reduction of mutual understanding

I think people usually go through a 'honeymoon stage' when first inlove and then you might fall into a rutt. A person might take another one for granted and these errors of judgement can cause alot of problems and hurt feelings. Unless you communicate well and awful you may be lost.

I can only make guesses for you, but before anything else, I'd like to say I'm sorry to hear about your situation. My theory is, it could be that, even though you two have truly been in love before, now matter how real the love was or is, you two are just not that compatible for each other, as husband and wife. Seriously, that's what I believe in. I could be wrong I know, but I do know that compatibility plays such a big role in marriage and is therefore very important, perhaps a good indicator of how long a relatioinship/marriage will last. It's quite different when you two were still dating probably because you didn't live under the same roof, inside the same house, share the same bedroom. And parts of your personality or yourselves were still hidden from each other -- meaning, it's only when you got married and lived together that you two have come to know each othe that well.

Its all how we give importance to the relation, after marriage, many responisibilities come in and that makes the attraction go less. But the boundless love without expectation can make it strong

courtship is a time approach. so it is not possible, show an attitude that no attention. if you're dating is usually very much attention. attention may even exceed the limit. it was all done because they want to be with, and to smooth relations. after marriage, reduced attention may be due to a heavy burden to bear, such as the need for a living, or trying to please