Should I do something about it or not?
@MagicalBubbles (5103)
Canada
April 22, 2010 5:52pm CST
Hubby is retiring Friday, tomorrow. After 35 yrs working at the same place, suddenly its over. He works from 2pm till 11pm for the Quebec L*iquor Board. He works in a store and during the evening, they're usually only 2 or 3 people but in the day until 6PM or 9PM on Thursdays and Fridays, they can be anywhere from 10 to 20 people in the store. He's in charge in the evening and he's the one locking the store when they leave.
Tomorrow evening will be his last one and I know that usually the people working with him leave before he does so he can turn the alarm system on. I hate the idea of him having to walk out all alone. He has high blood pressure and had a stroke 4 yrs ago (he's ok, no side effects). I know he's stressed out over this even though he says it doesnt and he jokes about it.
Ive worked there myself and I know most of the people. One of the guys usually will drop by during the evening while taking his evening walk. Should I call him and ask him to be there at 11Pm when hubby finishes work so he wont be alone or should I mind my own business?
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Apr 10
Hi! I suppose it depends on whether or not this guy can keep your conversation with him to himself. You know what I mean? If he is tactful and diplomatic he could just "turn up" anyway and not let on you have rang him.
I would definitely ring him though...and I find it sweet that you care about your hubby so much.
Good luck!
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
Well he's nice to me, so I can only love him for it lol.
Oh I know this guy wont say a word, he's very discreet. Well I'll call him this evening then and I'll ask him.
Thanks for helping me out!!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Apr 10
You're most welcome my friend. Let me know what happens...I'm sure everything will be fine.
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
Well turns out that this guy called me to let me know that they're all planning on going back at 11pm as a surprise. Its great, I know he's going to love it. Well I feel so much better now knowing they will take care of him!!
@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
They will probably have a little party for him and send him home in a cab. But just in case and if you are concerned than have his co-worker be there when he closes and walk him home. It could be a very traumatic last evening of work. I know it would be for me.
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
He drives to work, as for the party, it happened last night, they took him out for dinner. He doesnt drink because of his blood pressure medication.
It seems they'll all be there to see him off when he finishes working at 11PM. His boss told him last night that today he didnt want him to work but just walk around and talk with everybody, he said he deserves to have one day of being lazy!!
Yes it could be traumatic and thats why im SO happy they'll all be there to see him off.
Thank you !!
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@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
23 Apr 10
They sound like very thoughtful co workers.
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@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
Well from your discussion magic, it sounds like he has done this before, many times.
Just because it is his last day, which when retiring is a huge deal but none the less, I do not think that you need to call the other employee out for his evening walk. Although a nice gesture would be to maybe surprise your husband tonight when he gets off. Just be there for him to see him out of his position for the last time.
I do not feel that he is in an remote danger, if that is why you thought that someone maybe should be there.
Being his last night however, it would be nice to have someone see him out, even if it is yourself. May mean a lot to him!
Congrats to your husband and enjoy the retirement celebrations.
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
24 Apr 10
I understand then the idea of having someone there. It is a big deal, his last shift of his job he has had for so long now.
I am almost positive that his co workers will see him off with a smile, on his face too.
It may take time but he will get over it, eventually, Perhaps he will feel he has a new lease on life..
My Mom retired almost ten years ago and she still missing nursing.
It was a hard transition after the initial excitement wore off.
I hope that your husband takes it all in stride and adjusts well.
You are right, now you are the lucky one to have him with you but you with him also.
Enjoy!
@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
No he's never done this before. He's been working there all his life for 35 yrs. Im not afraid of the danger of him walking out alone at night, it was more the fact that its his last time leaving that place to never go back again. It can be traumatic for some men.
Turns out that all the employees will be there to surprise him when he finishes. So im really happy about that. OF course I'll be waiting for him and listen to all he has to say. He sure talked a lot last night about the dinner they had for him haha. He is well loved at work. He's always in a happy mood and always joking around. Now i'll be the lucky one to have him with me.
Thank you!!
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Hi, MagicalBubbles. Is it possible if you can meet your husband before 11 p.m.? If not, then ask one of the guys to be around during the time when he is about to get off from work. I think that would be fine. I understand that you don't want anything to happen to your husband, and there is nothing wrong with that. I hope that you will be able to find someone that will look out for your husband when he gets off from work.
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
Hi cream, someone called me to let me know that all the employees will go back at 11pm to be there when he comes out and surprise him. So he wont be alone. Im really happy they'll all be there.
Thank you !!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
24 Apr 10
I think if you can get this gentleman to do this and have him explain that both of you agreed this was a great idea on you'r Hubbys' last night, a kind of celebration Hubby may be a little surprised but if the intent is clear to him how can he not accept it as intended?
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
26 Apr 10
I didnt have to ask them to do anything, they decided to on their own. They all went back at 11Pm to see him off. He was very happy and I was too!!
Thanks
@reckon21 (3477)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Women intuition is strong an seldom misses. In your topic you seemed to be worrying about your hubby's health state because he suffered stroke 4 years ago. If you really are worried then talk to that guy and maybe he will be helpful enough to accompany your hubby so that he wont be alone since it will be his lats day and I think this guy can give a visit to your hubby and make things okay.
People with heart problems should never be alone because if their heart problems suddenly comes up then no one will be around o help them. It will be a fatal situation.
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
26 Apr 10
Yes I was worried about his health and I usually follow my intuition. It turns out that they all went back at 11PM to see him off, so he wasnt alone. He came home all excited and happy carrying balloons haha! Im really happy it ended up that way.
Thanks!
@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Make it a celebration, send a few treats with hubby, and pass the word to his co workers. Then it will not really be suspicious when the one guy comes to walk out with him. You just do it because you love him.
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
It seems that they all thought about it. This guy called me to let me know they'll all be there at 11Pm when he finishes working. He called to let me know he might be home a bit late as they will probably all want to say goodbye. They should be around 20 to see him off. Phew, I feel so much better now. They must have read my mind haha!
Thanks!! PS: I always make treats for him and of course enough so he can share!
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@ada8may21 (2404)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Hello good day!!!
First I would like to congratulate your husband for retiring from his job after 35 yrs of working. It's great accomplishment for me.
Since it would be his last shift in that company. It would be great idea if you would go with him. Why not join him in his last shift in that company. Rather than call someone to be with him.
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
Hello !!
I know he'd want to thank you for the good wishes.
I wont have to go, someone called me to let me know that they will all go back at 11Pm to see him off. So he wont be alone, he'll be with his friends.
Thank you and have a nice day!
