Are you confident that your love partner will not cheat on you?

@markmoney (2868)
Philippines
March 11, 2010 9:09pm CST
We really love our partners, be it a spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. But we all know that temptations are everywhere. We don't want them to be taken by others. We don't like to be his/her number one, coz if there's number one, there's number two, number three, and so on.. Are you confident that your love partner will not cheat on you? Will you allow him/her to go out with his/her friends in the opposite gender? Yes, we should trust them, but will you just let them communicate or go with someone else? If a member of your family or relatives will see your love partner being with someone else, what are they going to think? It would be negative I guess. So, are you confident that your love partner will not cheat on you? I would be glad to hear your response. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
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32 responses
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
When you get into a relationship with another person you commit yourself to that person. It means there's trust there. as you go along that relationship, there are factors that would influence your feeling towards each other. it could be good or bad. But those influences will effect your relationship later on. You could develop a more deeper relationship and you become more committed to your partner. On the other hand, there are factors also that will weaken your relationship. The good and bad factors that you encounter in your daily life will determine whether you will cheat or you will be cheated on later in your relationship. But you can't predict it. People who are in a relationship would admit that their partner will not cheat. That observation is based on the "now". But anything could happen since we will never know what will happen in the future. If people are able to predict that their partner will cheat on them sooner or later then there will be no heartaches today.
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• Malaysia
12 Mar 10
Honestly, I won't trust my spouse 100%. It is very common to listen to stories where the wife trusts her husband 100% and in the end she found him having affairs outside. Whatever you think is impossible is actually possible. I'm always aware and alert if anything goes wrong.
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• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
yach.. any possibilities may occur when we trust spouse 100%. s/he may cheat on us or, the other hand, may be loyal. who knows?? but love n marriage is built on the trust. So, trust n be watchful as well.
@fianne (1057)
• United States
12 Mar 10
actually for me, i always think that my boyfriend always cheats on me because it's not that i don't trust him, it's just that i am insecure. hmmm... i know he loves me and will not look for another. but when i found out something that he was hiding something from me, his text messages and said he's gonna sleep but he went out to go drink with his workmates and with girls, i got mad, then i started feeling insecure that he doesn't trust me and or love me because if he do, he will just not lie. i don't know what i did for him to do that to me. so now, i am feeling insecure all the time, even if we have our 3 yr old son, that doesn't change anything, i am still insecure and always doubting what he's saying because of what he did.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
i wonder how he was in ur early relationship before u get married. did he do the same?? i mean hide some text message n lie??
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
This is a trust issue between you and your partner. Again. trust is very much important for a relationship to be strong. And I am sure, your partner won't be cheating on you if you wont give him/her the reason to do so.
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• India
12 Mar 10
Agree with you. If there is a proper reason to every thing you do in life and faith trust and love I don't think there should be any problem in a relationship.
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
12 Mar 10
Wwll I am cofident,for now atleast!
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
i suggest u not 2 say "for now at least". hopefully, u'll be that way 4ever. -Good Luck-
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
yeah I am very confident that my love partner is not cheating on me,because we've been lover for almost 10 years and i know her attitude a lot,her weaknesses and her strength.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
that's nice, cris.
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Personally this is one thing I know I can trust my husband on, and that is being faithful to me. Overall we Love doing things together and being together and most of the time we are never really apart unless it is when we are at work. I think it is very important to develop a Friendship and Trust with the person you are with, and to enjoy being around them and doing Fun things together. It helps to develop a bond to where you never want to seek elsewhere as well.
@grayxenon (1313)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
i'am because i trust her so much...why? because we built a foundation a strong foundation of our love that i believe will stand through the test of time..with the help of our almighty..
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Mar 10
hi markmoney without trust there is no relationship and'no real marriage either. Yuo can watch but not stalk and give your partner full trust. at the same time if you see someone who is definitely'out to access your spouse, there is no reason why you cannot very tactfully but without hesitation tell the poacher that you saw her and that your husband is not up for grabs by some home wrecking bit@h so hands off, and goodby, tata, au revoir ,then too you might say to hubby werent you getting a little too close with Miss gold digger? Why just throw up your hands and let someone tease your mate.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
Miss gold digger hehe... I will never someone tease my mate, if i hv one. but now no one's yet with me. hehe..
@mimiang (3760)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Yes of course. years of being with the person, you would know if he is lying or not. Definitely, he would be faithful to me for life
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
I am pretty confident and I really trust that my boyfriend will never cheat on me. I don't know if he really won't, but the important thing is that I trust him, and in turn, he also trusts me. I think trust is really important in a relationship.
@airakumar (1553)
• India
15 Mar 10
Yes, I am. I love him with all of my heart and I know he too and want to be able to trust him in all condition. My partner will never cheat on me, this is for sure and I trust him. Trust is a psychological state comprising the intention to accept vulnerability based upon positive expectations of the intentions or behavior of another. It's an individual's belief in, and willingness to act on the basis of, the words, actions, and decisions of another. Love and trust both are important and it is in my relationship. The natural feeling of affection one has for somebody else and the feeling of security that someone else will not hurt or harm you..
