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What Could Be Expected In a BRIDAL SHOWER?

@neildc (17239)

Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

April 16, 2010 8:23am CST

Wife's niece is in town. She's a Filipino and have been in Canada for years. She found the man of her life and though they already got civilly married in the foreign land, they decided to have their church wedding here. And tomorrow will be the big day for both of them. Tonight (as by the time I have posted this, it is already 9 in the evening, Friday), her sister organized a Bridal Shower for her. And all the girls in the family is there to attend this, including my wife. So, I am here with the kids and made me think, "what could happen in the party?" I am just curious, of course, I am a man and I never had experienced what a bridal shower is, and even a stag party is unknown to me, what could be expected there? Does it need to have a stag party too for the groom when there is a bridal shower for the bride?

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@kaylachan (58890)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

16 Apr 10

I've been to a couple. The bride-to-be sometimes gets gifts, the girls talk, and it can vary from party to party. But think of it as a batulor party for women, but the woman has to save herself for her new man. basically.

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@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

so a bridal shower could also be like a bachelorette party for the bride to be? well, that seems to be what happened to last night's party.

@dawnald (85135)

• Shingle Springs, California

16 Apr 10

A bachelorette party might involve a visit to one of those clubs, but a bridal shower is just a nice little party with gifts and possibly party games.

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@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

i really thought that party was like that, but wife said when he got back home at 5 this morning, they actually made the bridal shower turned into a bachelorette party, sort of. they'd been in the bar (gay bar), disco and had lots of drinks with the bride.

@ANTIQUELADY (36440)

• United States

16 Apr 10

Bridal showers here are a nice time, u bring the bride gifts & just enjoy the company. Stag parties are another thing. I have heard of them getting quite out of control & the men doing things they shouldn't. I hope the shower went well & she got alot of nice things.

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

16 Apr 10

i heard something about the bride getting some good things, gifts, during the shower. but what could be a husband expecting from the wife attending the shower?

i mean, could he expect the wife to behave in the shower?

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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)

• United States

16 Apr 10

I don't think bridal showers ever turn out to wild like bachelor parties do or at least i have never heard of one being that way. I don't think u can compare the two things.

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@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

16 Apr 10

really? but i heard from hear just lately through text message that they are going to a gay bar. or she was just kidding me?

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@celticeagle (159903)

• Boise, Idaho

17 Apr 10

A bridal shower is for the wife to be ofcourse where her friends wish her well and give her little gifts she can use in her marriage. Nice longerie she might not buy for herself. The other women, if already wives themselves may bring her gifts of things they have found fun, interesting or enjoyed in their marriage. A stag party is usually the bachelorette party. Women take their friend out and they act irreverately for the last, maybe even the first in some cases, time in the singular life. Some go out and see scantally dressed men or a whole list of things.

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

19 Apr 10

thanks for sharing. well, i did not hear from my wife about gifts for the bride. wild night is what they had with lots of drinks, from the hotel to the bar to the disco pub.

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@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

19 Apr 10

yes friend, sounds like their last one.

@celticeagle (159903)

• Boise, Idaho

19 Apr 10

Sounds like a good party for what is supposed to be your last one. Hehehe

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@ybong007 (6643)

• Philippines

17 Apr 10

i only saw bridal showers or stag parties in the movies. its usually during these parties that the ladies on the gents will hve the good time before saying goodbye to it forever

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@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

yes ybong, i only see them in the movies. so that means, both of us did not experienced the stag party before we got wed?

if you are given a chance back, would you also like to have a stag party for you or a bridal shower for her?

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

that is actually what i was thinking last night, the feelings of knowing they are enjoying the dancers at the bar.

anyway, we are mature enough so we don't have to do things that would only make the situation worse.

@ybong007 (6643)

• Philippines

17 Apr 10

I don't think i would enjoy that kind of party. I don't think my wife would enjoy either. So even if given a chance i wouldn't come up with that kind of party. In the movies, the women usually hire a macho dancer to entertain them or the men hire a striptease dancer. I don't think i would enjoy thinking that they're all having a party with that macho dancer out there

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@cloud31 (5809)

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17 Apr 10

Hi neil, If given chance I will prefer to have bridal shower too, but not a stag party for him

.He will not think of anything about me about getting wild I 'm sure I will behave

lol.But I don't think he will behave if he had that stag party

,,kidding! well bridal shower or stag party is not necessary depends on partner's agreement.

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

i had no stag party or even a bridal shower for her before we got married. and yes, i don't think it is necessary though. but i think, the party itself is not organized by anyone of the two celebrants, i guess someone, say a sister or a friend, but not either of the two. of course, they are just additional expenses with the wedding proper.

