What do you do to calm your anger?

United States
April 4, 2010 3:31pm CST
i always try and hold it in but sometimes i just lash out.What do you do when you get angry or mad? I like to have a cup of water to clear that lump in my throat and i like to think about other things to hold my temperature down.
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@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
4 Apr 10
mmh to calm the anger mmh..you can break a door normally it will clam your anger..beh in some cases you should hav a door problem at home but he anger should be out from this place...
• United States
4 Apr 10
breaking a door would mean 100's of dollars worth paying afterward. i would like to suffer from my anger over paying lot's of money lol
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
8 Apr 10
Anger is much like a tightly-sealed, boiling pot. Steam builds under the lid, unable to escape, 'til finally--ka-BOOOM!!! If however, one leaves even a small gap so steam can continually escape--hey, no pressure, no ka-boom. It's much better to communicate in little ways when you realize you have a problem, communication to the other person that this or that behavior is upsetting you, than to "hold it in." Of course you "lash out" when you follow this "hold it in" pattern! You can't keep a lid sealed over rising anger--& the anger never really stops, or has a way to leave--so you get the explosion! Relax, come back to talk when your temper has gone, & calmly tell your friend how you feel, being sure to not use accusatory terms. Assume they hadn't realized they had upset you, or didn't understand how they had done so. It's quite possible they just never really understood how badly you felt. Before you do any of this, however, say a prayer that you can do things calmly, rationally, with grace & understanding. After all, it could very well be that your friend has problems he or she is also trying to keep at bay. I think you'll be gently surprised if you approach things this way. I used to be like you. I haven't hit "ka-boom" for decades, now! God bless! Maggiepie GOD IS LOVE. Love is never easy.
@Qaeyious (2357)
• United States
5 Apr 10
I have a passive anger problem. I don't explode at the time of the incident, but I hold grudges for decades. In my case, all the incidents are over and done with, and no problem is to be solved. I am just holding on to the anger for no purpose whatsoever. Something like that, I am learning to let it go, realizing that it has no value to me but something to eat away at my health. What are you being angry about? Is it inconsiderate strangers or family members? Encountering dangerous reckless drivers on the street? Different situations have different ways of handling. If the situation needs correction, it is best communicated calmly, for shouting only begets shouting (in my experience anyway.) If the person is only being a (fill in the blank with a word of your choice) sometimes the only solution is to realize there are people like that in the world, and everyone runs into them. Would it help to know that they will get a black eye or bloody nose one of these days for doing that to the wrong person?
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
6 Apr 10
play vedio games where you shot people that what i do, i will remove myself from where i am at if i can. i will go off and be alone
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
6 Apr 10
I generally hold it in. Rarely, do I ever lash out. I may spend a night or two or three before I finally confront the situation/person. By then I've had time to work up all my arguments, work through the frustration, calm down somewhat, etc.
• India
4 Apr 10
I am doing only one thing, go into garden and seting alone.taking deep breth ank thinking about my best time passed, geting happyness from all the sides.