How would you react if your partner accuses you?
By raynejasper
@raynejasper (2322)
Philippines
April 13, 2010 9:02pm CST
..hi fellows.. how would you react if your partner accused you of having an affair with somebody else? and how would you tackle the issue? In a relationship, we always say that love and trust is necessary.. however, those should be portrayed by both partners and if only one is ding that, then the relationship is rocky right?.. as if the situation is uncontrolled since you are not holding your partner's emotion and thinking.
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10 responses
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hi rayne!
When were accused of something that we didn't do, we surely get pissed of.Problems becomes very obvious between you and your partner. It really hurts when your accused of something that we did not do. WE, the accused should also realized that our partner should have seen something or got suspicious because we did something. Just ask what's the problem and sort it out. Trust and honesty is very important in a relationship...
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
..right.. he's the type of person who always wanted me to be home immediately after my office hours and he doesn't want me to socialize with my friends.. this is why I don't have constant friend.. and I really feel alone most of the time.. but he doesn't understand.. and I feel pity for myself.. of course, its very impossible for me to be home immediately after office hours.. sometimes, I do overtime and I tell him,but instead of believing me, he suspects more that I'm doing something bad.. I really feel bad right now.. I'm the breadwinner and its hard.. I'm tired doing my works in the office and when i got home, I will still be doing some of the house chores, and then I will be accused of such thing.. I'm really pissed off..
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
hI rayne!
Your husband doesn't have work, I assume. He's feeling really insecure and afraid to be left by you. I think communication between the two of you should be very best. He should understand what you are going through as you are to him. The only way you could do this is let each other understand that you are working for the family. Tell him that how could you find someone else? Is supporting the family not enough to show how much he means to you
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
..yeah.. that's what I did.. and he apologized.. I told him that I don't like to hear those accusations again when I'm doing my best to support the family.. thanks for all the posts.. it helped a lot..
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
I have been accused of my boyfriend that I am having someone else or that I am planning to break up with him. What I did i just let it go and ignore all his charges. He was annoyed and get irritated because I just ignored him. When he confronted me
i just told him that if I am doing I should not be here infront of you and talking to you. I should be away from you and you would never contacted me again. I should not keep on saying how much I love you every now and then. If I really cheated on you.
He was speechless and he think it over that I am right. He have those grudges because he saw my email that I have lots of invites from there and there. He was thinking that I am trying to communicate to someone to replace him. Duhhh...
He should have read the email so that he knows what I am doing. Stupid..
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
..that's what I really hate.. I was trying to explain that to my partner but he don't listen at all.. this is not the first time that he accused me of doing such bad thing.. So I just zipper my mouth and choose not to continue explaining.. he doesn't listen anyway.. thanks for your response..
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
If I'm being accused of somehing I didn't DO , that would piss me off. Otherwise, I''ll have to admit it, and say sorry, and mean it of course, and promise not to do it again - I'd be lucky enough to be given a second chance on this one. Anyway I've never really cheated on any of my exes. I'm always the one being cheated on :(
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
..what if he doesn't listen to you at all and insist that you have an affair even if you don't really have one?
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
14 Apr 10
hello
i am happily married for last 44 years, so there is no chance at all, but let me tell you in any kind of relationship trust and honesty is a must, there should not be any kind of hiding...
Thanks for this nice post, cheers 
God bless you. 
Prof
God bless you.
Prof
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@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
15 Apr 10
I feel irritated being accused on things I dont even do. It makes my head crazy explaining things.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Apr 10
Hi raynejasper,
Your right. Love and trust are very important in a relationship. If my partner asked me if I was having an affair then I would have to first ask them who they thought I was with and why in the world they thought that. If I was not cheating then it should not be too difficult to assure him that I was being faithful. I have dated a guy that was always, always convinced that something was going on with someone or other. If I talked to a guy, he thought we were having an affair. I broke it off with him. It was insulting after a while.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
I would be calm in telling and explaining
that I did not do it in real. Try to defend
myself why do youdo that for me, I guess the
one accusing is the doer of the action usually.
I will tell him , observe me, and do some investigation
so that your dirty mind can be cleared of the things
puzzled on your mind. I don't have to worry if I'm
doing it. If that is the case I will be the one to check
him up secretly cause the one that accusing will be the
one doing it. That's what I really know about it.
@jmservese (43)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
I would react the way how she accuses me. Its a matter of choice... You see no body accuses if nobody wants to be accused...
@stewartsquall (72)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
I would be shock if she did that. But I would ask her if she has or have an evidence that I'm having an affair with someone or are there any other witnesses so she can prove that I'm not telling the truth. You might say it's rocky but it still depends on the situation both party is on. Well everyone has it's on will.
