We all have baggage

I don't think it is cowardly to be a cynic. It takes b@lls to admit you don't believe in something.And it is up to people if they want to try again or not. Some will love only once and when it is over , they never try again. My Mom was like that. Others will try again. Neither move is cowardly. It is just how people are.

Being cynical is expecting the worse, and anything else that happens is a bonus. I have been in love, I am in love now..but despite that I always kinda expect for a message to tell me it's over...not because the relationship is bad, but because my luck is usually so bad it is bound to happen. Despite saying that though, me and my Cuddle Bunny have been together for a year!

yes, it is a wonderful quote... Very beautiful! Love is the best experience of one's life. All of us experience it at this or that stage of life... I know how it is to feel betrayed... And yet, we all go through it... It is indeed unfortunate that a few of us deny to experience the heavenly feeling for the fear of the betrayals and all...

hmm..i have one "it's better to lost love.. than have a big raging *sspain 24/7". maybe i'm really cynical,but man,you can't beat that first breaths of freedom sometimes.

You are a total optimist, that's why.. Maybe in your book of vocabulary, there's no such thing as being down and put out, which is cool. You are cool and it shines through.

Hi dawn~ Being hurt is one of the most miserable feelings in the world. It can take a very long time to trust and love again and sometimes we don't want to even bother trying. It depends on how much time you have invested and how much you really want the relationship. Everyone's tolerance is difference as is each relationship. I have had more than my share of "horror stories"! But, each time I seem to be a glutton for punishment and try again! But, I swear after each one ends I will never to it again!

Babble away, dear. We'll listen.

maybe I just don't live in the real world. I want to try. It is good to live in hell on earth before being thrown to the real fire of hell.

Hi dwanald, Well, when you've done that done this and worn the t-shirt, you'd feel you are far better off being on your own and not getting hurt by someone who thinks they are hard done by, I have a few grilfriends who thinks like that as welland they are far happier not to have to cater for a man. Tamara

Betrayal has haunted me my whole life. But now I can really take a good hard look at my responsibility in those betrayals. No one is responsibile for how I react except me, it is always my choice. If I am betrayed then it is because I misread the game. The minuete I give the power of my feelings to another I can be betrayed. If I give love it is totally my feeling, it is only an illusion that the other person feels like I do. I have no rights, I am the one that loves. Love to me may be and most likely is totally unlike the emotion in the other person. Emotion that is given is often not a true gift, unlike a gift it is given with expectations of benefit from that person. This is where the trouble starts. If I can just love you then no matter what happens I have love for you. I have grown because I spread my love, at the same time I have no expectations from others because of my actions. Those we call Saints give in this manner, for most of us we cannot let loose of our expectation from our love. I hope this makes sense to you.

Is not love that hurts but the break up... But it is better to love than to be loved. At leas that way you know you are a capable person of loving another human being, perhaps that is one of our hardest task in life, to give without receiving or specking to receive... It is good that you are indeed an optimist, not everyone can get through a break up that easily.

Good on you for wanting to try because if you are not willing to take emotional risks you may as well not be living! You need time to find the you that was lost and have a rest and when the day comes and you notice sun shine, that is when your heart will once again be open and who knows where that may lead...

Dawn, thanks for sharing such a good quote. :) Of course it hurts. But look at it like this, this moment is a new cupboard given to you. You can choose to bring in the old clothes and place them here, or go out and buy some new ones. The choice is yours honey. Some of those old clothes will be good enough to merit entry into this new cupboard. But there are plenty out there you dont really want. Optimist I am. That is why I have survived so long. :) Otherwise, my life is trash, as you know it by now. :)

yeah we all do have baggages. and it s really up to us whether to try and love again or never love at all. there s this saying "what doesn t kill you makes you stronger." this always kicks in my head whenever i feel down. i just wanna share it to everybody here at mylot