High School Reunion??? After 20 years??? What should I do???[em]cry[/em][em]sad[

Philippines
April 22, 2010 1:46pm CST
I have a big dilemma, not that big, but I was wondering if I should attend my High School Reunion. I wasn't that popular back in high school, because I transfered there in my senior year. And I was the chubby girl, shy and from another country who had language difficulties, so it made me not to open to my classmates. And some, I know were kind of making fun of me, especially the popular girls...lol But these past year, I got in touch with a few of my classmates. Thanks to friendster and facebook. But, I don't feel like I fit in. I am very thankful that they included me in the alumni group. But I really dread to attend the reunion. Although, some said I was very nice in high school and I had many friends. ~I was surprised really.~ It wouldn't be difficult for me to be there. hmmm... I doubt. I just don't know really. I want to attend. See them, to catch up on what's new in their life. But I don't want to exchange awkward smiles and abysmal silence. I know my insecurities are kicking in, because one, I am not that pretty, has gained more weight and is separated. What can I contribute to the conversation? Except that I am taking another degree in college. I don't know what should I do? (^^,)
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5 responses
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
23 Apr 10
Hi dearie! It's been a while that we are talking. I know you are busy with studies but you are always on my mind. I didn't go to our reunion last time. I did suffer from some kind of complex that's hard to explain here. It had to do with my status, my progression in life and especially it had to do with ultra rich people who I hadn't liked ever. But now, I have grown out of it and the reason I did not attend it was because of the fact that my friends were not attending and I am not that close with the rest who were. Also, it was on a day when I was occupied with hospital job which others think as an excuse. But I do not mind. All I can say, if you don't ant to go - just do not and if you want just go. And trust me you are so beautiful and people love you, they really do. Even for a few people who would like your presence just make it. You will feel good. Do not think about the past because you never know the same people have put on more weight than you have!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Apr 10
Hi sweet heart! You are always on my mind and trust me I just love you. Do let us know about the reunion and just pep up to deck you for the day. I agree with your sister there. When is it btw? And thanks for your advice, I had a good appraisal and it feels so good when patients find comfort in our office. ALL for you. And yes the sanitizers and medicines are helping a lot.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Hi my dear Mimpy! I am so happy you had a good appraisal and patients love the changes. The reunion is on May 22. And I got listed coming eventhough I haven't confirmed yet. Seems like someone there really wants to see me. LOL...And yes, I will prepare myself for it. And if they find me huge..so be it..hehehe..I can't change just to please them right. I will keep you posted on what happened. But I really hope I will have a great time. You're really a true friend. (^^,)
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
Hi my sweet gorgeous Mimpi!!! Yes, it's been a while since the last time we talked. How is the changes in your office? Did it worked? You got to give free medicines and hand sanitizer..etc..I am sure your boss is so happy. You should be awarded the best employee of all time. Thank you for responding to my discussion ha. The first one I think after a year..lol...And I really thank you for seeing me as a beautiful person. I hope that I can shine through to them to if ever I get to attend. I made a few steps today. Replied in the forum post about our high school reunion, and so far, I haven't read any negative comment. My sister too, told me I should go and I have one month to lose a bit of weight to prepare for it... I will try to go. I hope that my progression to in life will not be viewed by them as kinda of slow. I am also trying to ask others who is going, because if only, persons I don't like will go. I might not go to. But, hearing from you and the others, that they experienced the same dilemma. It is very comforting. Thank you my dear Mimpi! Beyond the miles, I can say you are a true friend! Thank you for you endless support! It means a lot! (^^,)
@GardenGerty (157671)
• United States
23 Apr 10
If you want to go to some part of the events, go, but leave yourself an imaginary out, or a real one. Go, with plans to be somewhere else at some point in the evening. I think we all have insecurities.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Hmmm...The invitation stated that it was a party from 3pm onward, and no excuses will be accepted for not staying because it was said in advance. And in our high school forum post, no husband, no kids, lol..so no excuses to go home early..lol..Yeah a bit extreme, but it shows their enthusiasm for the reunion. Their post were kind of funny. But yes, I also thought about a good excuse to get out if ever I didn't enjoy the party. Thank you GardenGerty and I am happy to see you. I have been away from mylot and I am always happy to see that I still have some friends here even if most of the others seems not active anymore.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Apr 10
I didn't go to mine, but anybody I wanted to see wasn't going either. If you know people are going that you would actually talk to, I'd go, otherwise not.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 10
I am trying to see who is going and then if I have one sure friend who is going too. I might consider..lol..well, I don't know yet, but now I read all the comments here. I feel funny that I am so woried about it.(^^,) Thank you for your response Dawnald.
@cbjones (1147)
• United States
22 Apr 10
Seems like you would be welcomed with open arms if you were to attend. Why not go? It'll give you a chance to see some of this mystery friends you didn't even know you had at the time, face to face.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 10
That's a good point, it will give me a chance to know them. Hopefully I have a lot to meet. lol Friends and not enemies.lol..thank you Cbjones!(^^,)
@portisray (503)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
We recently had our high school reunion and I should say that it was a well-deserved and worth of my time attending that kind of occasion. It's just a once in a lifetime opportunity for us to catch up with our classmates and talk about what happened to us through the years since our high school time... At first I am hesitant to attend our reunion because I am a bummer... I do not have anything to brag about my working profession... Even though I graduated college... But then, who cares? I'm still here alive and when I showed up an hour late, they screamed and shouted my name... I feel like they really miss me even if I'm not that popular during our high school years. Insecurities eh? One of my former classmates showed up and he is still fat...I mean he's too much chubby before but now he doubled his weight...it doesn't matter and we don't care.... Separated? Several of my classmates too! We also had an award the most "productive" in our batch... I mean productive meaning bearing 4 children in 15 years we hadn't see each other... We are all grown ups now... More mature and knows how to handle a situation that is awkward for us to talk about.. Unlike when we were in high school, childish or immature... Thanks also to facebook... they search and found me and just in time 2 months before the scheduled date... If you do attend, wear a little make up... I'm whispering in open/close parentheses ( because I have to tell you several of my pretty classmates before are now look "losyang" meaning, look a granny in English am I right? hehe... if they do not wear make up....) and dress smart... Oh! Am I being exaggerated about telling you this? lol... Always smile even if your a little awkward... Well, at least you smiled hehe... Do not frown or just stare in their face... So there...attend your reunion.. I'm not gonna say you will regret it if you didn't attend but its your decision...
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