when you lend money to a deadbeat,then what should you do?

@peace001 (726)
China
March 17, 2010 4:04am CST
hi,mylotters today my colleague complained that she lend money to her friend,but it seems that her friend forget or doesnot pay her back.my colleague do not know how to get her maney back and donot make her friends nhappy and injury her friend's self-esteem,you know money is a awkard subject.i have the same experience,and i lent money to my friend ,i just wanted to help her,but it seemed that she never borrowed money from me.i was hurted and after that i avoid lending money to my friend.then what should you do when you lend money to a deadbeat?share with us,have a good day!
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10 responses
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
I'd learn from this unfortunate experience and I'd be careful next time. Let's be careful peace, this world is full of deadbeats. They can be very charming when they need something. Then, they can pretend to be forgetful after they get what they want. Have a nice evening, peac.
@peace001 (726)
• China
17 Mar 10
you are right,there are lots of deadbeats.and i will be more careful whom i help in the future.so do you.just help the person who is really worth helping. good day
@celticeagle (157583)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Mar 10
Well, for the upteenth time I will say this: I have made it a steadfast rule not to loan money to ANYONE! And especially not to my friends! Why? Because friends seem to think they can put you off, make all kinds of excuses why they can't pay you back, and some even feel they don't necessarily have to pay you back. So, you ask what should you do when you lend money to a deadbeat? Kick yourself in the rear and move on!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
18 Mar 10
Don't lend more money than you can afford to lose. If you are going to feel angry if you lend your friend 10.00 and your friend can't repay it as promised then don't do it.
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
well, helping others is not bad but we must make sure that people we would like to help is not abusive of other people especially when it comes to lending money to them, if someone borrows money then we should make a followup and don't stop until he or she pays because money nowadays is a hot commodity and in dire need amidst the crisis we're experiencing.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
I will just probably give the amount but I am sure not a big one. I wouldn't expect to get paid by the person. It happened to me once, someone came to borrow money and I saw that she really needed it, I did not give her the full amount she wanted but only gave her something that she could use without expecting it to be paid.
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
17 Mar 10
I learned a long time ago, if I lend money I should expect it never to be repaid. Then when it is paid back, you're always pleasantly surprised. Don't lend money you can't afford to lose -- that's my motto.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
17 Mar 10
Unfortunately, there's not much that can be done unless they wrote something out. I guess I would just not lend money to this person in the future.
@kialele (126)
• United States
17 Mar 10
That happened to me. I lend some money (though not much) to a friend for register of a program, but she forgot to pay me back. I don't know how to ask her and just let it be. But if it was big money, I will ask a third party to tell they guy
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
17 Mar 10
Well, speaking as someone who has been burned badly by lending out money to the wrong people, I would say never lend money to that person again. Some people just will never pay up for whatever reason. Therefore, it is important to be extremely careful who you lend money to. With some people, you might be better off dropping the money in a barrel and throwing a lit match inside. These days, I am not going to lend money out to anyone. A few bad people can spoil something for everyone. I just have been burned one too many times. While there is a chance that I will get paid back, there is also an even bigger chance that I will never see that money again. So, its just better off not to take that chance, even with the most honest person.
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
hi, thanks to my sensitive ear I learned that our neighbor whos a woman got traumatized when a police came to their house together with the complainant who she borrowed money from. the woman didn't care and forget about her friend. wonderful that the complainant asked help of the police. it might have been against the flow for the woman to repay her friend but with the police she was forced to pay. i think you must also rely on the police to recover your money