A girl want to start a relationship with me but..

Malaysia
March 20, 2010 1:04am CST
Just accidentally met her in town.I have seen her during our studies.But starting that day we contact a lot.Few times later,she told me that she had broken relationship.Am I just only a a replacement or because the sincerity?She is a nice gurl.
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@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
If you feel the same way for her then go ahead. But I warn you... things will work out fine if you'll take things slowly but surely. Respect the fact that she just had a broken relationship so be careful. Don't invest too much friend... :)
@andy77e (5161)
• United States
21 Mar 10
How recently did she break up, and does she talk about the previous person a lot, and was she moved in with him, or just dating? These are things that I would want to know. If the break up with prior B.F. was last week, you could find yourself being used by her to either make him jealous, or to fill in the pain. Or even it can sometimes be a pride thing where she says "See I can get another boy friend. I don't need him". In all three cases, your relationship with her will be shallow, and likely short lived. If she talks about the prior B.F. constantly, then that could cause problems. Do you want to constantly hear about the 'ex-bf'? She could still be infatuated with him, which will ruin your relationship with her. Finally, how wrapped out with him was she? Did she move in with him? How long? Did they have kids? Did they buy things together? If she's been with him for the past 5 years, that's a bad sign. If they own stuff together, that means you may have to deal with this other man, or the messy problems they left behind. Now the alternative is, she could be just letting you know that she's single and not attached to anyone. But since you don't know that yet, my advice would be to take it slow. Just chat now and then. Don't go out on a date, just talk. Get to know her a bit, but at same time, be cautious and careful in your choices. If are patient and talk with her, the truth will come out, either way.
• India
20 Mar 10
She appears to be a type of girl who after seeing a book with attractive covers drops the one she was already reading. How do you know that with you her search would be complete? How do you know she would not drop you like a hot potato, as and when see another person prospective than you. Friend you are treading on slippery grounds. Just be careful; wait and watch and see how far she is willing to go with you. I wish you best of luck.
@besthope44 (12135)
• India
20 Mar 10
Hi, It all matters you love her, irrespective of knowing her past. If yes, ask yourself will be able to live without her. Ask yourself first, even if the girl says she wants to be with you. Its better to think well, if you really love her and if you can love her or be a friend for ever!
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
I will first take into consideration if a possible relationship with her would be ok. If not I have no other choice than to ignore her. Its hard to be in a relationship and be not ready for it. First of all I would have to educate her the conditions that she has to meet so that she can become my gf. I understand the pain of rejection on her part also so if I'm going to reject her, I have to do it the least damaging way.
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
How sure are you that she does want to start a relationship? Maybe she's just lonely. If anything, she's grateful for the attention and the opportunity to have something else to think about. Don't jump in so quickly. You might hurt her, and you might also hurt yourself.
@saphrina (31732)
• South Africa
20 Mar 10
Beign a replacement, i wouldn't know. But why don't you just be friends with her and see what happens? TATA.
@mods196621 (3656)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
You know the girl well and you can feel what is behind it. Then at the time you are always talking and lots of time you had the conversations you'll determine the motives. Then by yourself you will know what is her likes. If she told you that she had a broken relationship then it means she rely on you at this moment. Be friendly with her and study your heart if you feel in love or like her. Then she will be nice to you and the feelings grow up to the point that you realize you love each other. Friends ends at love as I know.
@fsll518 (304)
• China
20 Mar 10
Well... if you feel right about her, then why concern too much about her past relationship. If you really like to be with her, then just be future-oriented, find out if you'll be happy by being together.
@srganesh (6344)
• India
20 Mar 10
Did she tell you that she is in want of a relationship with you?Declaring a broken relationship already shall not mean that she is ready to take you.May be she think of you as a good friend to open her mind and see some soothing words from you which would console her.Don't jump into hasty conclusions and yet break her heart once again.