Damned if you do, and damned if you do not.

I'm over feeling sorry for folks. Actually was that way by the time I got here. Actually, if they are going to stay, they will read the rules. I've met people that just start and start and start, but never respond to those who respond to their discussions or to their friend's discussions - and that's not a friend. They can just go away.

hi ElicBxn me too , from now on let them figure it out or not, so what, its time for me to think of my own needs, I have seen those too who do not comment back, and it maKes you feel so odd. well anyway Happy Easter the sun is out and looks like a very pretty day here in Ca.

hi elicbxn from now on I will only suggest things to people who ask, I will not any longer suggest to those who do not want any help in the first place. its not any of my business except I felt it s sortof sad for people to keep losing their discussions.

hi paula yes indeed after all so many times a person sees someone about to lose a discussion then they are saying no one helps them here,well whynot just read the information in t he first place, I guess what makes sense to me does not to some other.okay let them find out or not,if they like not getting paid anything and getting discussions deleted and being notified well okay have fun. I am now sorry I was so damned honest about my age.

hi paula I know but some people here have accused me of fibbing about my age and no I never have fibbed about my age.I look elderly and am elderly but also young at heart. lately my adult son comes to ask me for advice 'which is amazing to me, I am usually the one asking him for advice. lollol

You shouldn't have to feel sorry for divulging your age...

mommygoo that was my big error I volunteered to help and only was looked at as scolding and a busybody and an old grandma, I'know its not American and good to be old, but people do grow old and I really cannot help my age. So now they will have to beg me for help as I will not tolerate being called insulting names at all. I do not have to , so will not offer help unless asked point blank. But I was not being any of the things you said,and I have not'been here five hundred years, there are others who have been here much longer. I just have big numbers because I am retired and have more time on my'hands than many people do. So yes I did report it as I feel we all should be respected in spite of our ages,young, old or in between.but from now on I will never offer advice. I have seen others do that here and they were not attacked so why me, because of my age of course. that is wrong.

I've seen people who are young get attacked too - one of the sites I was a regular at for almost 4 years was a pregnancy and due date forum. Many many of the regular posters were young - some of them much younger than me. I think one of the problems is that after someone is considered a 'regular' or 'long time user', they are comfortable at a site and know the social ettiquette there, whatever it happens to be. If you're at a site and you regularly go off topic with certain friends and it's not a big deal, and then a new person comes in and posts a discussion say... about kids' shoes, and when you do your normal off-topic 'hey margie, I bought connor the cutest shoes for easter blah blah' and the new person comes back and says 'huh? why are you talking about what you bought your kid?!' then you can obviously tell they aren't up to speed on how people communicate lol. There is nothing wrong with age, with it comes experience, right? I think all the time about how my daughter is now from the i-generation - iPod, iPhone, sheesh... iPad? She didn't know what a cassette tape was, a vhs movie, a vinyl record. We don't even have a turn table any more. She doesn't remember life without a microwave. She wouldn't know what to do with a rotary phone with a cord on it. If she couldn't turn on the tv or change the channel with a remote, she'd think the tv was broken. Being around longer is valuable because of how much life changes. I was kidding about the 500 years, people might accuse me of the same thing because I am very comfortable here. I've been random lately but once I get drawn in, I stay for awhile. I know your intentions are always good, you are a very sweet person and I enjoy most of my interactions with you. I'm just saying that for a brand new person, we here are ALL strangers, and it stands to reason that a new person might immediately take offense to any unsolicited advice just because most people wouldn't want a stranger saying 'hey, don't do that' or 'hey, do this instead'. Between acquaintances or definitely friends, things are taken in the best possible light, but when you don't know somebody, even the best intentions get muddled. I've seen several good friends and long time users point out things to newbies unsolicited and get ripped.... I have told them before that's WHY I don't do it. I'd rather let people bury themselves, dig their own graves, etc etc. It doesn't mean I don't notice when someone isn't doing things the right way, but I choose not to get involved any more. I have suggested someone read the TOS before, only because I think doing that will give someone MOST of what they need to know, after which none of us are responsible for their failure to comprehend what they read

hi celticeagle that was it exactly this person said well the others on here dont get mad just cause they get their responses deleted helping tell us the rules, now thats real help. I responded maybe they can afford to lose their earnings but I am not that well off financially and I am intelligent enough to think you are using me instead of doing the work of reading the rules yourself.,okay so he or she is angry with me, well shucks I am truly pissed off too. let them do this for themselves. go read the blasted rules.

