Should I forget the people who are involved in my past?

Philippines
March 29, 2010 4:42am CST
I wanted to forget my recent past relationship with ex boyfriend. I already made friends of his friends and meet new friends and treated me like their friends too. They like me as their friends and happy to meet me. But the problem is I broke up with my bf for some reason. And i wanted to forget him. Should i also forget the people involved in my past relationship? confused. :(
19 responses
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
29 Mar 10
You should only forget the people that you don't like to be part of your life anymore. Your new friends being friends of your ex aren't people you want to forget, isn't it? That's why if you like them you shouldn't make something from the past stop you from having good friends
• India
30 Mar 10
I agree with you. If you enjoy these guys company, then nothing should stop you from being friends with them, regardless they are friends of your ex.
@bavneet (127)
• India
29 Mar 10
see it all on you what kind of your past if you think the past people are not good then forget them of if they are good then just rember them if you don't want to be in contact with them.
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
think so... keeping in touch with them is not a good idea for now. But i will always remember them. Everything happens for a reason. And i am so glad i have met new friends.
• India
30 Mar 10
as per my nature i will forget my past relationship with everyone involved in it dcoz as per me if i would met any one of them then i cant forget them
• China
5 Apr 10
It's not necessary at all to forget those people. I think a usual heart is vital for you. Breaking up with him doesn't necessarily mean breaking up with his friends. What's more, if they treat you as their friends, you don't have to relate them to your ex...
@Draeke (322)
• United States
30 Mar 10
to me, it doesnt make sense to shut out all the people that remind you of him, it's not their fault. I feel you should keep the friends you like and get along with and not punish them because they know your ex. If you dont feel comfortable being around them, dont.
@iv4emani (35)
• Bulgaria
17 Apr 10
Hi.It is individual for each person.Meenting with them you bear the painfil memories as well to disconnect them.If you enjoyed seeing them l see no reason not to continue to do so.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
29 Mar 10
i think if you talk about practical things then it is not possible to forget someone. but it is possible to remember some one very rare. i think you have got my point. i think you could do some thing which could make you busy in things and you will not able to remember him.
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
29 Mar 10
think about the present and forget about the past!this is the best predicament to lead the life!
• India
30 Mar 10
i can not forget my past because feature has been stand on past .
@aprilmmm (77)
• France
29 Mar 10
Hello,I'm also confused about it.When I broke up with my ex bf, I avoid meeting and talking with his friends in order not to think of him. After some time,I'm totally out of the relationship with him,so now I can talk with them as usual,but I still feel a little embarrassed.
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
You don't have to forget the people in your past just to move on with your ex-bf. All you have to do is to accept the past for what it was. You will be unfair to those who have been so nice to you. They are your friends as well.
@khyle6 (20)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
it is only your relationship that was broken up and not the relationships that you were able to build with the people that you met when you were with him.
@ynamel18 (15)
30 Mar 10
i don't think there's a need for you to forget about your past. In fact, it must be your guide for your future. all you have to do for a while is to start moving on, but that doesn't mean you have to forget what have happened with your past or who were the persons involved, moving on starts from acceptance. =))
@dimple27 (31)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
i don't think you have to forget the people involved. there is no such thing as forgetting..only acceptance..you should just accept the fact about what happened to your relationship and just face the consequences of your decision (which is breaking up with him)... you can't move on and continue your journey in your life if you are stuck in the past.. those people have a good relationship with you..so you should take care of it.. since you only have a problem on your boyfriend..why don't you talk to him and settle the unsettled things..? so both of you could have a peaceful life... well..that's what i think... :)
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 10
There is no harm in keeping the memory of your good old times with people you associated in the past. Life happens and it is a blessing that you have met many people and acquired some experiences socializing with people. As for your boyfriend, it is a normal thing to have loved and lost. Let bygone be bygone and move on.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
29 Mar 10
humm i dont think i would, because whever was between you and your ex is between you two and they dont have anything to do with it. and if they are treating with repsect too, i wouldnt
@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
hi, I think we don't really have to forget totally all those persons who are involved in our past. We should remember that all people coming into our lives has a purpose. If we get hurt of what they did, it somehow gave us lessons. We should also bear in our minds that they are the ones who molds us of what we are today.
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
i guess that we should not forget the people in our past no matter how bad experience we had with them as they are still part of what we are today. i mean we change things because of what happened with our past. good or bad we must still consider it as part of our life and give us lesson to learned so we will be aware of our current life. theres nothing wrong to have friends with your ex as they are not connected to him at all, i mean if you go out nor talk to them your ex will not attached to them physically. so you can still have fun with them without bothering your ex. besides its not the end of the world if his not around and so it will only remind him that you life will not ended without him.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
29 Mar 10
Well, i can understand the pain of bitter past relations. But you have to understand, life doesnot stay, it has to move on with new thoughts and memories. When you think of past, you feel heavy or happy. If happy, just retain them as memories. If you feel heavy, forget them as you are making your present life bitter thinking of the past. The Present and future welcomes and accepts you, so dont think of the bitter past!