Loving and caring for the wrong person

@Masmasika (1921)
Philippines
April 16, 2010 10:00am CST
Will you love a man or a woman who does not give importance to you and who takes you for granted? They say that love is blind and lovers cannot see but is it alright to love someone who does not love you in return? I believe that love is blind and lovers are often blinded by too much love so they often do not see the real thing. Perhaps I am one of the victims of the love is blind line. I was in loved with a man who left me and didn't give importance to the love I showed him. Share us your views regarding this matter.
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13 responses
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Hi, Masmasika. I may play the fool for a while, but sooner or later, I will wisen up in the end. I don't want to be with a man that takes me for granted. He will burn out all of my energy and he will make me wish that I have never met him! I have been in many relationships like this. And I have been mentally and emotionally hurt from being with someone that does not really care for me. They just wanted to have fun and play games and all. I may love him but I will leave him because I don't want to be any man's fool.
@cloud31 (5810)
16 Apr 10
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@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
That's right. and give him a jab in his eye so that he will learn a lesson. Just kidding but if you are into a relationship where the man takes you for granted, you could really be someone other than yourself. It really hurts and perhaps you are right in dumping the man.
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
i experience that case but i cant remember weren't day. and i never think that im also belong wrong way to give love at their person. i want to forget her but until now it will return and return to my mind. i hope someday i moved on to this accident that I've experience.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Try to forget her and move on with your life. You can find someone who is perhaps better than she is and you will be happy.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
thank you to your advise. i hope as soon as possible forget her and moved on.
@ifa225 (11093)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 10
Hello masmasika, I am sorry to hear about that. Yeah we know that it is not worth to love someone that not loves you back. But sometimes we can't understand the feelings inside. Actually we don't want it, but we don't know why we still do it. If that happens, then i just find my friends to cheer me up and give me some nice words. And make me believe that there would be a prince come to me.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Good. Do that so that you will not hurt that bad when Mr. Prince comes to you. Good luck.
@kharlav (1672)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes, I can still love a man who doesn't love me back. That's what love is all about. To love unconditionally so to love even if the other party doesn't love you back. But in a relationship, it takes two to have a relationship and not just one. In a relationship, you could still love a person even if you are not loved back, but one day, the person loving will get tired of making so much effort, until she will be willing to let him go. For me, loving should make a good decision on what to do in a relationship, whether to let go or not. Letting go also means love, because to love is to give freedom. And to love means wanting the other party happiness. If the other party, doesn't love you back and is not happy anymore, then show him your love by letting him go. But then again, letting go is so difficult to do.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
They say that love is not conditional, not selfish, not choosy but there are times when the heart that loves gets tired.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Love should be given unconditionally, that is what God, Himself teaches us to do. Unconditional love should be given freely either we are loved or we are not loved back. I know it is quite hard at time to think about it, why would you love someone who have caused you pain and never appreciated the love that you have given but then what is important is that you loved and you have shared that love with others.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes, loving is unconditional but if it is unrequited time will come when love fades and changes to hatred.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
if love you someone then you give all you can to glorify him but instead he give to suffering and hurt-ached until he left you. i should say he does not deserve to our love., love-hurts but that's the truth. and what is the most painful in love? is that when you love a person then he never love you back.. maybe his not the right guy for you.., don't hesitate to love, until time will come the right guy come unto you. when or where? only time can tell..
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
I think that's the best thing for people to do, they should not stop loving even if they get hurt because somewhere out there, they could find true love.
@kaylachan (4775)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Apr 10
Love is a very complex emotion. A person can love without even realizing it, but quite often a person feels something and assumes its love when in reality its not really love as much as they want it to be. So put up with things they shouldn't.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Love is really that confusing. Sigh.... sigh...
@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
16 Apr 10
Masmasika, As much as we all believe that Love must indeed come naturally, our 'Self' component must provide the fertile ground for such natural occurrence to manifest into reality. This 'Self' component, namely our personality and what steps we take to render ourselves more socially desirable, not merely in the physical sense, but also as a person emotionally, psychologically and spiritually positive. Some people decides that Love will come naturally, say, after school days. But I can tell you from a sociological perspective, with the elimination of a socializing agent, such as a school compound, your social circle should get smaller unless steps are taken to ensure that it doesn't. And again with the law of probability, your chances, naturally, get worst because, like you have found out, people are either attached/married or their psycho graphic is entirely off the chart. I say, invest more time in yourself and simultaneously develop your social circle. And learn to eliminate odds from your heart - not being attached does NOT suggest that something is wrong with you. It simply means that you have to develop yourself more in a wholesome sense, so that the attraction can take place when you have work on that 'Self' component. Take care and have a nice day.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Great advice and thoughts to ponder. Thanks.
@cloud31 (5810)
16 Apr 10
Sometimes it happened when you really felt in love even you know its wrong but you can still can't move out from it,because love is overwhelming,so when you shown that you care they were taking your feelings for granted,but we have to learned from that,you will know exactly how he felt towards you, so think about,does he deserve your love?It is worth to waste your tears,care and love for him? Now his gone,move on with your life,don't hold on to the past but start a new beginning . Heres a word for you: We have to go through countless transitions,within we have to learn how to let things go,farewell to the last stage before experiencing the next,when you lose,don't lose the lesson. Good day and happy myLotting!
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes, moving on with life is the only way by which one could forget a sad past. Thanks.
@ztobias (21)
• China
16 Apr 10
What is love, i mean what is really love. Perhaps this is a question that confusing too many people. i thought love is no need to be two-way, if you love someone, just keep it in your mind, and lock it in the memory, needn't care about if he or her loves you as you did. Each one of us is just a passenger who walk in and out our life, sometimes they give us happiness, sometimes the pains, whatever it is, they teach us a lesson, a lesson about life. There's no such so-called perpetual, or everlasting love. When the end comes, the only thing you can hold is your memories. Love is no more than a feeling, you felt it, you touched it, you experienced it and you remembered it...that's enough.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes, love is really confusing so if you let it rule your head you will end up the loser. But there is always a lesson to be had. Thanks
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
The thing in love is that we don't ask anything in return. If we love someone we should always be all out. but when the time comes your not good for one another you should learn to let go. Cause sometimes loving is letting go.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
You are right. We should love without asking for something in return. Thanks.
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Love isn't blind girl, it sees but it doesn't mind.I had the same experience as yous. I was in love with a guy who can't love me in return and worst, he doesn't value me as his lover. I broke up with him and I should say that I wasn't ready for that decision but I have to because I want to offer a bit respect for myself since he's not willing to give his respect to me. I hope you'll realize in time that you have a life and if he can't love you in return, find somebody else who can before it gets more worst.
@sasalove (1710)
• China
17 Apr 10
I think there is no right or wrong in love. We may have blind date, but not blind love. Sometimes you may feel you love the wrong guy, but I think there is sparkling thing in him at that time. The sparkling point might be his appearance, his figure or his charming personality. You broke up with him just because he is not suitable for you. You finally understand the love while you experienced different kind of love. It is a little like we learn how to ride bicycle through falling down.