hi celticeagle I do agree with you, as really if one would read the information for ones self it would really make better sense even if the person had to read it several times. what do some of the new ones want, us to rewrite the info and spoon feed it to them, is that not sort of lazy. Yes earning respect is always important and specially on here as well as in your daily doings.

Yes, I am highly against users. I just stand by what I believe and think if others don't like it they can punt. I got to the point years ago that certain things and people just aren't worth the air space and remember: respect is something people earn not deserve. Earning ones respect on here is just as important as in every day life.

hi opal26 yes we are sort of in a catch 22 situation, like me and my diabetes, I need to lose weight but my pills seem to keep it on,yet without my pills I cannot control my blood sugar.guess some things you just cannot win on. so let those who refuse to read the rules and want to be spoon fed, learn for themselves or not learn,up to them.

hi kprofgames Yes and the funny thing is they will not make any'money when their stuff is deleted, maybe they think my lot will still pay them but they do not. its funny how they come in here,refuse to learn the ropes then whine when they do not make any money. so they quit and tell others mylot is a scam. sad.

That really is sad, because in advice to newbies I have always explained to them that you get what you put in here. This site is definitely not a scam, it's excellent, but you don't get something for nothing, you have to be a good contributor.

yes indeed mommyboo it is sad as if they just used a little effort they would see why we all enjoy mylot so much. it is certainly not a scam and all of us mylotters can attest to that.

You did the right thing, let them learn on their own because if they won't listen to wisdom, then they will pay for their ignorance.

hi carmelanirel. yes I think its best too as they can either decide we are right and they should read the information for themselves, or they will keep on just ignoring it and give up. no skin off my nose as I did try to help and thats enough. no more.

hi carmelanirel I occasionally go back and read as they have made some changes, this particular newby did not like being told to read the rule, I was charged with being scolding and bossy etc called an insulting name and well I am just an old lady who has to be respected or else he or she would have, I got the message, so to heck with them let them ignore the ru les then whine because they got deleted and mylot did not pay them, so mylot is a scam blah blah. sick of it. there are plenty of quality discussions to respond to, why just get my responses deleted?

hi dawnald this made me thing of my dad. He had a really quick temper and I used to live in dread of ticking him off. so I learned to count to hundred at times just to keep from hearing him explode. lol lol I like your new avatar.

Technically it's my old avatar, but thanks!!!

yes, they do hurt. If only people would count to 10 and think before they post them...

hi cream97 yes I think some people can accept help and not feel you are bossing them, while others look at your suggestions of how to keep from losing discussions as just being mean and criticizing so best to let those find out for themselves. I will now only help if I am asked directly.

I don't blame you. People are so stubborn when they want to be. That is why some people have such a hard time in life because of their hard heads! If they took the time to follow effective advice, then they would not be in a bind. I am thankful that someone is helping me out and helping me from getting into serious trouble. You won't find people that care anymore, but you do. You are a blessing to others and it is a shame that they can't see it. But, I cream97, see it clearly as day.

thanks cream seems a shame that some will just keep on ignoring the 'rules and keep getting deleted, then fuss cause they did not make 'any money so they leave and tell others that mylot is a scam. sa.

bunnybon I offered suggestions that were not asked for and got thouroughly insulted due to my horrible age, so as far as I am 'concerned from now on I only give advice if some one wants it from a disgustingly old user. age seems to reign here as an element of disgust, must be we old ones should all just disappear.

hi bunny bon gess that idea got lost in their search to stay young forever, got news for them , there is no fountain of youth,he he

oh my. i hope not. im no young chick either. what ever happened to the idea we should be listened to because we are wiser?

hi leenie yes there is no reason for me any longer to offer suggestions unless someone actually asks me personally for help. to offer help when it seems unappreciate is just asking to be hurt and I do not need that specially now when I am not feeling all that great.

hi leeny feel like a new person this Easter, no more steroid pills this morning so blood sugar back down to normal yesterday it was 300 which made me feel just awful. anyway Happy Easter Leenie.

