When you are having a long distance relationship communication, trust, honesty and faithfullness is very important. Getiing into a relation ship is easy to do but maintaining it is very hard thing to do but as long as the love is there everything will be alright.