Mother or father? Who were you more close with growing up?

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@jeeyah (1092)
Philippines
April 17, 2010 10:27am CST
As you were (or still are) growing up, who were you more close with and why? Share some stuff that made you close with each other. Memories, stories, etc. :)
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@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I grew up being closer to my mother since my father is somewhat harsh when we were still young. I guess the best memory I have in my childhood with my mother is when I asked her to buy a pizza that I haven't tried yet and she told me not to buy it because it's expensive and looks not that delicious but since I'm persistent to have the pizza, she bought it just for me to be satisfied and eventually realized that she's right. In the end I said sorry to her and she simply smiled and hug me saying "it's fine"
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Aww, I was touched by your story even though it was just simple. I really love how mothers can be like that. :)
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• Philippines
17 Apr 10
i grew more close with my mother.i was known as a mamas boy.when im still young, whatever i want to buy,my mother will do all those things so that she can afford to buy me those things. im not close with my father we quarell alot
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I guess I'm the same with you, but my mom doesn't buy me things. Lol. I'm just cloesr to her I guess because my dad and I also fight a lot.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
18 Apr 10
When I was young i was closer to mum however in my teens i was not close with anybody of them. When I got married I felt closer to my father than to my mum. He is more understanding and I can understand his line of reasoning better.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
20 Apr 10
When I was a teenager I disliked all about my father LOL Now that I am maturing I am realising that we have a lot in common whether I like it or not.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Aww, now I have a feeling that your situation will be my situation someday. But I just don't like communicating with him, so yea. Haha
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I guess teens really have a tendency to stray away from their parents. Lol. I wonder if that'll happen to me when I get married, because I've always disliked my father's philosophy in life. Oh well.
@bestylish (922)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
I am closer to my father. i am more of a daddy's girl. I get along with my father more than my mother.
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Aww, good for you. :) As for me, I'm not okay with my father or we don't talk often, so yea. I guess I don't like him that much, but he's still my father so yea.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
17 Apr 10
I love my father 99.9999% and I love my mother 99.9998%
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• China
17 Apr 10
Hi, jeeyah. As far as I recall, I spent more time with my mom than with my dad. Because he was too busy at work. He always got home late at night, while I had to go to school early in the morning, sometimes we hardly met on weekdays. But I love them both the same. :) Happy myLotting!
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Aww, that's the common problem families are encountering nowadays, lack of time for each other. At least your mom was there, and wasn't as busy as your dad. :)
@Dumpertaker (1187)
17 Apr 10
I was closer to my mom...but that was because my father abused me.
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I guess that's one of the reasons why I'm closer to my mom. My dad and I had a rough relationship when I was still younger, so yea. :|
@ElicBxn (63491)
• United States
18 Apr 10
I was closer to my mom, I still am, well, dad's gone, but even when he was alive I was closer to mom but I'm sorry, not in the mood to share right now - headache - something else I got from my dad...
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
18 Apr 10
i was much closer to my mom growing up, she would listen to my problmes and always get my dad to undestand what i was feeling. plus when i was bully she never told me to ignore it, or tell me it didnt hurt. instead it was go out and try to kick some butt if they hit you. she tought me to stand up for myself. but now since she had passed, me and my dad are pretty close finally after years. but i am also now close to my step mom, but we call her our other mothers
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I could only count with one hand all the times that I shared my problems with my mom. Yes, I'm close to her, but I guess I never had the guts to tell her my problems because I knew she wouldn't understand. And most of the time, she would shrug me off because she's busy doing house chores. But despite that, I'm still closer to her than my father because I really never talk with my father about stuff. We're awkward towards each other, so yea. It's good that your mother taught how to stand up for yourself. I can tell that she raised you right. And it's also nice that you're also closer now with your dad and your step mom, although the cost of it was your mother's passing. :/
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
i am much closer to my mother than to my father..My father seems to be very strict and disciplinarian little errors, small faults he just punished us his kids to the max as if we commit big sins. but now i understand why he is doing it..he just want us to grow with love and compassion to manking, to be a responsible daughter for them.. My mom are always there at my side comforting me everytime i cry.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Aww, that's just sad. But at least you understood why he did that. And I guess that's what most moms are for :)
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 10
Both, I guess. But when I was a baby, my father was away for three months for short-course from the World Bank, in Montreal, Canada.My dad traveled a lot at that time. My dad almost left a few weeks before I was born, but it was canceled. He went a month after I was born. That`s what my mom told me. Thanks God, my parents are still alive and they live in happy marriage for almost 40 years.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
Aww, good thing your dad came back and managed to establish a close relationship with you, as well. You are lucky to have parents who are still happily together after all those years, and who are both relatively close to you.
• China
18 Apr 10
Oh,it's easy for me to give a answer.I am surely closer to my mother.I just feel most daughters are much closer to mothers.Actually,I had a rather bad relatonship with my father .Well, now I have already grown up, and the relationship between my father and me has some change but I am still closer to my father .
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
My dad and I also had/have a bad relationship, but now that I'm entering college, it's getting better. I guess because I made him more proud with a lot of stuff, so yea.
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
i grew up closer to my mother than my father.. but i also love my father of course. but now, i miss my dad more than my mom because we didnt have much time when i was a kid...
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Is he still alive? Then maybe it's not too late to spend more time with him now. :)
@ytinummi (57)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
This made me stop and think for a while, kinda recalling whether I was closer to my mom or my dad. I suppose I'm closer to my dad even when I spent lesser time with him, because I get to talk to him more than my mom. Kinda bizarre but I guess that's how it really is with some kids.
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
It's good that you got to talk with your dad. My parents and I don't talk too often about stuff, but when I do talk, it's usually with my mom. :/
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I am more close to my mother. Ever since I was really really young, she was the one really close to me. Every time I get in and out of the house, we always kiss. And every time she gets in and out of the house, we kiss. We always hug and kiss each other. My father was close to me when I was a kid, but when I became a teenager, we're not close anymore.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I guess we're pretty much the same. I also kiss my mom whenever I leave or when she leaves, as for my father, it's awkward. My father and I used to be close, until I turned 7 and got a younger sister. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing!
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Hello jeeyah, I would ahve to closer to my dad. He was always doing somethijng flying his airplaines remote control or building them or helicopters. He like watching the same tv shows as the us when we growing up. He tooks to places where he flew airplanes. He took us on his Gems shows he had his own buisness and let us girls help type up the orders for money etc.. gas for the car etc.. or stuff envelopes and stamp them yukiing 1000's of envelopes to be done in weekend. I did not like that one. He took us to concerts on classical music and had huge sterio system to listen to his records. My mom did not like those records. She like her big band records and sports. Dad was into sports. He did like swimming and playing basketball with us. Thanks and have a great day Sincerley Unique16
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Thank you for sharing how it was like with your dad! You're very lucky to have those kinds of experiences. :)
• India
27 Apr 10
When i was a kid, i was always close to my father.I always said as a kid that i love my father more than my mother.But as i went through adolescence and now as an adult, I am much more close to my mother.May be because I am a girl she understands me better.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I guess that's how things usually are with daughters and parents. As a kid, you become a "daddy's girl", and when you grow older, you'll eventually realize that your mom can understand you more.