I am so sorry to hear that you are not doing well. Please take care of yourself. I wish you well. Leenie

happy Easter Kitty yes it good to help others, but evidently not when it was not asked for, and when they can look on my profile see my age then sneer at me.not feeling all that kindly right now, I have helped'but like most people I am human, I have feelings, and they were hurt. have enough troubles on my own, dont need any cyber space ones right now.

hi kitty yes sometimes you have to change tactics so for awhile I will cool it,after all I did not have to offer help when it was not asked so to heck with them. they will keep getting things deleted and finally give up then tell everyone mylot does not pay.sad.Happy Easter.

Hello my friend I know what you mean, you have to do what works for you, if you ever see me doing something that may cause me trouble please feel free to let me know I will always appreciate your help no matter what the case is, other than that heck with some of these ingrates, makes no sense for people to be so rude/ignorant Smoochesssss

hi ybong007 hope so as t hat wou ld be nice for a change. Happy Easter it is still E aster Sunday here in Ca USA

hi ybong007 like that user name he he.now its Monday morning here 8 am or close to it, just done with breakfast and still yawning.

It's monday here in the Philippines and it's the first working day after easter.

hi saphrina sorry I did make a retort and lost my temper which I am ashamed of but was so tired of being made fun of because I am no' longer young,as though all people past sixty should just curl up and die as one young person here once said. then I reported the person, butit did not make me feel any better. from now one unless someone pleads with me for any adice or help, no no more.

hi saphrina okay well do. okay no more about my age. thanks and Happy Easter.

Sweetie, never apologize. And i am glad you lost your temper. Something has to give eventually. And i never want to hear you say that about your age, okay. They have to remember without all of you here who help us to stay out of trouble, they would have been gone the first day they came to mylot. Now, smile and enjoy yourself. And if this happens again, call me. I need something like this to keep me on my toes. Enjoy. TATA.

hi saundyl Oh that is so irritating as why ask if you don't want an answer as time is precious to a lot of wo rking mylotters.And sometimes you really spell it all out, and get,I dont see what you mean. grrrrrrrr.

hi fwidman I did do that for a long time, but this one user' really did get to me, using that old saw about old women blah blah, well now I cannot really help the fact that I am elderly and I do fail to see what that had to do with'anything butif asked in a pleasant way I will again offer help.

hi fwidman I think he was looking in my profile and sought to anger and humilate me by focussing on my age and how he or she has to respect me otherwise the way he or she worded they would have gave me a poke on t he nose or something. I no longer care,over and done with, moving on so to speak. I never worry about the age of other users really.

I have no idea why our age or our gender has to do with anything. We are all simply users of this website and nothing more

hi dorannmwin yes it really is the best as so manytimes even if one doesnt mean too you come off sounding bossy and pushy.well after all you gave advice when it was not asked. some people just do not like that at all.and some really dont care even when griping about having their discussions deleted. Sad but true

hi bounce yes its so much easier and they either can sink or learn to swim. if they really want to continue here they will have to start making discussions that do not get deleted so it is really up to them as if they like the site they will get motivated to read the info they need.

thanks 13tyates I am so glad to hear that, and yes I will continue to help for anyonewho wants it. Just struck me the wrong way then too I was not feeling all that great today. Live and learn I guess. Happy Easter. good luck God bless.

hi again all done ranting, now to enjoy Easter Happy Easter and Happy mylotting too.

It is perfectly okay to feel that way sometimes because lots of people will frusturate you! Glad you will continue to help people if they need it! You too have a great and amazing Easter! God bless you too! Happy Mylotting!

hi auntie you really have the right idea, and thats so great as you will get along well, and will really enjoy mylotting too, I really'do love mylot myself as I am retired and its filled my empty retirement up so I have something to look forward to every day. good luck and God bless. happymylotting and welcome there.

hi Auntie you are most welcome.

Thanx for the welcome!