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Mar 10
My husband and I have been together for eight years now and I have complete trust in him. Neither of us have ever cheated on one another (although just after we started talking but before we were together I did have one last forray with my ex). Once I met Tom, I knew that there would be another person in this world that I would ever be with. You see, he and I are of perfect compatiblity for each other. I know that he doesn't look at anyone else and I also know that I don't look at anyone else. I'm not jealous of his female friends that he's known longer than he has known me and he is not jealous of my long-time male friends. In fact, many of our friends from before we were together are mutual friends now.
• United States
12 Mar 10
I will say I trust my boyfriend 95% and why is it so? Because he has no female friends and he believes cheating is a sign of bad character But at the same time I have seen that he can be made to do things against his will. Problem is we live in California where some women are too aggressive and have this tendency to for someone else's man. That is why, I will say I will not allow him to be out with people of opposite gender. Actually he had only one female friend and she was the girlfriend of his friend. However, she was too bold. I mean the girl was in a relationship, but before I came in his life she would send him text messages where she regarded him as hun, sweetie and so on. Also she liked the idea of spending time with my boyfriend and other guys in presence of her boyfriend. I believe if a girl is so free with guys it will not take much time for her to hit on them. I know there are many excuses given for giving a guy friends. But I dont buy into those. And I will not let my boyfriend be boosting someone's ego. Anyways, I made sure that he cut off with that girl. At the same time, when I met him and started the relationship I got rid of even the two guy friends I had because I didnt want my boyfriend to feel threatended. We build trust by creating an evironment of it.
• United States
12 Mar 10
I am sorry that I forgot to say that my boyfriend does not like the idea of having female friends. And he complained to me about the girl I mentioned which left me suspecious. This relationship matters more to us than anything else because it is life changing experience for both us. And friends come and go. They are usually never permanent. Our relationship is though because we love each other a lot and have taken the breakup thing out of our lives. Any person of the opposite gender who falls for any of us is termed as pollution by us. It seems we do not want anyone. And actually I don't control him. He understands what I need and acts accordingly.
• India
13 Mar 10
I am neither confidant nor diffident about my partner. It is the circumstance that makes people to act or do something. It is better not to bother about a partner cheating you. It is like if she/he cheats you, you are cheated and as long as you are not cheated you are not that's all!
@carmenzhj (120)
• New Zealand
13 Mar 10
Well I think it take two of you to work out in the matter. Honesty is the main thing between the partner, I believe in my partner 100%, because we can be open up to anything even just little thing that happened during the day for either me or him. We all know what's going on with one another and we are trust and support one another. If there's a doubt in between is not good for the relationship. I always it is good to talk it out, otherwise what are your mouth and ears for? God made our mouth for speak and our ears for speaks right? Sometimes why your partner or boyfriend/girlfriend go to someone else might be you are not willing to listen to what he/she complain about. When problems occured it people often complain one another rather than look at things differently. Are we all listen to one another's problem? Are we all helping them to support one another?
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
12 Mar 10
Well this is a good post and also irritating post. See, at some point or another you and everyone who this the way you layout things about your partner, needs to understand that being in a relationship does not mean owning that person you you are with. You should review your personality traits and understand why you are so insecure such that you must think all this nonsense. If someone wants to be with you is because they found something good about you and they liked it. Sure enough with your nonsense insecurity, you will screw it all up and loose that person just because you are so insecure. What do you care about what other people say? and what business is it of your friends or family if you partner talks to someone else? Who the hell do you think you are to think you can dictate who that person can talk to and where that person goes to or with?
@kaylachan (55707)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Mar 10
I'm not all that confident that something won't go wrong. I know that it is a very real possibility that I have to deal with. He can go out and has a lot more freedom, and I don't feel as I do have all that much. He can drive, and I can't so yeah unless I can dig up enough change for the bus. I'm stuck. I don't mind if he goes out with friends, but sometimes I want to go along too. But, I wouldn't force him to stay on my account. I don't believe in that.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 10
i don't know coz i haven't had a partner yet. in my opinion, love is built on trust. i can't imagine if two lovers are suspicious each other. If so, i bet they won't be compatible. that will be so awful.
• United States
13 Mar 10
Im not 100 percent my fiancee will not cheat on me.I have been in that situation last year i was a over the road truck driver.I started assuming something was going on with my fiancee she started telling me things iv never herd from her before. Fianally i figured it out she was talking to some guy she says she didnt do anything with him but truth is you really dont know like i said its been about a year now and im fianally gaing her trust back i love her and i will never leave her but infadellity is wrong and i was hurt I do trust her now but i dont let her go to the bars or anything like that.