Can another person truly break up a happy couple?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
7 responses
@sinbaby (12)
• Romania
16 Mar 10
you are right in one point...if we are truly connected and happy...but what if one day we fight..and he goes to meet with the other one...and he see that he is feeling good with her...and we fight again the next week..and so on i think if the other girl is smart enough and know when to appear...in his life ...yes she can break up that couple..:(
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 10
If he is fighting, he isn't happy. If they are fighting over the same thing two weeks in a row he may have left regardless if he met the other or not.
@getbiswa2000 (5545)
• India
17 Mar 10
Hello,
Well of course one can break and smash it into pieces. No matter how strong a relationship is, there will always be a single most vulnerable point, and that is expectations. Some relationships have other vulnerabilities too. Now if one is clever enough to exploit that vulnerability he can bring the entire relationship down. Being happy and content is not enough. Very few people I see are actually strong and independent minded. A certain kind of attachment makes a relationship more vulnerable. I don't think there is any relationship that is free from all sorts of vulnerabilities and the main reason is the limitation and imperfection inherent in human nature. You can't blame anybody except the person who has been instrumental in a break up. I would also like to add a few words about such persons. They are usually found to be quite close to the family.
God bless you
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 10
I am strong and independent minded!I don't expect anything that can't be achieved in a relationship. I Know no one perfect and I accept it.What I want I have, a relationship where the feelings are mutual. if he falls out of love or some how we don't connect like we do now I assume it will end because of the lack o connection between us , not because someone has come between us. We came between us. something changed or ended.The other person is a symbol , not the Reason.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 10
I am not That confident! I need G-d's help from time to time.I am secure Because I have the support of my man. And I wouldn't call you weak.It is a strong person who Asks for help when he needs it.
@getbiswa2000 (5545)
• India
17 Mar 10
I am not independent. I depend on God at every step. The comment you just gave here is quite generic. I would say that in your context then, I am the sole person who is responsible for whatever happens to me. This is not an ordinary point of view of course. You should have told me about your point of view. If you are what you say you are, then I think you must had been bestowed with divine power. You are brilliant and confident. You are strong. How come I don't feel like that? I always think that nothing is impossible in this world. I always leave everything on the hands of God. I must be very weak and dependent. I shouldn't have participated in this thread.
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@dawnald (85130)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Mar 10
I asked kind of a similar question last year related to the song asking Jolene please not to take her man, and I thought how can somebody just "take" somebody's man. The man would have to cooperate with that, now wouldn't he? I agree, if a couple is open and honest and happy with each other, he's gonna just tell Jolene to take a flying leap!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 10
do you like country music? Me too. anyway I think a man or anyone can be tempted but if he/she is having All their needs met, they won't let the other person come between them and their lover.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 10
Drkraven, I don't think it has anything to do with character, It Has to do with need. If your partner doesn't give you Everything you need , There is a chance someone else , a person who can fill that need, can come between you two.
@drkraven (521)
• Romania
17 Mar 10
1 night stands can become more. Besides, there are still some cases when happy couples fail due to situations. For expl immagine a nice work colegue. One that your husband/wife depends on. One that takes his side in fron of their boss. One that helps him/her look good in front of their clients etc. There is a very thing line between this and something more, and few are able to see it :) That s just an example, basicly it s about your partner finding somewhere else what you cannot offer him/her, be it cause you cannot or cause you forget to or maybe you don t find it very important.
As i said earlier it s easy to fall for someone who seems to have it all while your partner doesn t. Ppl with character don t, weaker ones (from this point of view) go for it.
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@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
16 Mar 10
My husband was still home today when Whoopie asked this question. He says no. I say no too..but...this is one of the rare instances that I agree with Elizabeth. All long term relationships at one point or another have their vulnerable moments, left alone and with each other..they are mended, shored up, and made stronger. Enter a coniving, manipulative soap opera type character and things can go the other way, even for a little while, someone can be de-railed, maybe not to the point of infidelity but headed down that road. Nobody is happy all the time but in relationships with a good solid foundation both people have to be serious about the commitment and when times are bad you make that commitment every day and then you honor it..especially when the villians want in!!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 10
But Jewels at the end of your comment you seem to be agreeing with Whoopi, Hubby and me. If the couple is Truly committed to each other , evenin the low moments they won't let a third party break them apart.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 10
Edwards was just being a politician, a liar! In that case it wasn't the other woman, it was he who broke everything up. If it weren't this woman, it would have been another. The other woman is and was just a symbol that everything was pear shaped.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
17 Mar 10
You're right Sarah, in essence and in a perfect world I do agree, but humans are fallible and when the third party is overtly manipulatve and coniving I think it is not impossible for a weak or vulnerable partner to stumble. In the case of John Edwards? I think this guy was always a pig.
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@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
• Canada
16 Mar 10
I think they can if they can inflitrate the relationship from the inside ut otherwise, no. It depends on the people and the situation the couple are in at the time.
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@PriestessLong (115)
• United States
16 Mar 10
I agree,
even if you're swinger's no one can come between you.