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

better idea, cloud. but the bride is not having much problem with expenses since her big sister is helping her. good for them for having a better life in canada. unfortunately, the foreigner groom lost his job so the wife-to-be (well actually, the wife already since they are already legally married, civilly in alberta) shoulders the expenses. everything from their travel to wedding to reception. at least, there is big sister behind her, she came here about 5 days before the wedding, from canada.

@cloud31 (5809)

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17 Apr 10

Well,other may organized that both party but there's still a choice to attend or not to attend I guess,well for I'm not really fond doing so,why not just the organizer put it in cash

for the couple to use after their wedding

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@Lakota12 (42600)

• United States

12 May 10

well this hghas passed but with bridal shower she gets presents and then they party with men stag party and party and some times a naked woman jumps out of a cake or some other women dance and thing but men dont touch lololol

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@Lakota12 (42600)

• United States

14 May 10

I didnt eiterh!

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

14 May 10

i was thinking, they are much luckier now that they had this pre-wedding parties. in my time, i had none.

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@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

16 Apr 10

neildc they will have some lovely foods to eat then they'will shower the bride to be with a lot of lovely gifts, nothing horrible willhappen but they will laugh and have a lot of fun, it is not like the stupid s tag parties where the men get out of control and all. the women will just have fun.,

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

i thought, i thought, i thought that would only be like that. but they really brought the bride to that bar and a disco house and had lots of drinks. wife got back home at 5 in the morning.

@salonga (27775)

• Philippines

19 Apr 10

Hi! I'm late by two days in responding! Well by now you should already know that a bridal shower is. I've always enjoyed attending Bridal Shower. It thrills me to see the gifts of everyone to the bride to be. It is such as hilarious and enjoyable part. Well the most excited one of course is the bride-to-be. In our church we always make it a point to sponsor a bridal shower and stag party for couples who have decided to marry. We do it two one month before the marriage. It has always been an exciting and well attended events. We prepare foods, we prepare gifts, and we married women give pieces of advice to the bride which will help her in preparing for her married life.

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

19 Apr 10

well, actually i know what is a bridal shower, but i do not know how it is done. what could be the experience of the attendees and of course of the bride. i have seen them in the movies, but more of the stag party. and yes, i thought it will just be a simple party for the girls and all girls, could be a casual gathering. but the one they had last friday? oh, i thought they will behave. but yes, they got wild.

they almost turned the bridal shower into a stag party of their version.

tamarafireheart

@tamarafireheart (15384)

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17 Apr 10

Hi Neil, Well its all ladies together having fun, when I had mine we all went to the local pub and the men went to another, we made sure we didn't meet up with them, its a shame you are not going with the men, I am sure you won't want to be with the ladies either, LOL!! hugs. Tamara

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

17 Apr 10

of course, tamara, i won't be going with them in the pub, in the gay bar.

there was no party for the groom, bad guys.

@paula27661 (15811)

• Australia

19 Apr 10

It is unusual for the groom not to have a stag party, the guys generally love them! I had a bridal shower kind of party, we call them hen’s nights here. I went out to dinner with my girlfriends and went onto a club for a few drinks. I had my night at the same time my husband had his. We all had fun until I got home and found a message letting me know that my husband to be was at the ER getting his hand stitched up because he dived into a swimming pool during his bachelor party and there was a broken glass at the bottom of the pool. All was well once I collected him from the hospital!

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

19 Apr 10

that was too bad for your husband. well, i guess you both had good night out party that time, though the celebration was stopped with the accident.

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@eileenleyva (27562)

• Philippines

18 Apr 10

A bridal shower means the female family and friends showering the bride with gifts and gossip. Usually, the maid of honor or the bride's maid or the best friend arranges this party. There is a motif for the gifts, like bedroom gifts. So, the bride is showered with pillows, bedsheets, night table lamp, or even nightgowns. And the bride receive tips on how to handle her future husband.

With stag parties, the groom is roasted.

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

19 Apr 10

really?

but this time, our bride is the one roasted.

but all the girls enjoyed the party too.

@hexeduser22 (7253)

• Philippines

13 May 10

I'm also curious about this bridal shower thing. My girlfriend a bridal shower of her friend last month and I didn't ask what happened because I thought I might invade her privacy or she may think I don't trust her because you know what we always see in movies and other media about bridal showers. There is always a male dancer that provides entertainment to all the girls in the shower.

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

14 May 10

i agree with those we see in movies and other media. when my wife came back home, she told me everything what happened during the party. but she and the other girls told me not to talk about the party with the other boys and husbands. they thought there could be fights between partners if they know about the party.