Whatever you do, don't ever use me for your own advantages.
By saphrina
@saphrina (31551)
South Africa
April 18, 2010 1:03pm CST
I am a nice person, even if i have to say so myself. I love helping people. I give advice, listen when you have problems. Hell, i will even dry your tears if i have to. But one thing i cannot stand, is when people use me to get what they want in life. So please, whatever you do, never use me, that will not be a very good idea. TATA.
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
I am sad to know that my B... for now I am mad at that person... some personal friends I guess, am I right? Well, I could not understand why there are some people who uses other person too for their benefit... I do not know if they would bear to hear their conscience blaming them... for now, I would pray that you are fine despite of that... be safe my B... always take good care of yourselves... keep away to those people who would frustrate you, it will help you a lot... stick to friends who are true to you ...
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
You don't know how I miss you too my B... I hope you are fine now, aren't you?... and look, I made you blush first...
... and look, I made you blush first...1 person likes this
that i can promise you.
I really missed you, you know. Personal friends no. But i have someone working on that.
@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
19 Apr 10
I am not certainly using anyone!
And I too don't like to be used, except by some people :)
Let's see the opposite end. There are some people who want to be used... be a selfless creature.
Wishes.
And I too don't like to be used, except by some people :)
Let's see the opposite end. There are some people who want to be used... be a selfless creature.
Wishes.@vandana7 (102698)
• India
19 Apr 10
@saphrina - note what he says "...except by some people" 
@hora_fugit, I think getting used by anybody - whether you like or not - is bad! Doing something for somebody because that person praises you or needs you (which incidentally is an ego trip) and not because you actually want to do it is funny! That praise can also be transformed into back biting or reproach if for any valid reason you are not able to do what that person wants! At times it may mean that the person who was praising may turn towards somebody else as well. I think that sort of thing sets us up for sadness, disappointment, and disillusionment. I would never do that! Do what you like doing, without harming or hurting anybody. Do because it gives you pleasure, and because you can afford it. Sorry - I think I said a bit too much I think. :) Hope you can treat this as an advise from an elderly person. :)
@hora_fugit, I think getting used by anybody - whether you like or not - is bad! Doing something for somebody because that person praises you or needs you (which incidentally is an ego trip) and not because you actually want to do it is funny! That praise can also be transformed into back biting or reproach if for any valid reason you are not able to do what that person wants! At times it may mean that the person who was praising may turn towards somebody else as well. I think that sort of thing sets us up for sadness, disappointment, and disillusionment. I would never do that! Do what you like doing, without harming or hurting anybody. Do because it gives you pleasure, and because you can afford it. Sorry - I think I said a bit too much I think. :) Hope you can treat this as an advise from an elderly person. :)1 person likes this
So you eventually got of your butt.
@cloud31 (5808)
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18 Apr 10
Hi saph,
Taking person for granted and over using her/him for your own sake is not really good,person who normally do that will be a foul to a friendship,what they want might not be a friendship they just want something for themselves and no way of getting it but you,so they're coming closer to you.And after they finally get what they want they will just leave you behind..
take care and sweet goodnight my angel
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.take care and sweet goodnight my angel.1 person likes this
@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Hi cloud, I am stalking both of you since before, you are a good friend to saphrina, I can say that...
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
19 Apr 10
Yes, using someone for our advantages is very bad..If they want common ask me straight but don't do at the back..I have not experienced till now..but I have seen it with my friends..If anything happened to me then..I will take it very seriously...and not let them go..
@thealexsan2010 (91)
• India
18 Apr 10
hi saphrina,
may i know what your meaning from it?
Thank you
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
I hope you find it pretty my friend thea... welcome to mylot...
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
19 Apr 10
Hi, friend. I understand the feelings of being taken advantage of, especially by someone we trust. It really hurts a lot. Though most of us mean to be sincere to others, there are people out there who will use others for advantage to achieve whatever purpose they have. They show indifference to others' feelings and only care about their own interests. When they have no other choices, they choose to sacrifice others' interest to benefit themselves. I hate such people and never want to be friends with them. I really fear that i might some day be used by them unknowingly.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
2 May 10
saphrina I hear you loud and clear and want to say that I never do
that to any of my friends or to anyone else for that matter. I hate
myself to be used by someone just for their own purposes.It is a shame that so many really nice people find themselves being taken advantage of by so called friends, but of course they are not real friends at all.I
also like to help people but have just about given up on helping newbies as one really really insulted me and that just was the last straw.He called me some unnice names and I minused him for that then reported his remarks and mylot saw fit to delete his responses to me.
to me.@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
2 May 10
Hello sweetie. Yes, people can be such nasty buggers and then they want to be your friend, to top that. Idiots. But in any way, next time please let me know if you find one of those nasties again.
I don't mind sorting them out. It keeps me young and spunky you know. Thanx. TATA.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Hey saphrina! I'm with you! I absolutely hate being used! And I
mean by anyone, especially those that are supposed to be my
friends! I also love helping people that are in need, but don't
use me! If you don't really need my help or really don't need
help don't bother me! I am always ready to help those in need,
but if you are going to "play" me then stay far away because if
I find out that you are just in it to use me then you are going
to be sorry! I am only interested in helping those that are really
in "need"! All others can just take a flying leap!
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
19 Apr 10
Hi sweetie, you are a good friend, worth your weight in gold. I definitely wouldnt "use" you. The word is so cruel! It feels like using some tissue. You dont qualify for that treatment sweetie! And if anybody does that to you, just say so! I will be there by your side.
@langjipingzong (981)
• China
19 Apr 10
Hi,saphrina.I think I can understand what you said cause sometimes I have the same feelings.To help others can make me happy while being used makes me upset.Well, what I most unacceptabe is betrayal,then it should be "being sold also count money for seller."
