How to Build a Relationship with American?

Hello G! Well first of all good luck on your upcoming life in the United States. I think it is essential to know how to converse in English well, communication is an unparalleled tool when it comes to gaining friends. I think you should be yourself too, no need to change your attitudes, interests and all in hopes of getting friends. It's better to discuss things that really truly interest you with your new friends, rather than changing yourself just to fit that "tough" stereotype. I'm sure you'll be meeting a lot of good people there who will share the same interest as you. Good luck on your trip and regards!

these white,tall,strong,smart but sometimes tough guys Well first off I would get that thought out of your head...the U.S is made up of ALL types - physically, racially, religiously and so on..Best way to meet new ppl is to become familiar with places and activities that you enjoy..you'll end up meeting ppl..and then through them you'll meet more ppl..For example, if you are an artsy person, if you like to paint or draw for instance..take an art class..if you like to read, join a book club..if you enjoy workin out join a gym and so on...

Godlovesweiqi, So, you will be in the States for sometime and I suppose this visit or stay is work related. I do not see any problem or difficulty for you to have a relationship with anyone even if they are to be Americans, so long as you know how to relate and get along in the first place. Since you are there with a purpose, I would say the first step to begin would be to get along with your host and do it well. Things will just fall into place with time and tact as I am sure your host will be leading you to their circles and develop from there. Just remember to put pretentiousness aside and be yourself at all times. I hope that your trip and stay will be a good and worthwhile experience for you. Have a nice day.

Don't be too nervous about your new life in the U.S., G...it sounds like a great adventure! The best advice that I can offer to you is to make friends with some of the people you will be interacting with in your day to day life...where you live, work or go to school. Through them you will find activities that you enjoy and you will meet more people. The best way to get to know someone is to ask them questions about themselves and to listen to them while they talk. People usually like talking about themselves as long as you don't get too personal. Talk freely about yourself, too. This will make you seem open and friendly and people are attracted to that...even white, tall, strong, smart but sometimes tough guys. I have one of those...but he's a real sweetheart on the inside.

USA is a vast country but for you the opportunity to make friends with Americans would restrict to your office, your neighbourhood,and/or any cultural clubs that you might like to be a member of and ofcourse online social networks. One does not have to make a deliberate attempt in this direction. You need to take things in your stride and before you know it you will have a line of Americans ready to shake hands with you.

Hmmm.. I suppose that you have to find out what they are interested in and what they like to do.. then find out more about what they call fun then talk to them about those stuff... and do what they like to do with them.. good luck.