How Different Are Online nd Offline Friends For U ????

@sunnycool (12714)
India
March 25, 2010 8:15am CST
There isn't much difference for me-----I treat them equally---the only difference is that we have never seen Online friends which isn't the same with Offline friends. I'm bit choosy in making friends when it comes to this virtual world---one who crosses over and becomes my friend would be like my real friend and i stand by it. I started making money online with one thing in Mind------Never Trust anyone (the scams i came accross made me think that way)---Later found that there are good ones too who can be nice friends. How about you---Is there any intriguing Factor which stops you from accepting your online friends completely or trust them like the Offline friends? P.S----Exclude those who make friendship to get some referrals for their sites or to earn some money in disguise of friendship.
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21 responses
@vandana7 (98858)
• India
25 Mar 10
You make me wonder whether I qualify as a friend, or an aunt, or what you mentioned in post script - ugh! I thought I am a good aunty. :-) If you dont endorse that you've lost my friendship for sure.
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Mar 10
i love the way you interact with each other as aunt and nephew...that's cool. sunny be good and better be a friend to my dear friend Van. i am happy having both of you as my good friends here in mylot!
@vandana7 (98858)
• India
26 Mar 10
@sunny - gaadida (donkey) as if I gave you a choice. @msfrancisco - you just dont know the tone in which this kid would've uttered that - just see the emoticons and understand - even when writes good aunty - there is a ridicue in that - that is the way people out here talk. :) This boy is too naughty, needs is ears turned around. :)
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
I think the last option would be better Good Aunty
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Mar 10
Well BB, first of all, to make friends just for refferals are rude. I tend to ignore those who try that one on me. And there is not really much of a difference between on- and offline friends. I like them all. TATA.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Then i'm gonna send you my referral link SB-----would you join me
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
I'm not sure what you expect in return but it shouldn't be your lovey atleast
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Mar 10
Ok BB, but you know what i want in return. So start thinking on the packiging and then we can talk again.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
25 Mar 10
I think that first we have to define 'friend' then we can start to answer your question. I know a lot of people offline like I also know, not personally but through their writing or even phone calls but I have not met them in person, a lot of people online. I have made friends with a lot offline and some online too but not all of the people that I jhave met are friends - some are just acquaintances. The ones that are friends have something that, like a magnet, attracted us to get more involved in our personal situations after getting to know more about each other. I would tryst those online friends as much as I trust the offline ones - or I would not consider them to be friends in the first place. Thos that add you on a list like here are not friends when you add them but they can then become one after we start to get to know each other better. Just like offline you would bump into someone in the street and get to know them better before you called them a friend surely?
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
25 Mar 10
I don't share everything with someone who would be likely to say that at some point in the future. People don't change Sunny. I can sense who is real and who is fake and so far, even though I have online friends from over twn years ago, I have not been mistaken. Has this happened to you?
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Yup that one sentence caused me to start this discussion and i feel bad about it
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
I dont think every one in our friends list are good and trustable friends either---if that were the case you would have occupied the first place---as the mylotter with most number of friends. What if someone you knew with whom you shared everything start saying that they never trusted you What would you then
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• United States
25 Mar 10
Last night my brother and I were just having a conversation related to this. I was worried about one of my friends, and I mentioned it in conversation. He wanted to know some specifics and when I told him he said "so this isn't a real person that you are talking about". I tried to explain that it definitely was a real person, but he just could not seem to understand the concept of being friends with someone that you have never met or seen in person. I tried to explain that it is almost like going to a bar, because you can see those people but have never met them before so you still do not know anything about them. He just could not grasp the concept, though.
• United States
25 Mar 10
You are right about not being able to explain about online friendships to people that have never experienced them. I was rather skeptical about them myself at first, so I can understand the doubt. My brother has never really had anything to do with computers, and I am not entirely sure he could even figure out how to turn one on, so I guess that is why he does not understand what I am talking about.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
lol you must be kiding me----i cant even imagine that there is someone who doesnt even know to operate a computer---Is he younger like 14-20 years old or elder to you
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
We cant force anyone to understand as what exactly this means to those who treat Online friendship seriously---people who have never been to chat rooms or social sites would find it hard to trust that people feel bad when someone is missing suddenly or if they're in hard times---they get used to them as he was there for them most of the time---so it would be our minimum gratitude to help them sort things out irrespective of them taking your friendship seriously
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• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Mar 10
Hi Sunny, In this virtual world of social networking and online earning establishing a good friendship is truly a gift. we just have to be extra careful in establishing such relationship where trust is build. of course there's a great difference but the bottomline is they are both our friends. we both provide support with each other and enjoy each other's company and learn from it!
