cant feel bad for people who did it to themself

United States
March 30, 2010 8:47am CST
a friend of my called last night, wanted me to come up this morning. but i cant drive yet due my neck operaion well he lost his house, the house he grew up in. it also been paid off first he told me he didnt pay the tax, but his sister told me, she did send the first check in, then second one she sent came back said they owe nothing on taxes, but got a letter saying the house was sold. she told me she said to her brother he need to check in on this. he never did. but i told her i bet he borrowed money from house, she said no she would have known well he did borrow money from the house and just stop paying for it, the house was acution off in may of last year, and bought in june, and now someone else owes his house. and what sad about it, his sister never knew, and the people who got his house paid $76,000 for it. this house is a good size house, with a in ground pool. sorry i cant feel bad for him he did this to himself i do feel bad for his sister she might be put out on the street how would feel ? could you feel bad for him ?
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@cream97 (29164)
• United States
30 Mar 10
Hi, syankee525. I would feel sorry for them both. Sadly to say. This kind of reminds me of how my father-in-law and his house being foreclosed. Now someone else is staying in it and the house is all fixed up and so pretty. When he was living in it was tore up and damaged. But now it looks very nice and neat. Your friend should have been paying on his house. And he should have been checking up on things like this. Just to leave his sister our out of the equation is mean and selfish. He should have been finding out more about this so that he would not risk losing the house that they live in. Now, his sister will be put on the street and him too. Was this house an inheritance? I wonder why his sister never tried to move into her place instead. His irresponsible actions have caused him his own home. What a shame. Why do people careless when it comes to them paying on their own home?? I don't get it. This is a very sad situation, it surely is. I hope that his sister can find a place of her own, she should not be the one that has to suffer because of her brother's carelessness.
@cream97 (29164)
• United States
30 Mar 10
Dis your friend somehow took out another second mortgage out on his home?? Because this is what my father-in-law did. His house was fully paid for and then he took out an second mortgage and he had to pay it back, but he did not keep up with the payments. He had a chance to save the house, but he would just ignore all of the loan companies phone calls and letters, plus the visits too. It is very sad...
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
1 Apr 10
I always feel bad for the loss of others but there are some cases in which people do tend to bring things on. I usually just feel bad for first time issues though..after that I figure they should have probably learned from their past mistakes.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I would feel bad that he lost his house but not why he lost it. If he was silly enough to borrow against it and then not pay for it...well, he deserves what he got. With our economy the way it is, it isn't a good time to lose your home either. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
• United States
31 Mar 10
It's kind of the same situation with my mom or I should say my so called we never had a very good relationship in fact my grandma basically took care of me in fact if it wasnt for my grandma I would be in a wheelchair today she is the one who took me to the doctors and got braces for my feet and then spent endless hours working with me. My mom always tries and find someon to sponge off us and no matter what she says or does it's never her fault. My grandma recently passed away and we were each suppose to get a portion of her estate and I was suppose to get my grandma's wedding ring a mother ring she had and a broach that she always wore. well there is suppose to be a 3 month waiting period before any disburtions can be done then another month to prepare an audit so techinally 4 months which would be not until may at the earliest somehow my mom got a hugh and I mean hugh check and has already cashed it and of course no one knows where the rings or that broach that Im suppose to have is. She made it clear she wasnt paying anybody anything and then she added more disrepect by saying she couldnt help what my grandma left me. Well I hope she remembers all she has done because whenever something happens it's on her. I dont see how she can get by with this but she will.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
31 Mar 10
Ya, I do feel bad for people that never learned how to manage their money or set priorities in their life. Mostly, I feel bad for those around them that get stuck picking up the pieces. Maybe this will be a lesson to the both of them. It's too bad but his sister should have also checked into things rather than blindly trust her brother. I mean she should know him by now, right?
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
I feel bad for his sister too. I think its very irresponsible of him. I think theirs a way to get back the money at his brother expense. If she has prove that she is sending money to his brother for payment but his brother did not pay the tax and maybe she can make an appeal. Is the house already turn over? ..
@junmae (1591)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
So the sister suffers from the fault of his brother. I agree that you shouldn't feel bad for him because it is his fault at all.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
31 Mar 10
I would feel bad for the sister. I am assuming they both live in the house. It is something now you can do nothing about, as this was engineered by the brother. If you buy something you have to pay for it. If you own a house you have to pay the taxes and mortgage if you have one. If you get involved you will be brought down with them if you lend them money, then you both will be broke. Have sympathy, but do not get involved.
• United States
31 Mar 10
I wouldn't feel sorry for him either. I can't feel sorry for people that bring things like that on themselves. If it had been because of something that happened that he couldn't do anything about that would be different. I've known people that got into trouble and they brought it on themselves, and then wants everyone to feel sorry for them.
• United States
30 Mar 10
If all the facts are correct, it sounds like your friend was just simply irresponsible. It sounds like there was no excuse for losing it since it was already paid off.. man I can't imagine letting something like that go and not checking on it!
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
30 Mar 10
Hello there... I would not be able to determine what do I feel for your friend, as I have no idea why did he take a loan? From your post, it sounds as if the loan was not necessary... If that is the case, then I wouldn't feel sorry for him... I feel sorry for his sister though.
@rosegardens (3040)
• United States
30 Mar 10
I would feel bad for him and his family. It is terrible to be homeless. What a shame they got that house that was paid for and now have lost it. My heart does go out to them. Why would he have stopped making the payments on the mortgage? Certainly the mortgage company would have notified him the house is going to be sold. They have to let you know.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
He should've told his sister about his borrowing money. Or he could've done something about it. I don't feel bad for him. I haTe what he did actually.
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
He should've told his sister about his borrowing money. Or he could've done something about it. I don't feel bad for him. I have what he did actually.