Is it worth giving a second chance?

Philippines
April 2, 2010 11:02am CST
Sometimes we really commit mistakes no matter how prudent we are. And when that mistake has something to do with relationships, it's more painful and difficult to get over. You cannot deny the fact that your personal values can be affected by the way you relate with the person who has committed a mistake against you because you start to DOUBT him/her. The question now is how do you make yourself whole again? Sometimes it's easy to forgive but hard to forget because it takes time to heal all wounds. But is it really worth giving a second chance? How can you have trust and respect again with that person if you always remember his/her mistake in the past?
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15 responses
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 10
I would give her/him the second chance, but i am not easy to forget someone mistake. So maybe the second chance could make me believe to respect him/her again
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 10
I would give her/him the second chance, but i am not easy to forget someone mistake. So maybe the second chance could make me believe to respect him/her again
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
depends on you - on how you see the person... if you can bring back the trust you have for him, i would say go and give yourself another chance... i said that yourself here because when you give the relationship a chance you are giving the chance not only to the person but to you as well - another chance for you to be happy......
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
It's indeed difficult to forget regardless how many times you tell yourself and that person that you've forgiven them. I know how it feels like because I've gone through that and sadly it takes a very long white to accept and I doubt you'll ever really be 100% trusting to anyone. It may sound so negative and all, but it takes a second to break someone's heart and a lifetime to heal them most especially if you can't find the way to truly end the relationship. So, is it worth giving second chances? Definitely. At least if they commit the mistake the nth time and you would be fed up and ready to toss everything out of the window no one could blame you anymore - you've had enough. Otherwise, if you let go immediately you'd always be asking yourself if you truly did the right thing. I tell you, your heart will either grow tired of forgiving or be happy that you've forgiven the person. But regardless, don't waste time being overly emotional. Meaning, allow yourself to cry if you're hurt - but don't let that hurt govern your years. Learn to pick yourself up, brush off the dirt and go on. Stop wondering and start living. The mere fact that you're asking this topic shows that you don't want to let go of the relationship just yet - therefore, forgive the guy. God will always find a way to separate us from the people that aren't good for us, and draw us to the ones He wants us to be with. Just go with the flow. Goodluck!
• Indonesia
3 Apr 10
for me, it's better have a second chance friend and know what's the like, than the one who looks perfect but you don't know their nature... they can stab your back, and that's hurt!
• Singapore
7 Apr 10
Actually, in order to forgive someone and forget the mistakes someone has done, we must first acknowledge our own imperfectness. Only then we will recognise that we also makes mistakes, whether in actions or in thoughts, so we may not be much better than the person. Therefore, we really have no right to judge on others but to accept others no matter how imperfect they have been. Ultimately, life is short.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
For me it is depend upon the person and his committed sins against me. If it is not much i'll give him the second chance even harder than that if i really love that person surely i'll give him. And if i was the who commit the sins against him I want him to give me also the second chance also. Let's give the seconds chance try for the sake of love and peace. Thanks and have a nice day!
@leasmom (101)
• Austria
2 Apr 10
For me it would totally depend upon what mistake that has been but in general I tend to be forgiving, all the more if i feel that it is worth it, i.e. the person deserves it. Of course it is hard if a person you have trusted disrespects this trust, but it always depends on what they have done.
@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
3 Apr 10
It's easier to hate than to forgive...The choice is all yours...To be honest, I can hardly ever forgive someone completely but I will forgive them if they apologize to me nicely.
@common_man (1799)
• India
2 Apr 10
Hi friend, you are right we are bound to make mistake and mistake made in relationship hurts a lot. If you see that significant half has realized the mistake and is showing signs of improvement , there is no harm in giving other chance, with extra caution. Do not try to remember the hurt, try to remember the good time you had in relationship. Actually it is our mind set that decides what we remember and what we forget. Have positive attitude, u can give second chance it may work! Happy mylotting
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Everyone deserves a second chance...Always remember that in a relationship it is impossible for us to create a perfect circle. We are bound to make mistakes, if one have sinned against you, do not close your door instead let the person make it up to you, it is difficult in the start but it is more difficult when you carry too much hate in your heart. Think about that like those who have hurt you, you can also inflict pain to others. It is ok to doubt, but doubting is like being coward & defensive, you are afraid of getting hurt again. In loving we should always be open to any possibilities that sometimes we can get hurt. Yes, it is easy to forgive than to forget, but in the art of forgiving we are not required to forget since there is no easy way to forget those who have inflicted pains in us. We forgive because we still give the person a space in our life where he/she can make up things, for them to correct the wrong.
@pwang41 (134)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
it really depends on you if giving the second chance is worth giving. you must take into consideration if you still love that person and that if you can still trust that person again. forgiveness is important in giving a second chance because that chance won't succeed if you still remember the mistake. ask yourself if you are willing to forgive the mistake. but before anything else, you must allow yourself to heal. because honestly, being hurt is not easy especially when the person who caused you pain is still visible in you eyes.
@werty009 (404)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
well giving someone a second chance means starting all over again you have to rebuild the trust again if made mistake and it affect your relationship second chance is the way of saying "ok let's start all over again"but doubt will play role on that second chance because you have to rebuild and earn it again the hard way.
• Italy
2 Apr 10
When you love, a second chance should be given. A third, a fourth too, if the person is important. Perhaps is difficult to forget, but forgiveness is a great quality.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I think there really is no absolute answer for this. It would depend on the persons involved and the situation. personally, i have given second chances, third and even fourth chances even, but those were on very minor situations. yes it is hard to forgive and forget, but I think if you really feel the person deserves that second chance, it will come sooner or later.