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Mar 10
that's true. anyways, we are here doing our best to be a trusted friend to one another. i am happy that in a way i have lots of them here including you! keep smiling!
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Thank you winky have a great day ahead
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
There may not be a big difference in our view winky but there might be hell of a difference in their view.so friendship stands good if either of them trust each other else it would be no where
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@cloud31 (5809)
25 Mar 10
Theres no difference,I consider both friends to treasure, I don't give any hindrance to anybody who wants to be my friends,as long as I know they're not doing anything wrong with me,I will value them as same individual.Online friends can be good as offline and vise versa,So friends online and offline having the same value for me.! Happy myLotting!
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
I think you met in the couple of months---so what do you think of me . I think Trusting each other would make friendship stronger---if they dont trust me neither would i trust them
@cloud31 (5809)
25 Mar 10
You're ok i told you I don't mind if I met friends online! I have friends offline which are not really making a good friendship,so whether an online or offline I don't really feel any difference.---Trusting ? of course it make sense when friendship is involved---is there anything to reveal? If speak about "revealing" it somehow Trust has to be earned not a constant verb? do you agree?
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
I dont mind if they have any problem in Revealing their personal details especially if they're girls---what if they keep on hiding things from you---from your side they're good for you for them you aren't trustable---does this holds long?
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
I do have a lot of online friends, some of them I met when I was starting to explore the internet which is around ten years ago. They also don't have any differentiation because they are all friends of mine. I also don't mix friendship with business or money that's why I still have them as friends.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Mar 10
There are friends who manage to exchange referrals as well but they knew other its that they trust each other---doing that with a stranger wouldn't make any sense.Good to hear that you have online friends for those many years
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
as much as possible i try to treat both my online and offline friends in the same manner. many will find that my online personality is pretty much what they could see when offline. hehe however like in real life, there are varying degrees in online friendship. take for example mylot friends. some friends in my list progressed to exchanging PMs then exchanging emails or chatting via ym. a few of them progressed to exchanging mobile numbers. and one of them i've met several times over the last 6 months. these days, i get to communicate more often with online friends. most of my offline friends are in different countries now or in different regions in the country. sometimes it's more difficult to get hold of them, unlike my online friends who are just a chat message away. hehehe
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
yes, it has been nice to meet another mylotter in person. he's the only one i met so far. but who knows i might meet more someday when i travel. hehehe
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
I heard some mylotters meeting personally in a get together that would be really great experience to meet someone who has been with you in this virtual world---sharing our emails is the most common thing between online friends provided they dont spam you lol just kidding.Its always good to have real friends who can comfort you than the virtual ones who are restricted to words itself apart from that they both are equal for me
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
25 Mar 10
I think I have more friends in the virtual world than I have in the real world. Reason being I spend more time in the virtual world. The only difference between my virtual friends and real friends is that I tend to associate myself with friends that are of the same age as me while the friends I have online are ageless. They can be anywhere from 18 - 80 years old. I don't know how to be choosy when it comes to the virtual friendship. Anyone who request to be my friend is accepted.
• United States
25 Mar 10
Yea, i'm all alone
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Spending more time with people who are younger than you would help you feel younger at heart right .I think every one who makes an request to be your friend cannot be our true friend---they might be for you----but not for the teens---there are a lot to be considered before taking them to be so close
@primeaque86 (8105)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Well, I am always excluding your last statement Sunny, for I come here not for referrals... I am not thinking much of it... I am here for a good discussion and fun... yet this goal would never juts stop here... in the process of interacting so many personalities here in this virtual world... there are few that would caught your interest, and it would be the beginning of the so-called friendship... In my almost 3 months here, I found few friends already. And to tell you, I am the kind of person who has a tender heart, I would easily trust somebody. Well, you are right---never trust anyone idea can prevent us for from some kind of frustration in the end... yet, I guess that could hinder me from making lots of friends... I guess everybody here has the chance to be my friends if they wishes too... friendship indeed is like putting up a business---you have to always expect for risk... I am always believing on the statement, 'do not judge by the book on it's cover' or unless you have gone to every pages of that book, you can freely say "I do not like that book, it's quiet boring'. So How Different Are Online and Offline Friends For me?---no difference at all. Like you they are equally treated for the fact that I need them for their inside, not for the mere physical presence... Good day dude...
