Facebook Issue: Having crushes on a old friend /change of status
By webgirl01
@webgirl01 (689)
United States
April 23, 2010 2:43am CST
Hello there MyLotters,
There's this old friend that i knew back in high school and junior high. he's also my friend on facebook. I know i used to talk to him during high school and junior high but we aren't close of friends, just friends that say hi and what's up and chat for few minutes. However, I have a crush this guy but it sucks that communication is the problem and i'm not really an outgoing person for him to talk to me or vice versa. I do go to his facebook to see pictures of him or new pictures especially if its a new female friend or so. There's one that I thought that he's currently dating or has a relationship with. However, he hasn't put status to in a relationship on facebook until i found out on facebook thursday april 22 afternoon. And it shocked me that he's in a relationship with this girl....since i've seen frequent pics of him and her on facebook.
I'm hurt but i dunno. I feel sad though. I was hoping there would be a way sometime to talk to him or get to know him like how that girl got to get him. lol. I'm not in much of a cheerful mood since i'm trying to hide my emotions. I feel more blah and sad because of this. I'm still okay and happy but at same time more blah and sad.
It also sucks that he doesn't respond to any messages that i post on his wall once in awhile. He
only responds to certain friends of his that he probably regularly talk to or just picks on who he feels like responding to. I do feel like it sucks, i never hear from him even though we are friends on facebook and that i knew him since high school years and junior high.
Is it bad to go on his page too often just to look at pics of his? I do love looking at his profile and go there once in awhile but i'm being careful.
What are your thoughts of this? Anything I should do?
Also i've also been talking to certain psychics about crushes about this guy i like. And they say that i will in this year of 2010 in the early month of jan and feb or march that the guy that i like will be forward to me and that i will hear from him. But you know what? those fortunes didn't come as it is.. I dunno but i still really like that guy.....i feel like giving up on love and focusing on myself. and I dunno why i like this certain guy i'm worrying about eventhough he has a g/f already as status appears on facebook.
Let me know your thoughts. Like to hear your experiences and stories.
I hope to hear from you guys.
PS: i'm hiding my some feelings of disappointment along with being worried about a certain person whom i know on facebook, defriended/blocked me...I'm trying not be a whiner of this but sometimes i cry about this....sorry that this is lame to worry about..lol. but i know its just a facebook..
-webgirl01
4 responses
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
23 Apr 10
Hey girl,
I feel for you. And I agree with motivated81. When I was in primary school, I had such a crush on this guy but he was not interested in me but my friend. I remember feeling so hurt and jealous whenever I saw him talking to my friend. So you know what I did? I went looking for a bf. I set my attention on another guy, and when I started dating this guy, i found that the guy i had a crush on stopped having such a strong effect on me.
I know it isn't easy, but he does have a relationship with this girl, and I think you need to respect that. Put yourself in her shoes. Imagine you have this bf and some girl you don't know kept messaging him to get his attention. Imagine that your bf now starts liking this other girl. How would you feel. Don't put that girl through the same thing.
All I can say is that you had your chance to talk to him, but unfortunately, you didn't take it. so you can't blame the other girl for that. My advice, is to get him out of your system and set your eyes on someone else. Who know, while you're so focused on this guy, there's another cute guy who's trying to get your attention but you're too focused on this other guy to notice it.
All the best, girl!
Oh and by the way, stop with the psychics and fortune tellers... the cannot tell you anything you don't already know!
@motivated81 (38)
• United States
23 Apr 10
O I know I had lots of crush in high school and I searched for them on facebook to see if I can see them again and befriend them. There i something though about the net that will make others braver than they are in person, its much easier to start a conversation and steer it in the direction you want it to go to find out stuff about them like if they are single and if they liked you etc. As for you webgirl01, there are plenty of guys out there and I believe things happen for a reason, don't lose any sleep over it, he could be a total loser in person or maybe treat u like crap in the future if you were to get together, try and get him out of your system somehow.
@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Hi Webgirl. Well, I think it is natural for you to look at his profile because you like him. If I were in that same situation, I'd probably do that and be sort of jealous, too, to be honest.
I've never been in that situation though, so I honestly don't know what I'm gonna do if that happened to me. But I suggest that you let go of your feelings for him. To be honest, it's an advice that I wouldn't be doing myself because of those strong feelings, LOL. But you know, to keep you from hurting, maybe you should really let go and divert your attention to other guys, LOL. I don't know if this will help, but I hope you're fine. Best of luck. 
I've never been in that situation though, so I honestly don't know what I'm gonna do if that happened to me. But I suggest that you let go of your feelings for him. To be honest, it's an advice that I wouldn't be doing myself because of those strong feelings, LOL. But you know, to keep you from hurting, maybe you should really let go and divert your attention to other guys, LOL. I don't know if this will help, but I hope you're fine. Best of luck. 
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Hey, I've been in your situation of liking someone but doesn't like you back and don't know how to get his attention and make him fall in love with you many times. I know how you feel girl. I don't know what to say to you, if its right to say that never give up on him or just stop this foolishness. He might overlook your message or didn't like to respond at all. But I guess, you just don't give up on messaging him, who knows maybe sooner he will respond to it. Its ok to view his profile, its free right as long as you're not block to view his profile. I see your very into that guy but so sad that he like other women and the worse he's having a relationship. Just don't give up ok, but be careful cause there is a possibility that he's gf have an access to his account and might read all your messages to him. Just be careful my friend. Goodluck to you!