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
And now one is wondering what kind of bussiness thay would be??
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Mar 10
Hi best friend, want to join this great new site: www.dawnispullingyourleg.com/ref=oops Actually, I have trusted a lot of people online and so far none of them have ever let me down. Good instincts, lucky, I don't know. But think of all the really great people I would never have met if it were not for the internet!
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Mar 10
meanie
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Your response has been rated Negative and Reported too ----For placing a referral link on boards
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Mar 10
Meanie you for placing a referral link or Meanie me for reporting it
@coffeegurl (1467)
• United States
25 Mar 10
Most of my friends are online, I only have one friend in RL.
• United States
25 Mar 10
no, it's not that...I work from home so I don't get to meet new people. Plus, I don't have a car. And my RL friends moved away.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
That is quite opposite and weird---I never came accross such one until now you avoided your real life friends for Online friends or you never had one in offline ever
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
oh that must be boring for you----as you cannot hangout with your friends in offline---to party with them or enjoy some locations with them
@busybee10 (3186)
• India
25 Mar 10
I am little disappointed with friends as making them is easy,but no proper responses from them. Some reply but are very very brief - and some do not correspond at all. This is what I am facing. I came across just one or two from abroad who are very friendly and broadminded. They guide me in many aspects. I like this relationship. It is with them I have learnt so many new things. This should be a friends nature. Excuse me friends if I have told any wrong.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Do not take them wrongly busybee---they might have been busy with something else or their offline work so they couldnt explain it precisely to you. Your words seem to that you have done something wrong---if it is so then apologise them they would accept it for sure and let them know that you never intented to hurt their feelings.they would be back with you as normal
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Okies then
@busybee10 (3186)
• India
25 Mar 10
Not at all - I can understand the situations well and can also mingle with all if they respond or not. Thanks for your suggestion.
• United States
25 Mar 10
i dont have as many as i used to, but i think they are totally different. i think i'd feel totally awkward if i ever met someone from online because it just isnt the same
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Mar 10
Speaking to your online friend or meeting them personally would be different and weird too as they became closer coz of your words which we write in here.there are many who have met their online friends in offline too
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
25 Mar 10
Other than location and with some of my online friends, the fact that we've not met yet, there really ISNT any difference....My friends are my friends regardless of where they are/I am location wise or whether or not we've actually met etc..
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
Its always to good to have friends who last long---and good to know that you have many such ones .It takes a lot to get real friends though in this virtual world
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
hello sunny, my online & offline friends are both special to me in heir own ways. i can say that there's not much difference but not really. there are still things that my close offline friends knows...things that they know because they have been spending time with me in real, and there are somethings that we do that our online friends don't know... well atleast in my case, i don't really share everything about me here, although i respond base on my life experiences and base on what i really feels but still there are somethings in real life or offline life that i do that online friends cannot see, people here just knows us base on what we are writing but offline friends knows us in a different way as well. but as to treatment i guess, friends are friends, whether on or offline. and again they are special in their own way... but i still wanted to meet my online friends in real...so that our friendship will even go farther...
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
25 Mar 10
yes there are huge different when we talk or think about our online or offline friend. i think we have just try to modified the definition of friendship. i think a friend is a person who is with you and support you, and there is no distinguishment about that whether he is online or offline. even on online friend we dont have enough trust so what kind of friendship this is. so i think there are any person who supports and think well for us is the friend there is no discrimination in online or offline friend.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
it depends on our thinking though---if you can look out for the positive in a person irrespective of having met them in offline or online they would qualify to be a good friend for sure. A large section of people think that virtual friends aren't real---the things they came accross might have forced them to think or believe like that way.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
For me offline friends are those who could be there for you anytime. And in personal manners as well not like on line friends that you didn't knew personally. For me i treasure my offline friends a little much than my offline friends...
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Honestly theres a big difference for me. First online friends are not necessarily the kind of friends that i go out to most of the time. There are times that i have meet friends online but we dont meet in person at all. For me meeting in person is pretty much important , thats the way we bond together as friends. And there are online friends that add me up just because of games online or we just have a common friend of something ;)
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Mar 10
That would worse thing i can face---being a friend of my friend cannot qualify me to be a good one to you---Most of all think that meeting a person physically would stand a chance higher chance of being a good friend which isn't true---there are many in offline who betray us---so both worlds are filled with good and bad ones---being skeptical in selecting them would help us a lot
• China
26 Mar 10
for me they are quiet different